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  • - [Narrator] Karyn Buxman is an international speaker

  • and successful author of eight books.

  • Booked by more than 500 companies worldwide

  • Karyn is one of the few people in the world to be inducted

  • into the National Speaker Associations, Hall of fame.

  • Today, Dan Lok interviews Karyn on the secret

  • to enhancing your humor skills to become

  • a better leader with personal stories and cutting edge tip.

  • - So when I'm teaching,

  • same thing, I try to weave humor in stories.

  • You gotta make it interesting for people, right?

  • And even when I, I'll give you a perfect example.

  • When I decided on to share some of my personal hobbies,

  • just like, hey, I'll collect like superheroes

  • and stuff like that, the toys and all that,

  • I talked to a couple of consultants.

  • Oh no, you don't wanna do that,

  • like the image consultant, right?

  • You know, you've got your brand,

  • you've got your thing and you shouldn't,

  • no, people don't take you seriously.

  • I'm like,

  • (grinning)

  • it just feels right.

  • - Yes.

  • - Right, it feels is right thing to do, right?

  • And so I thought, you know what, I'm gonna just gonna do it.

  • So I did it and people love it.

  • And not only that builds a new audience, but it's who I am.

  • I think it's another dimension

  • to what I do versus always,

  • always business is always serious that we can,

  • oh no, we can have fun too.

  • When my wife, Jenny and I, we did the new series

  • on my channel called Alpha Men Smart Woman.

  • - Oh, great, right?

  • - So basically, it's just our relationship and we talk

  • about like how we met, it's just a funny things, right?

  • - Yes, yes.

  • - And Jenny would go,

  • like they say shopping and we do the unboxing and I'll be,

  • Oh my God what did you buy this time, right?

  • Right, it's like this kind of a humor?

  • And people love that.

  • People will love that.

  • - Well you're bringing up an interesting point.

  • And that is that whether people are looking for a leader,

  • - Yes.

  • - Or whether they're looking for a lover.

  • One of the top three traits they're looking for,

  • is sense of humor.

  • - That's true.

  • If we were to serve here a hungrier woman, right?

  • - Exactly.

  • I'm very fortunate to have both in my life.

  • My husband, Greg Godek is actually the author

  • of 1,001 Ways to Be Romantic.

  • (laughing)

  • But one of the things that brought us together was the fact

  • that he's very funny and he's very romantic,

  • but the creativity, the humor and the romance,

  • those all go together.

  • And when you can bring humor into your relationship,

  • kind of a funnier side, when men and women are looking

  • for someone with a sense of humor,

  • women want someone who will make them laugh.

  • - Yes.

  • - Men On the other hand are looking

  • for someone who will laugh at their jokes.

  • - It's true, it's true, It's true.

  • - We're looking for slightly different things.

  • - It's true, it's true.

  • - But, you know, people desire humor and so they want

  • it in their leaders, they want it in their lovers,

  • they would want it in people they do business with.

  • And so to intentionally look for ways to put this in,

  • how do I do this?

  • And just those wonderful human connections

  • that this is something you and I have in common.

  • Comicon, I walked to Comicon,

  • and it's just down the street from us,

  • the superheroes, the marvel characters.

  • And when I am posting the pictures of Iron Man

  • and all this other people either Walking Dead

  • on my Instagram, you know, people are going nuts,

  • they're blowing it up because it's that fun human connection

  • and they're like, oh yeah, you like Iron Man,

  • I like Iron Man too.

  • Yeah, and we just, we love those fun connections.

  • It doesn't have to be all about how smart I am

  • and how successful I am.

  • - It's true, it's true.

  • - It's the human part.

  • - And I think it is those,

  • it not only makes you more human more relatable,

  • - Yes.

  • - Right, as a expert, as a speaker or as a business person.

  • - Yes.

  • - Right, all of that.

  • And I think most of them, they're so afraid

  • to share their part, right?

  • And I think growing up, I think most of us at least,

  • I think we're still like a child,

  • we are all childish, just in like adult form.

  • - Yes. Yes.

  • - And I think in, this is going deep in terms

  • of communication and persuasion.

  • This is what I believe in.

  • That if we have the adult talking to the adult,

  • there's always a wall.

  • Cause it's adult talk to adult, right?

  • - It's interesting, yeah.

  • - Right?

  • I'm like I'm this CEO I'm this like, you know,

  • this kind of person, or I'm this expert, right?

  • But when you have a child talking to a child,

  • suddenly you just bond.

  • Cause you look at kids,

  • how they could think about, like think about your kids.

  • You go to the playground and you take them too,

  • they can meet other kids and within seconds they just bond.

  • - Right.

  • - Like they don't know each other

  • and then they're running around doing slides

  • and it's like they just,

  • but adults don't, the parents are like.

  • Yeah, (mumbling)

  • - Right, you know, the kids aren't looking

  • at what kind of clothing you have--

  • - Yeah, no judgment, no it isn't.

  • - You know, what color of their hair is

  • or anything like that.

  • - Yeah, they just boom, they just bond, right?

  • It's the adult, Oh Hi, how are you Yeah,

  • it's good, your way goes, like this kind of stuff.

  • But kids they're just running around having fun.

  • I think it's the same thing in communication.

  • Where if I can do like communicate child to child,

  • - Yes.

  • - Then it's instant bonding.

  • - Yes.

  • - It's so powerful.

  • So Karyn, how could someone train themselves

  • to be more like funnier or more humorous?

  • Like how could they do that?

  • - You know, in my book, Funny Means Money, I have--

  • - I love the title by the way.

  • - Thank you.

  • - Funny Means Money.

  • - Strategic humor for influence and world domination.

  • Cause I mean really this is what connects the world.

  • And part of my mission is to make the world

  • a better place through humor.

  • You know, one laugh at a time, one smile at a time.

  • But I think the very first thing

  • that's most important is just the attitude.

  • Because so many, you know, and I say,

  • look for the humor around you every day, what's funny?

  • Ask Yourself, what am I missing?

  • And some people push back and they say,

  • Oh, you don't understand.

  • There's nothing funny happening in my life.

  • - Yes.

  • - And if that's your belief, that's your reality.

  • - That's your life.

  • - Because you see what, you know, seeing is believing.

  • And believing is seeing.

  • And so if you believe there's no humor,

  • that's what the world is gonna give you.

  • But if you ask the world,

  • what's funny?

  • What am I missing?

  • You start hearing things.