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known. If we are not wholly convinced of our own lovability, receiving affection can appear
We now suspect that anyone who is sweet must be deluded, for identifying in us a lovability that we don't recognise in ourselves.
Especially if you're someone who was told at a young age that your lovability is tied up in external factors like achievement, your body's aesthetic, or your lack of boundaries.
If we aren't totally convinced of our own lovability, another person's affections could be a bit unnerving.
Love can be hard to receive when we're not fundamentally convinced of our own lovability.
We can interpret their love not as a sign of their delusion or weakness, but as evidence of an inherent lovability in ourselves to which our past histories have blinded us, yet to which their love and tenderness can now awaken us.
An ideal, compassionate figure, at the start, would've known never to equate lovability with perfection.