Name: How Long Have They Dated? Expert Body Language Analysis | WIRED
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Modal verbs - A2

Present continuous

She put her purse next to the guy, so she's coming closer towards his proximity.

Gerund

Putting an object near somebody would not be happening on a first date.

And a trust signal too, because it's her wallet.

These three body language experts will watch these five couples going on dates.

Can they guess accurately how long these couples have been dating based only on their body language?

What is intriguing to me is on footage one, the bag is on her chair.

And she's very close, there's a lot of close behavior.

And the guy as well doesn't look very comfortable.

So I would have to actually disagree with you that we're seeing discomfort in number one.

She's crossing her arms and making herself small, yes.

But she's also mirroring her partner who's doing the same.

I think that they're actually really comfortable in each other's space.

In number one, she is covering her ventral side.

He's sort of stoic with his arms crossed.

And I would want to look at more information.

Trying to discern from a video how long people have known each other, how long they've dated.

Any behavior that you see at any moment is really driven by context.

Number five was interesting because they were so animated.

And they seem to be in tune with each other.

Though they've not actually physically touched, we can see there's a lot of closeness.

One of the most well-supported indicators of interpersonal closeness is the degree of nonverbal mimicry between partners.

I want to see how close people get to each other, how comfortable they are in each other's space.

They lean towards each other and they're smiling at the same time.

Kind of like a movement dance going on the whole time.

When you see a lot of mirroring behaviors, you tend to think, okay, they've been together for quite a while.

What I'm seeing here with number three is a direct contrast.

My strategy would be to really focus on the details.

What are they doing with their hands, doing with their gestures?

Maybe they will touch objects to pacify themselves.

But that was a very specific behavior that stood out, that she grabbed the table like that.

To me, that could be a comfortable moment.

I see the man here, he's doing a lot with his hands.

When I look at their legs, especially the woman here, her legs are tucked underneath her body and wrapped together.

She's not feeling negative so much because we're seeing some smiles here.

But in the lower body, I am seeing some discomfort that this might be the first date.

This is a direct contrast to what we're seeing in number two.

Rather than withdrawing into themselves, they're actually taking up each other's space very comfortably.

This maybe isn't a long-term marriage because there seems to be a lot of flirting going on, which does tend to die off as their relationship ages because there's less need to show attraction.

We're seeing lots of kind of coy smiles here on number four.

The opposite side, we see some finger-picking.

When people are trait-anxious rather than dispositionally anxious, you see lots of picking of the fingers.

The person on the right, they still have their hands low between the legs.

And even though the person on the left has both moved back and forward, there was no reciprocity.

In other words, we usually, if somebody smiles, we smile.

Reciprocity says, I really enjoy what we're doing here, but we're not seeing that.

Now this could be because one person has attraction and one doesn't.

Or maybe one person is feeling negative towards the other and the other is trying to get that person to engage.

All we can really tell from this is that there is an asymmetry here in feelings towards one another.

She may be trying to draw her out and her mind is somewhere else.

With number one, they are interacting, but they have a bit of a bigger distance.

They haven't really changed their positions that much.

Fluidity of action often speaks of high comfort.

If you notice, other couples have moved in and out of different positions.

It is very unusual to remain in the same position for this long.

So I'm just wondering if they're nervous around each other, if they're reluctant to move around too much.

What we just saw was, I would say, very intimate behavior.

She's taking the napkin and she's giving it to him.

While they're eating, she's taking care of him.

So definitely a longer relationship than a first date.

It's getting more and more interesting at number five, because there's a lot of flirting going on, I would say.

There's a little bit of a, you could say, courting maybe going on.

What's interesting about number one is that we're seeing negative emotion, but we're not seeing any attempt to engage, which would suggest it probably isn't a first date.

And it probably is negative emotion rather than nervousness.

Because when I contrast this to number three, I see similar signs.

But in number three, I am seeing a lot of nervous displays.

We can see her chest going up and down quite a lot.

The emotion's positive, but we're seeing that discomfort at the same time.

Okay, that's definitely a very important thing that we just saw.

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