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  • If you've read up on Japanese table manners you'll realize that most people generally say

  • the same things. The problem is that some of these "rules" are not always followed in

  • Japan, and in some cases Japanese people have never even heard of them!

  • So today I'm going to go over a couple of these outdated rules,

  • as well as a lot of other things.

  • Now I'll never be able to cover every situation, so what I'm going to talk

  • about is what's common in normal, everyday situations with your friends co-workers,

  • or host family.

  • I'll start with meal preparation.

  • If you have your purse with you you should never set it on the table.

  • The floor is considered very dirty in Japan, even though they don't wear

  • their shoes inside.

  • Since your purse sits on the floor, it's inappropriate to set it on the table.

  • It's okay to place on a chair or the floor, though.

  • If you're homestaying, the family may ask you to help prepare the meal or

  • set the table.

  • As is common in most places most people don't care about proper place-setting.

  • Just make sure to place each family member's chopsticks at their usual seat.

  • Also, it's not unusual for Japanese people eat their meal without drinking

  • anything, either, so don't be surprised if they don't want anything to drink.

  • In that case they're probably waiting until after the meal for tea.

  • In Japan, if it's not practical for everyone's meals to be served at the

  • same time, they may ask you to starting eating first so that your food doesn't

  • get cold.

  • This happens frequently in restaurants, where food is typically brought out as it's

  • made and not altogether.

  • Before you begin eating, at home or at a restaurant,

  • you should say "itadakimasu".

  • some people put their hands together in a praying motion but this isn't always

  • necessary.

  • At the end of the meal you should say "gochisousama deshita".

  • If someone took you out to the restaurant,

  • you should say "gochisousama deshita" either once everyone has finished

  • eating, or once the meal has been paid for.

  • While eating your chopsticks should go in your right hand,

  • and small bowls or plates, like rice, soups, side dishes, etc,

  • should be held in your left hand

  • with your thumb on the edge of the bowl, and your four fingers underneath.

  • Bring the bowl up to your mouth while you eat so the food does not drop onto the table.

  • It's considered bad manners to bend your head down to your plate.

  • That way of eating is said to resemble a dog.

  • Many meals will have a shared dish that everyone eats from.

  • Traditional rules say that you should use the back end of your chopsticks to

  • take food from this dish since it's the most sanitary,

  • but in reality most people don't actually do this.

  • Whether you should do this or not will really depend on people you're with.

  • In fact, if the main meal is nabe, which is a pot dish,

  • some families may dump their bowls back into the nabe pot at the end of the meal

  • and then use the remaining sauce for a meal the next day.

  • But don't worry! If your host family does this they shouldn't ask you to eat it,

  • and if they do they will probably be understanding if you decline.

  • As for eating sushi!

  • There are many types of sushi, but the two most familiar to Westerners are

  • sushi rolls and nigiri.

  • Nigiri is rice, called shari, and a topping, called neta.

  • When eating nigiri, traditional rules say to dip only the neta in soy sauce.

  • However, these days no one really cares how you dip it in soy sauce.

  • Shari first? That's fine!

  • In fact, at some modern restaurants, they will ask you to conserve soy sauce by

  • pouring it directly onto the sushi.

  • This is the case at my favorite kaiten-zushi, or

  • conveyor belt sushi restaurant, Sushiro.

  • Traditional rules say you should eat sushi in one bite.

  • However, if your mouth simply is not big enough to eat the whole thing at once,

  • it's fine.

  • you can either cut in half of your chopsticks, or just bite half of it off.

  • It's more rude to shove too much food in your mouth,

  • so don't force yourself to eat the whole thing at once!

  • If you don't think you can bite it off without making a mess

  • and if you're not good at cutting things with your chopsticks,

  • you can try my method, which is using both hands.

  • Whenever you use both your hands with chopsticks it's considered a bit childish.

  • But if you're not in a formal setting,

  • or since you're a foreigner it's usually not a big deal.

  • Poking through your food with chopsticks is also considered really childish,

  • so do your best to try to pick them up even if it's really slippery.

  • Burping in Japan is considered extremely rude.

  • If you have a runny nose you should leave the room to blow it.

  • Men will often snort or sniff to avoid having to blow their nose.

  • It's pretty gross, especially when you're trying to eat, but they'll do it anyway so

  • don't be surprised.

  • So, what do you do if you don't like the food your family made for you?

  • Well unfortunately you're in a really tough spot, because it's very rude to not eat the

  • food someone made for you.

  • If someone is inviting you over for a meal,

  • they'll probably work out the main dish with you beforehand so they don't accidentally

  • make something you hate.

  • However, what if you're homestaying and your family's making normal meals every day?

  • Well, to be honest you should really do your best to eat it.

  • If you have a food you absolutely cannot eat, it would probably be best to find a

  • good time to mention it to them before they accidentally make it.

  • If you absolutely cannot confront them with a food that really kills you

  • then you can also consider telling them that you're allergic.

  • It's not ideal but it is done from time to time.

  • Other tricks coming from someone who is a picky eater:

  • Do your best to eat as much as you can and then say you're too full to finish.

  • It's not THAT rude to not finish a meal, if it's just an occasional occurrence.

  • If you're with a friend you can also try to work out having them finish your food

  • for you. For example, if I can't finish my meal, my husband will eat it for me.

  • I also always give him my mushrooms.

  • Or, if you absolutely have to refuse you can say

  • "sumimasen, chotto (food name) wa nigate de"

  • Which roughly translates to,

  • "I'm sorry. About this food, I can't really..."

  • Oh, and don't worry! No Japanese person is going to expect you to eat natto!

  • No matter what you shouldn't give your host family a whole list of foods you don't like

  • because this will give them a really negative image of you.

  • Being picky about anything here is bad,

  • and it's especially rude to inconvience others with your food preferences.

  • Eventually they'll come to view you as someone who always complains about things,

  • which is one of the worst things you can do about your image in Japan!

  • But, as always, it's okay to make mistakes because we all do!

  • And if you're not sure what rules apply with the people you're with, just ask!

  • If there are any other table manners you're curious about, or if you have any

  • comments or questions, leave them in the comment section below!

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