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I'm William Hanson, an etiquette coach, and I'm here to answer the internet's burning etiquette questions.

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At Dolly Marole asks, I always do my best to have good table etiquette, but I still genuinely do not understand the no elbows on the table rule.

The no elbows on the table rule goes back to the medieval times in Europe where they were eating from trestle tables.

They would put these benches out with sheets of wood on top.

If you put your elbows on the table, the table would tip and the food would go everywhere and obviously that's not very good etiquette.

And so it became the etiquette to not put your elbows on the table.

We do really still abide by the no elbows on the table rule because I think it looks really ugly.

At Quellinks is saying, what's the proper way to stir the tea, clockwise or anticlockwise?

Great question, and the answer is neither.

Instead, we stir in a back and forth 6-12, 6-12 motion, gently flicking the teaspoon at the top of the cup, not banging around like that, thank you very much.

Set it back in line with the handle and enjoy.

R.G. Meister is asking, actually f*** this site, I'm learning how to cut cheese for charcuterie.

Here comes our cheese selection, thank you.

You don't want to take the best bit of the cheese for yourself, and the best bit of the cheese, cheeses that are made in the round, is the nose of the cheese, and on this blue cheese here, that would be this bit.

So we wouldn't cut like so, because you'd be taking the creamiest bit for yourself and that's not good manners.

Instead, we are going to cut down, keeping the original shape, and then we replace that cheese on our individual plates.

We have a question now from Joe P. E. Haley, how do you eat your peas?

Excellent question, cue the peas, thank you so much.

Just ordered this plate of peas from the nearest available tin.

In really casual dining that might be permissible, but in more formal dining we're going to use both the fork and the knife.

Some people do this, I think this is more difficult to keep those peas balanced.

It's much better to just spear them onto the tines of your fork and eat like so.

And the etiquette man is asking, is cheersing or clinking your glass on the table proper etiquette?

Ugh, so many people do it, but it's not actually correct.

In formal dining, you're drinking from fine glassware that's expensively made and if you do start smashing your glasses together, you're going to hear the clink of glass all over the floor and that'll somewhat ruin the meal.

We have a tweet from at Shelly Lahey, no, but why should we care about etiquette like who the f**k cares about which fork goes where?

They've put in block capitals, clearly have strong opinions on this.

If you are a user of earth, then you need etiquette and manners.

Predominantly what I'm focusing on today is Western British American etiquette.

At Droovy Modi 10 is saying, who even decides table etiquette?

Like I'll keep the fork however I want without giving some secret message on whether I like the food or not.

Okay, so there is some etiquette fake news that does the rounds on social media.

There is a graphic showing the different positions to put your cutlery in based on whether you liked the food or not, whether you're ready for a second plate.

The only positions you put your cutlery in when they're not being held in your hand is to indicate that you are resting or if you are finished.

When we're resting, the cutlery goes like so.

When we're finished, in Britain, we would put the cutlery together, but in other parts of the world, that might be at a slight angle and in France, the fork might be turned over.

That is what the waiting staff are looking for.

Atwaseem NYC is asking, is it ever okay to interrupt someone in a conversation?

And if it is okay, which it isn't, when is it an appropriate time?

I mean, look, if they're on fire, then you might perhaps need to say, can I just stop you there?

But note to everyone else, a conversation is meant to be like a game of tennis.

You're not meant to hold the ball and not let it go.

At Virgin Radio Toronto are asking, is it wrong to taste a bottle of wine at a restaurant and then send it back because you don't like it?

Well, the restaurant are going to love you because you're going to be paying for the first bottle and the second bottle.

The only reason, thank you, that you can send something back is because there is a problem with the wine because it is caught and that's where there's been a problem in the storage process.

And by the time you get the wine to about here, you will know that it is caught.

How TF do you eat a big ass burger in a non grotesque way?

So instead, you're going to deconstruct it first with your knife and fork.

Take the top of the bun off and then cut a little bit and then eat like so.

At Richard Bicknays is asking, what fork etiquette do you use?

I'm sure I'd get roasted in Europe for my very American knife and fork etiquette.

In Britain, when we're using a knife and fork together, they are both held at the same time.

We obviously don't put the knife anywhere near our mouth and the food is conveyed via the fork.

And in Britain, the tines of the fork, the prongs always face downwards.

Now, in America, they will start like this, cut a little bit of food, place the knife down on the edge of the plate, turn the fork over, stab and eat, pick up the knife, cut another little bit of food.

So we don't suggest eating like that in Britain.

But of course, in America, it's perfectly correct if that's how they wish to eat.

Mr. Rickson is saying that according to etiquette expert Emily Post, there are three proper ways to eat spaghetti.

Well, Emily Post wrote her book in America at the turn of the 20th century.

Now, I don't know about the etiquette back then, but I didn't think there were three ways to eat spaghetti.

It is just eaten with the fork upturned in the dominant hand.

You go in from the edge of your spaghetti, twist and make a neat little parcel, and then eat like so.

At lolitslaurence says, what is the worst etiquette sin ever?

If you do not say please, thank you and sorry, as a human being walking on this earth, then you should be put into etiquette room 101 and the key should be thrown away.

Those are the absolute basic fundamental things of being a human being.

Do they know the etiquette in France is to arrive 15 minutes late at the host's house so they can prepare on time?

This is a really interesting one and I think one that is changing with different generations.

So in Britain and in France and several other countries, it did used to be the etiquette that you never arrived on time to someone's house for a dinner.

So if I said to you come for 7.30, you would turn up at 7.40, maybe 7.45.

However I think millennials and Gen Z now are slightly panicked if their guests are not there at the time they have said.