Name: 10 People NOT To Fall In Love With
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But sometimes the quest for the one blinds us to the red flags waving frantically in front of us.

Finding the one is a common aspiration, but recognizing the wrong one is equally, if not more important.

Knowing who not to choose is just as crucial.

Here are 10 red flags, backed by psychological research, that scream, time to walk away.

Mr. or Mrs. Infallible These folks think they are never wrong.

This inability to take responsibility or learn from mistakes makes healthy relationships nearly impossible.

Even going as far as using manipulative behavior sometimes, or more aptly, gaslighting.

This isn't just drama, it's emotional abuse.

They never apologize, blame others for their mistakes, or dismiss any criticism as wrong or unfair.

They deny things they said or did, telling you you're imagining things, or you're too sensitive.

The Chronic Blamer Ever dated someone who always blames everyone else?

Not only they're quick to deflect criticism, but they're also never apologizing genuinely and struggle with empathy.

They're completely clueless about how challenging they are to be around, leaving you constantly frustrated.

If they're quick to blame traffic, their boss, or others early on, take it as a red flag.

It's only a matter of time before they start blaming you for their bad moods or failures.

The You're Not Perfect Either Defender Instead of taking ownership, they deflect criticisms by pointing out your flaws.

When confronted, they deflect criticism with the same accusation, avoiding accountability.

According to Psychology Today, they're using a defense mechanism called projection.

They use this to cover up their own feelings of inadequacy, or as a smokescreen, distracting from their shortcomings.

This defensive communication style kills any chance of real problem solving.

The Overly Sensitive Critic Do you feel like you're always walking on eggshells around this person?

They take any feedback, even constructive criticism, as a personal attack.

This high neuroticism and low emotional regulation makes open communication impossible.

Carrying baggage from the past isn't inherently bad, but unaddressed trauma or anger can spill over into the relationship, creating negativity and instability.

They label any feedback, no matter how gently delivered, as rude or offensive, stifling honest communication.

They constantly harbor resentment, struggle with forgiveness, or have frequent mood swings without addressing the root cause.

The Master Manipulator They're experts at pushing your buttons and then playing innocent.

This manipulative behavior is a big red flag.

It often points to a lack of empathy, and even exploitative tendencies.

Controlling behaviors, monitoring your whereabouts, limiting your friendships are also a hallmark of these relationships.

They demand access to your phone, social media, or track your movements.

The Apology Artist They're amazing at causing upset, and equally skilled at giving super heartfelt apologies that never actually result in changed behavior.

For example, they might yell at you during an argument or give snarky comments about you, then apologize with tears, promising it won't happen again.

But the next time they're upset, the same behavior repeats.

Insincere apologies damage trust, and research shows that it's a major hurdle for couples.

Ignoring your feelings and boundaries entirely.

This lack of respect is a major predictor of infidelity, and a commitment issue.

They think it doesn't affect their commitment to their partner because it's just a fun way for them to interact with others.

However, flirting is unpredictable and can lead to bigger trust issues.

It shows a lack of respect for your partner, and can feel like an emotional betrayal.

The Repeat Offender They promise to change, but the same hurtful behaviors keep happening.

This lack of impulse control, sometimes linked to personality disorders, is a serious relationship killer.

It just shows they aren't truly committed to change.

A consistent lack of empathy indicates a potential inability to understand or care about your feelings.

They dismiss your feelings as overreactions or show little concern for your happiness.

They might be telling you what you want to hear in order to stop you from getting angry or from walking away, says mental health expert Holly Riordan.

The Friend Prioritizer If their friends always come first, and when you express a need for more attention or time together, they label you as controlling or needy, it's a red flag.

This is often a sign of an insecure attachment style and poor boundary setting.

In a healthy relationship, both partners should prioritize each other's needs, even as they maintain their individual friendships.

Life coach Nawal Alamari, LCPC, emphasizes that a strong relationship balances individual couple time with quality couple time.

The Uncaring Gift-Taker They don't value the effort you put into the relationship.

Your love isn't a gift, it's just something they expect.

A lack of gratitude is a sure sign of entitlement, which erodes appreciation and mutual respect.

Love is give and take, mutual delight, and shared growth.

Some misunderstand love as solely receiving positive feelings or control.

They view love as primarily receiving attention or affection, without reciprocating.

These types can be charming, but their behaviors are all deal breakers.

Identifying these patterns isn't about being cynical, it's about protecting yourself.

Recognizing these red flags empowers you to choose healthy relationships.

Remember finding the right person isn't about perfection, it's about mutual respect, understanding, and emotional maturity.

You deserve a relationship filled with mutual delight.

What are some red flags you've come across?

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