Name: How To Be Magnetic, Attractive, and Irresistible
Uploaded: 2026-01-09T02:51:34.000Z
Duration: 15 min
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Being attractive will make you more successful, but I'm not talking about being hot.

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The most successful people I know treat attractiveness like a skill to show up as their very best self in every room and be magnetic and respected.

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So here are the five principles to become the most attractive version of yourself and how it can bring you massive success.

Principle number one Certainty is the new charisma.

I was recently on one of the largest podcasts in the world, Diary of a CEO with Stephen Bartlett.

And before I went on, I kept trying to get nervous.

I kept waiting for that feeling of panic to kick in.

And it wasn't because I'm some naturally confident person or great storyteller.

It's because I knew my material inside and out.

I had clarity on what I think, why I think it, and

So when he starts off the whole episode by asking, why should somebody listen to this conversation?

I already know why somebody should listen to this conversation because I'm talking to a very specific person who has likely not heard my message before.

If they knew that there was a different alternative, if they knew that success was actually available to them, they should pay attention.

And I can't even make myself get nervous while talking to them about what I want them to know because I'm so convicted and certain in my own beliefs and in the success that I want them to have.

You see, when you have that level of certainty, you show up differently.

You're not scrambling for validation or trying to prove yourself.

You're just there, you're present, you're clear, and this is what makes you attractive.

Now, if we reverse the clock to five or even 10 years ago, that version of Natalie would have been incredibly nervous and probably would have even self sabotage the opportunity because of the nerves, because of the lack of confidence, because I wasn't certain.

But I'm clear on who I am today in my point of view, because I'm certain of the work that I've done.

I'm certain of the results that I achieve.

And so today I don't get nervous when people put me on the spot with 20 questions about my most core beliefs around work and relationships and money and success and investments.

Because I've had to put in work on myself to get clear for me first before I could ever even be of value or of asset to Anybody else.

And here's what most people don't understand.

Charisma isn't about being the loudest or the funniest person in the room.

It's about knowing who you are and what you stand for so deeply that people feel it when they're around you.

They can disagree with you, but you know who you are and you know what you believe.

Who feels good about themselves because that energy is contagious.

And so few people actually feel good about themselves.

They never challenge their own views to a point where they feel good and are able to defend their views.

They just have their own thoughts and aren't certain of them.

So if you want to become more magnetically attractive, stop trying to be charming and start building your certainty.

Pick one area of your life where you want to command respect.

That could be in your career, that could be in your health.

And become undeniably knowledgeable in that area.

Have conversations with people who are better than you.

Then force yourself to articulate what you think and why.

Then the next time you're in a meeting or on a date or in a social setting, focus on being clear and certain rather than trying to be liked.

You'll notice that people start leaning in.

Next up is that attractiveness starts with effort.

For years, I was the person who rolled out of bed and acted like I was too cool to care.

I didn't think I needed to care about certain things as it relates to my appearance.

I would just roll out of bed a little disheveled.

I would still do my makeup because that felt like the bare minimum.

But everything else, I just wanted to seem like I just woke up and wasn't too high maintenance.

But the reality was I was lazy and I was insecure.

I thought if I didn't try, then it wasn't my fault that I wasn't successful because I didn't give everything that I had.

And then I could feel good about not hitting targets and not becoming the person that I wanted to be because there's always some extra thing that I wasn't willing to do.

And Because I knew I wasn't willing to do it.

And it was okay that I didn't quite get to where I wanted to go.

Even though I wanted to go there, I was very confused.

But then I started paying attention to the people that I looked up to.

The women I admired in business, the executives, the leaders, they all put effort in.

They weren't the most naturally gorgeous people, but they showed up polished, intentional, and put together.

When you don't put effort into how you present yourself, you're safe, signaling something to the world.

You're saying, I don't care enough about the situation to show up fully.

And whether you mean to or not, that signal affects how people treat you.

They don't give you the same opportunities.

They assume that you're not that invested.

On the flip side, when you show up with effort, when your hair is done, your outfit is intentional.

Your presence is polished, you're prepared.

People notice, they treat you differently.

They assume that you're competent, professional, and actually worthless.

Listening to now, this has nothing to do with being vain.

It's about respecting yourself and the people around you enough to show up fully.

So starting tomorrow, I want you to commit to putting in 10% more effort than you currently do.

If you usually don't do your hair, dry it, and style it.

If you don't iron your clothes, start set your outfit out the night before so you're not scrambling in the morning and looking like a hot mess.

Look at yourself in the mirror before you leave and ask, would I take this person seriously?

Pay attention to how people respond to you differently when you show up with more intention.

The next principle is one I see few people talking about.

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