Name: Quiz: Are You Being Too Nice? (Self Check Test)
Uploaded: 2025-06-18T11:23:32.000Z
Duration: 8 min 2 s
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Ever wonder if you're too nice for your own good?

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Kindness is a beautiful trait, but when it's too much or used for the wrong reasons, it can leave you drained, resentful, and even lost in your own life.

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In one of our latest videos, the dark side of kindness, we explored the hidden costs of being too kind, how it often stems from past experiences and how to shift toward a healthier, more balanced form of kindness.

If you haven't seen it yet, definitely check it out after this.

Now, think of this quiz as a gentle check-in, a chance to pause, reflect, and ask yourself, am I truly being kind or am I afraid not to be?

If you've ever felt drained, taken advantage of, or guilty for setting boundaries, this quiz might be just what you need to help you recognize the patterns and reconnect with your own needs.

So grab a pen, open your notes app, or just keep scoring your head.

Okay, number one, do you ever feel guilty for setting a boundary, saying no, or just needing a little space?

Question two, when someone asks for a favor and you're already overwhelmed, do you say yes anyway and then stress about how you'll manage it all?

Question three, do you find yourself apologizing for things that aren't really your fault, just to keep the peace?

Question four, have you ever stayed quiet about something that hurt you just to avoid conflict?

Question five, do you catch yourself overexplaining or apologizing too much just to make sure everything's okay?

Question six, do you sometimes feel resentful but then feel bad for feeling that way?

Question seven, when someone's upset, is your first instinct to blame yourself or drop everything to make it better, even if it has nothing to do with you?

Question eight, do you ever think, if I don't help, they'll think I'm selfish?

Or maybe if I give more, they'll finally appreciate me?

Do you downplay your own needs or struggles because someone else might have it worse?

And question 10, if someone's upset with you or doesn't like you, does it eat at you until you try to fix it, even when it's not your fault?

Tally up your answers and take a deep breath.

This is just a gentle reflection to help you understand yourself a little better.

If you got zero to 10 points, you're the grounded giver.

You have a strong sense of empathy, but you've also learned how to balance your kindness with self-respect.

You probably know how to say no when you need to and can offer support without losing yourself in the process.

It likely took time and self-awareness to get there.

Keep checking in with yourself and honoring your needs.

Healthy kindness isn't about giving everything.

It's about giving freely without guilt or fear. 11 to 20 points.

You have a big heart and a genuine desire to help others, but sometimes you may lose sight of your own needs.

Perhaps you've internalized the idea that your worth comes from being needed or making sure everyone else is okay.

The truth is, your kindness is invaluable, but so are you.

You often carry the weight of everyone else's emotions on your shoulders and feel guilty for saying no, worrying you'll be seen as selfish.

You might even feel invisible sometimes because it's always you taking care of others' needs, but never the other way around.

And underneath it all might be a quiet fear.

What if I'm only lovable when I'm useful?

Hey, many sensitive people develop this pattern because keeping others happy felt like the safest way to feel loved or valued.

It's okay to feel conflicted about saying no.

The key is learning to balance your natural compassion with self-compassion.

What beliefs or experiences led you to put others before yourself?

How can you practice self-compassion and start nurturing your own needs too?

Maybe take this as a sign to start listening to your own voice.

You deserve care too, not just for what you give others, but for simply being you.

All right, if you got 21 to 30 points, you're the kindness chameleon.

I know it can be hard to check in with ourselves sometimes.

If your score is in this range, it means you've mastered the art of shape-shifting to meet everyone else's needs, no matter how much it costs you.

You anticipate what others want before they say a word.

You shrink yourself to keep the peace, overextend to feel valued, and say yes, even when every part of you is screaming, please, no.

Your kindness is powerful, but it's easy to lose touch with your own needs while taking care of everyone else's.

Recognizing this pattern is the first step toward creating a healthier balance.

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