Name: Train your brain’s emotional intelligence with metacognition | Arthur Brooks
Uploaded: 2025-08-31T00:48:37.000Z
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Emotions proceed from a part of the brain called the limbic system.

It just creates these feelings and drives and desires.

If you stop there with your emotions, you'll be managed by them.

You want to deliver the experience fully to your prefrontal cortex so you can decide what the emotions mean and how you're going to react.

Only your conscious brain can do that, but you need techniques.

Those techniques are called metacognition.

What you're really doing is reflecting on what's going on in your emotional life.

You're thinking about your own emotions such that your prefrontal cortex is looking at your limbic system.

So, for example, when you have little kids, they tend to be really emotional.

And that's great sometimes, but sometimes it's an incredible pain.

And so you'll say, don't scream, use your words.

What you're actually saying is stop being so limbic.

You want your kids to deliver the signal from their limbic system to their prefrontal cortex and make a decision about how they're going to react to their own emotions.

So take your own advice that you give your kids.

First interrogate your emotions and then say what you want to say, not what you feel.

That requires that we be comfortable with the fact that we have negative emotions in the first place.

And then to have a repertoire of techniques to self-manage.

One of the most common ones, the classic that most of us learn from our grandmothers is when you're feeling angry, don't say anything until you count to 10.

Researchers have put this to the test and they found that the right number to count to is actually 30.

What that's doing is giving a chance for your prefrontal cortex to catch up with your limbic system.

You'll also be prouder of yourself than what you wanted to say in the first place.

It's not something that you read about it, it makes sense and suddenly you can start practicing it perfectly.

And you have to be pretty kind to yourself to recognize that you're going to fail a lot.

There's a lot of research that shows that this is a skill to be practiced and the more you practice the better at it you get.

These are habits and rituals that you will actually build up.

There's so much research that shows that people who are able to moderate their feelings, manage their feelings, they're dramatically happier than people who are reactive.

And not coincidentally, they make other people happier around them.

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