Name: 6 Subtle Behaviors To Make Others Like You Instantly
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A new semester, a new schedule, new people.

The student you end up sitting next to could be your next best friend.

The possibilities are endless for friendship.

But then you soon find your hope dwindling down as you haven't seemed to make an impression on anyone.

And you start to wonder, do people like me?

Odds are, others just haven't gotten to know more about you and what makes you great.

Because we all have something that makes us great to someone out there.

You may just need to develop some likable behaviors and habits that get others to notice you enough to want to find out what those great qualities are.

So to help you become an even greater person, here are some subtle behaviors that can make others like you.

Hey, you may even find yourself liking you a bit more too.

Have you ever perked up at the call of your name?

Perhaps someone across the room mentioned you at a party, and

instead of saying, hey you, they said, well, your name.

We love our names so much that we can even pinpoint our own names being spoken by someone in a loud crowd or party.

This form of selective attention is related to the cocktail party effect.

While in a crowd or loud room, we can hone in on a specific conversation of our choosing.

More importantly, if our name is spoken nearby, even when we're focused on another conversation, we immediately perk up and recognize that someone is talking about us.

It not only makes you focus more when someone says your name, but

it makes you feel better knowing they actually bothered to remember it.

Try taking a mental note of each individual's name when you meet them and think of a related image to help you remember them.

Give genuine compliments when they cross your mind.

Everyone loves compliments, and we can usually tell when they're genuine.

Next time you meet someone and notice something you like about them, don't hesitate to tell them.

It's best to let others know the great things about them.

Wouldn't you want to know if someone is thinking highly of you.

When we speak of others in a positive light, people will associate the traits we use to describe that person with ourselves.

This happens when we talk about someone to someone else.

This is called spontaneous trait transference, and

it occurs when communicators are perceived as possessing the very traits they describe in others.

According to several studies published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, researchers found that when we describe someone with a certain trait to another person, that person will associate us with the traits described.

So it doesn't hurt to give someone you just met a compliment, like your lab partner Derek, who always aces the quizzes, or the student sitting next to you with a great sense of fashion.

Go ahead and tell them their outfit looks great and even tell your lab partner Derek that Suzy does indeed have great taste.

He may even associate that compliment to how great you are in the process.

I'm sure they would love to hear nice things said about them.

Want a secret to getting someone to like you?

This doesn't necessarily mean you have to ask them out right away if it doesn't feel quite right or natural, but

it can mean sitting with them at lunch or perhaps you want a co worker to like you.

Get to know them by having a quick coffee chat with them.

It's best to make socializing with others a habit if you want to make friends.

According to the psychological study by RB Zhongk, the mere exposure effect is a psychological phenomenon in which people find themselves preferring someone or something simply because they developed familiarity with them.

When a person is repeatedly exposed to a certain stimulus, that person develops familiarity with the stimuli and therefore prefers its presence.

This is why certain products and ads are constantly being repeated during your favorite program's commercial breaks.

The more familiar you are with something, the more you'll start to notice it.

And if they turn you down when you ask them out, it's definitely their loss anyways.

You may think that you have to appear perfect to attract others your way.

How could your friend possibly like you if you don't ace every single test?

How could they admire you if you don't look extremely fashionable every day?

How could anyone ever get to know you if you don't have the perfect vocabulary?

Well, actually, I want to break it to you, but people don't actually care that much.

While you might think otherwise, often people find this so called perfection intimidating, distant or unattainable.

In fact, people may find others who aren't superbly perfect and who even possess the rarity of these so called flaws as more attractive.

In a study, researcher Elliot Aronson had people rate fake test takers based on their attractiveness.

Test takers would either do great on a test mediocre or poor the imperfection.

Some test takers would act clumsy and spill coffee at the end of the interview after their scores were revealed.

People rated the test takers who spilled coffee at the end of their interview the highest on the attractiveness scale, meaning people want to see that you're intelligent and capable, but

As the research paper states, a superior person may be viewed as superhuman and therefore distant.

A blunder tends to humanize them and consequently increase their attractiveness.

Poor test takers, mediocre test takers, and

even great test takers were still rated lower than the superior test taker who scored great and spilled coffee at the end.

Others may be intimidated if you come across as perfect and make no mistakes.

But when you show you're capable and yet still relatable as a human being who makes mistakes, people tend to like you more.

You know that one person in a group who always has the nicest and most positive things to say.

Do you ever feel an aura of happiness and peace when around them, they never seem to complain.

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