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Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business
and a life that you love. You know, recently I came across this quote from Mr. Chuck Swindoll
and it really lit me up. Now, it’s something that I’ve heard before but for whatever
reason this time it really sank in.
He says, “Life is 10% what happens to me, and 90% how I react to it.”
Pretty powerful, right? Because the fact is that things happen to us each and every day
that we have no control over. I mean, planes get delayed, we get sick, the internet goes
out in the midst of a huge project, we lose businesses, we lose jobs, and, unfortunately,
we lose people that we love.
Our lives radically change often at times whether we want them to or not. And ultimately,
the impact that any outside situation has on your life depends on how you react or respond to it.
So let’s go back to this quote one more time. “Life is 10% what happens to me, and
90% how I react to it.” That means that as a factor of how your life goes and how
good it is, what happens to you is this tiny little sliver of your life pie. (Life pie)
I wanted to share this here because I believe that this is one of those major life lessons,
one of those critical truths that if you really, really get it, it can radically alter the quality
and the trajectory of your life. I mean, it can save your business, it can save your marriage,
it can be the difference between failure and success in pretty much any endeavor and ultimately
whether or not you reach your highest potential. Now, this idea is something that I personally
am always working on getting better at, and today I wanted to share 3 ways that you could
bring this rule to life, especially when the shiitake hits the fan.
Number one is hold that tongue. When I’m fired up and I am in reaction mode, I have
to hold my tongue. I need to give myself a chance to really feel what I’m feeling,
to actually process what’s happening, and think through my response. Otherwise if I
react and let that fired up Jersey girl out immediately, chances are I’m gonna make
what should be a minor situation into a big, hot, fat mess.
That is why I’m such a huge fan of meditation. Meditation really gives you the power to be
less reactive in life. You’re gonna have more control over your ability to chill out
and hold your tongue so when you’re ready you can actually respond more thoughtfully
and appropriately.
Number two is check yourself. So a simple practice when something unexpected happens
in life and you are tempted to freak out is to stop and check yourself.
Ask, “Am I ok in this moment? Am I breathing? Is my heart beating? Is the ground still underneath
my feet?”
If you can say yes to all three, that means you are really ok right now and in some ways
now is all there is. So for me if I get penne on a brand new white comforter or I get a
flat tire on the way to the airport or if I get a text that my dad is in the hospital,
before I freak out and react to what’s happening around me, I really try and practice and stop
and ask myself, “Am I ok in this moment?” And so far, thankfully, the answer has always
been yes. And when I’m ok in this moment, my responses to whatever is happening come
from a much more grounded and effective place.
Number three: say, “And this is what I want.” So I learned this little mantra from my man
Josh and it’s something that he says often in his Committed Impulse class, specifically
when he’s making you do these crazy squats up on your tippy toes that make your legs
shake uncontrollably.
One caveat, this tool is super effective for pretty much everything besides tragedy level
events. I’m talking about traffic jams and tech trouble and lost credit cards and stuff
like that. It doesn't really apply to those heartbreaking and devastating events that
all of us have to face in our life. But saying, “and this is what I want,” either out
loud or in your head is a really effective way to reframe what you consider negative
or out of your control. So for example, there’s drilling outside my house and I’ve got to
write all day, and this is what I want. Or it’s raining on my wedding day, and this is what I want.
This little mantra trains your brain to fully embrace whatever is happening in each moment
and really own it as though you wanted it, which puts you in complete control of that
magical 90% of your life pie.
So I want to wrap up today with a great passage from our friend Chuck Swindoll that really
brings this idea home.
“Attitude is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education,
money, circumstances, than failures and success, than what other people think, say, or do.
It is more important than appearance, ability, or skill. It will make or break a business,
a home, a friendship, an organization... The remarkable thing is I have a choice every
day of what my attitude will be. I cannot change my past. I cannot change the actions
of others. I cannot change the inevitable. The only thing I can change is attitude. Life
is ten percent what happens to me and ninety percent how I react to it.”
Now I would love to hear from you. What’s a specific area in your life that a shift
in your attitude, not circumstance, could make the greatest positive impact? Leave a
comment below and let me know. Now, as always, the best discussions happen after the episode
over at MarieForleo.com, so go there and leave a comment now.
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Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world needs that special
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The “90% Rule” That Puts You 100% In Control Of Everything

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Adam Huang published on November 21, 2016    Steven translated    Mandy Lin reviewed
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