Name: 了解這個道理，會徹底改變你對人生的看法 ▶《紐約時報》暢銷書作者Robert Greene 羅伯特·格林（中英字幕）
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If you're aware of who you are, if you're aware of what you're good at, what you're not good at, if you're able to see how emotions kind of govern your life, if you can learn what your weaknesses are and how to control them, you can't ever get complete control, but awareness is almost enough.

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Slowly through this process of knowing who you are and understanding other people and how they operate so you don't make stupid mistakes in life, you can increase that little tiny margin more and more and more and you will be a person of power.

Law number one in the 48 laws of power is called never outshine the master, and almost every single person in the world has violated that law, myself included.

Basically how it works, you're so eager to impress your boss or whomever in your new job that you try so hard that you make him or her feel insecure, like maybe you're younger and better than they are, and because of that you're fired or something bad happens to you and you never know why.

Do you think meditation is allowing you to make more interesting connections because of the quiet?

Your conscious mind is very limited what you can hold in your memory, but unconsciously in your subconscious, when you're asleep, when you're dreaming, the mind is filled with thousands upon thousands of ideas and things that are there that are lingering there, and connections are being made all of the time, and occasionally those connections float up to your conscious mind and you have a brilliant idea about how to do something.

Every single person is born with this talent for getting inside the minds of other people.

It's something that you're not even aware of.

You're walking around in life, I'm not critical because I'm the same, sort of sleepwalking.

You're inside hearing your own thoughts day in day out like a continually circling loop in your head.

You're not aware of the fact that if you stop that and you look at other people, a world opens up to you.

So what's the first component of that world?

Non-verbal communication. 95% of what really matters in communication between people is not through words.

Words are used to deceive you, to disguise what people are really thinking.

What are just a step or two that they can take down that path starting today?

The first thing to understand is the most important, and that it is a skill.

If you want to play the piano, you can't just sit down and suddenly play.

You've got to practice it every day, and if you practice an hour a day, you're going to get better at it.

Why are children able to learn and an adult can't?

The reason is children don't think that they're superior.

They don't think that they already understand the world.

They have to learn or they're going to die.

They have to learn how to speak the language.

They have to learn what's going on with their parents or they're literally going to die.

Do you have tricks that you use for ensuring that genius does not become young man's game, that your books truly get better and better over time?

Basically, every time I begin a book, I'm deathly afraid of failing.

I feel like, oh, it's not going to sell as well as the last book.

Each project, each thing that you do in life, you have to kind of create that feeling in the gut like, oh, I don't know if I'm going to be able to pull it off.

I don't know if I can go 12 rounds with Floyd Mayweather this time.

I'm back to where I was in the beginning, you know?

You got to feel a little bit of that nervousness and that excitement and that sense of I've got to build it now.

And negative capability is rule number one for being a creative person.

And if you don't follow anything else in mastery, that would be enough.

It's basically the ability to keep two ideas that contradict each other in your mind without feeling uncomfortable, without having to come to a conclusion.

You can think about something without rushing to judgment and conclusion.

And you don't have to decide whether it's A, B, or C.

You're open to adopting three or four different viewpoints.

People say, you know, live your passions.

And nobody changes their life based on a cliche.

And to do hard work, you have to have a roadmap.

Somebody has to show you steps to get there.

How do you really help people to, say, follow your passion?

The process begins by first knowing what you really love.

And believe me, I do a lot of consulting.

They don't even really know what it is that they were meant to do in life.

They loved music when they were a kid, but then they got into law or whatever because of their parents.

And then they don't know who they are anymore.

You've got to go through that process first of figuring out what it is that really connects to you in a deep, visceral way, what you loved when you were a kid, what still excites you.

Once you go through that and you understand it and you've got some clarity about it, okay, how do I incorporate that in my life?

So if you're 23 years old, it's a little easier.

I love music, but I'm not a musician because I've not been practicing.

I just love music, but I have a real good sense of business.

I've been studying business and I have an MBA, et cetera.

I've got to now find a way to craft a career that combines my knowledge of business and my love of music.

And if I follow that and I do it smart and I plan it out, eventually what starts out with more business than music will end up becoming more creative as I get better and better at it.

How do you prepare somebody to survive that initial stage of boredom and pain?

Well, you know that when you're exercising, when you're running or you're working out or whatever, it hurts, but it leads to something pleasurable.

You have to be able to translate that to mental things.

And if you make that switch in your mind, it is mind blowing what can happen to you.

The problem in life is as you get older, you can become more and more like other people.

You spend a lot of your time thinking about what other people like and you're not aware of what you like.

You go into careers because you listen to other people.

But if you look at all of the brilliant people who've succeeded in life, if you look at a Steve Jobs, you look at an Elon Musk, there's nobody else out there like them.

You're never going to be able to pinpoint one other person like them.

They are completely unique and those are the people that end up having power in the world.

So if you're going to be able to create that website, that blog, that whatever it is, that startup that is different, that has its own niche and reflects you, something good will happen from it.

We want to believe that there are shortcuts to success.

We want to believe we can take a drug or we can do something that'll make it quick and easy.

To me, failure in life is not not having money.

You're 60 years old and you said, I could have been this and I never did it.