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Are you transgender female-to-male,
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trans-masculine, or female to whatever?
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This video is part two, so if you have
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not watched the first one I recommend
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that you do so, before watching this one. A
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criteria to understanding if you are
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transgender, is regarding how you feel
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about your gender. On a constant basis, do
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you not feel female? This does not mean
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that you specifically feel male, although
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some people do. Some feel that they are
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bi-gender or without gender, and then
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some may feel more male as their body
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changes. Regardless of how you feel about
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your gender specifically, female just
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does not fit. Again, you do not feel
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yourself to be female, and no matter what
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you do, or how good or bad things may be
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going in your life, this feeling is a
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constant presence for you. I want you to
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think about how you felt about your
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gender over your life. I am going to make
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a list of what some transgender people
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experience over the course of their life,
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that demonstrated that they did not feel
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female. I want you to know that this list
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is not a comprehensive list. This video
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can only be so long, so I can't list
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everything, so there's a lot more
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involved than the list I'm about to make.
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You can still be transgender without
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having a single thing on this list
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because it isn't comprehensive. Growing
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up you might have secretly wished or
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prayed to wake up as a boy the next day.
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When you had a chance to play with
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others as children you may have picked a
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male role such as father, uncle, or
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brother. If you played video games or
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even do so now, you may have preferred
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male avatars or gender-neutral
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avatars, like an animal. You may have cut
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off your hair, or hated it being long. You
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may have been
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drawn to toys or clothing which was
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traditionally associated with males.
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When you look at men
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you may feel yourself jealous at how
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they look, or jealous that they have
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facial hair, and muscle mass, and you
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don't.
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Despite this feeling of not being female
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you may have a period in your life where
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you participate in traditionally female
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behaviors, such as wearing dresses, makeup,
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or high heels.
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I actually know one trans man who he got
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breast implants at one point. The
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purpose of doing this was to make an
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effort to fulfill the expectations
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placed on your gender, in attempt to
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convince yourself that you can be
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comfortable living as female if you just
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try hard enough. Unfortunately it just
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doesn't work. I would like to add that if
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you are watching this video for yourself,
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and researching what transgender is
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online, then it is likely that you are
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transgender, because cis-gender people do
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not ask this question. "Am I transgender?"
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Not generally. Again, think about your
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life. Look at the signs that show how you
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feel about your gender, and make your own
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list. If you have dysphoria or a constant
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feeling of not being female, then I believe
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that you at least owe it to yourself to
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explore this further. Talk to a mental
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health professional who is knowledgeable
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and experienced with transgender clients.
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If after some exploration you feel
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yourself to be transgender. Then I
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believe you at least owe it to yourself
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to try hormones for a few months. Going
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on hormones for a month or two will not
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lead to major changes in your body, but
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it will give you an opportunity to see
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how you feel on them. Studies show that
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people who transition with hormones
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experience less depression and anxiety
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than those who go without it. It can also
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help you clarify things. I hope you found
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this video helpful in clarifying how you
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may have a history of what you feel
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around your gender, and that your
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feelings surrounding your gender may
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have been present for some time. I know
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that some people are still going to be
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confused after just watching this video.
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I will be making more in the future
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with specific examples to illustrate
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this. For now these are the two
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criteria which are required for being
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transgender. If you found this video
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helpful then please remember to like,
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