Name: 如何瞬间推翻消極的自我對話？► 只需要一個簡單的動作！ - 《五秒法則》作者作者梅爾・羅賓斯 Mel Robbins（中英字幕）
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Past simple

So, I have this habit of every single morning, I stand in front of the mirror and I take a moment and I raised my hand and I give my reflection a high five.

Basic quantifiers

And there is so much science behind this.

The imperative

Let's talk about a high five for example.

That somebody did something awesome or I did something awesome.

And if you think about the times in your life when you've gotten a high five, it's because somebody's like,

Tom, you're amazing, Tom, get your attitude out of the can, you got this.

Tom, you're gonna make this shot, Tom, we can still win, I believe in you, keep going.

You have a lifetime positive association with giving other people high fives stored right here in your subconscious mind.

When you raise your hand to your own reflection, it is impossible for you to think, God, I look fat, why am I an a**hole, I really screwed up my life.

You can't do it because your lifetime association with this motion is all, I believe in you, I got you, I see you, I celebrate you.

So researchers wanted to know, what is the most empowering way to motivate kids through a really big challenge, okay?

This takes the marshmallow test to a whole another level.

You got one group of kids that are doing a challenging task and they're getting the fixed mindset praise, which we all know does not work.

Oh, Tom, you're so smart, Oh, Tom, I love your glasses, that's going to help you, Oh, Tom, you got a great smile, Oh, Tom, you know, I I just love so much about you, I know you can do this.

The second group gets the growth mindset kind of praise, Tom, you are such a hard worker, Tom, your perseverance is unbelievable, Tom, you just keep going.

That does better, obviously, than telling you that you're smart because it makes you motivated to work hard.

The third group, they just got a simple high five.

The researchers didn't even say anything to the kids, they just walked up, gave them a high five.

The group of kids that got a simple high five outperformed, outworked through all of the challenges, all of the other forms of praise.

Because a high five is something deeper than praise.

It fulfills your most fundamental needs as a human being.

When somebody high-fives you, you feel seen, you feel heard, and you feel like somebody has acknowledged.

Try celebrating yourself five days in a row, literally, try starting your day by waking up and raising your hand and high-fiving yourself in the mirror.

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如何瞬间推翻消極的自我對話？► 只需要一個簡單的動作！ - 《五秒法則》作者作者梅爾・羅賓斯 Mel Robbins（中英字幕）

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