Name: 3 Things I Wish I Knew Before Having Sex
Uploaded: 2018-04-03T10:12:15.000Z
Duration: 3 min 33 s
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I'm a 28 year old woman who just read this book, and holy shit! [Hallelujah-music]

because, when my parents gave me the 'talk',

[piano music starts] - Anna-kay, we need to have the talk with you.

- Oh, no. No, I don't want any fucking part of that

I know it's very scary and you probably have a lot of confusing feelings

And questions about what to do, and how it works. I just want you to know,

if you have a sex before you are married...

- So, I went into my sexual awakening only with the knowledge that I had from anime porn,

reading my mom's romance novels and the few articles that were up on the Internet.

[Hallelujah-music and sound of early routers]

- Okay, so let's get to the information, right? Here are the three things that that book taught me that I wish I knew about sex

One - arousal concordance: Even though you may be mentally aroused, your body may not match up.

According to sexual studies, men only get an erection 50% of the time that they're mentally aroused.

So when I'm turned on, my body only complies with the correct sexual response 10% of the time.

I mean TMI, I'm always, like, self-conscious of being dry, even if I'm very turned on,

because you're told that the amount of lubrication your body produces is an indicator of how aroused you are.

So, if my body doesn't line up with how I feel, I keep feeling like there's something wrong with me.

And the book puts a very big emphasis that lube is your friend. Make lube a lifelong friend

Two -  not experiencing orgasm from penetration is

In fact how far the clitoris is from the vaginal

canal, is a big predictor of whether or not you'll be able to orgasm from intercourse alone.

but it's just science and my body's physical limitations. Rejoice ladies with clits far away from their vaginal canal,

we are inhibited by factors out of our control.

It may sound obvious, but not all people can actually experience

spontaneous desire. You know, I'm someone who can easily put myself in the context of like wanting to be intimate,

but some people simply need to create an environment to let desire emerge.

I used to feel like really rejected or disheartened if my partner didn't want me when I wanted them,

and this book outlines not only the different ways people get aroused, but all the factors that influence that arousal and how you can manipulate

them for your own benefit.  As a whole, the book just basically reassured me that I am normal and all these misconceptions

that I've had about sex since middle school were completely addressed, because in sex ed you're kind of taught one approach to sex

- Okay, class. Dicks, they're just like bananas, okay?

So all you need to know is, you can just open them up,

Don't - there's no sponsored message because no one wants to sponsor this.