Name: Being Gay A Journey into Self-Acceptance
Uploaded: 2019-11-05T07:43:36.000Z
Duration: 39 min 36 s
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I am angry, confused, hurt, disappointed with church and government leaders

because they do not accept me as natural, equal, worthy ...

They don't accept you as natural. Is that true?

They don't accept you as natural, is that true?

They don't accept you as natural. Can you absolutely know that   it's true that they don't accept you as natural?

Based upon statements.  - Is that a yes or a no?

You know, a theory hits your head and you   swear to it and then you vote it.

I'm asking you to consider, they don't consider you as natural.

And for some of you, the answer might be yes.

And no matter what it is, you just keep moving.

There are only four questions. Two to go.

How do YOU react when you believe this thought?

Imagine your life without the thought 'They don't accept you as natural'.

Well, I've got a little experience going for me here.

Ok, so, they don't consider you to be natural. Turn it around.

So, I want to know what about you is not natural in your opinion.

This really is coming out of denial if there's any in there at all.

When I think about it, about what causes stress, the feelings of the   challenges and struggles of the gay man seems not natural

in the sense of this fight to be accepted. So that seems - Unnatural.

Yeah. Why are you defending who you are is the question.

It's unnatural, I hear from you. So, why are you defending it?

Thank you. And what is not okay about that?

What is unnatural about that in your opinion?

The stress that comes with um ... -   Believing that other people should accept you?

I could shift this to places, it would just cut to the chase.

But if you trust that Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet, it will hit every single thing.

The Work is checkmate and that Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet is checkmate.

So, give me an example of 'I don't accept me as natural'.

If you're in the habit of defending gay men, that is a   difficult question for you and a very important one.

Where is that you consider, as a gay man,   you consider you not to be natural?

There are a lot of gay men that are homophobic.

It's just all these visions from since I'm   little of how that's just confirmed ...

I mean it, god it's so right-to-the-core.

Oh god the countless amounts of pressure and stress.

From my father to growing up in Montana where you ...

... gotta be captain of the football team,   you gotta be good at sports ...

... you gotta date the cheerleaders and you gotta   go hunt and kill big animals ...

And uh, and I work so hard to put   on this, just this masculine image ...

and girls in the church that repeatedly said, "It's unnatural"   and how I've lived that for so long ...

... and, as much as I say I'm natural, how badly I   judge the gay culture so much and I separate myself ...

I look at it as so unnatural that I   don't even involve myself in it.

All that defense was just to convince yourself.

Now, where is it that you consider you unnatural as a gay man?

I don't feel like I fit into the stereotype and   I fight, I resist so much the stereotype.

And I feel like if I get into the   stereotype that I've become what everyone ...

not everyone, those examples in my life have told me not to be.

So, another example of where you consider yourself, as a gay man, unnatural?

Um, so, uh, sometimes I feel less of a man that   I get labeled a lot as "girls' night out".

So, you be them and I'm going to be   you — with a little gay pride.

Um, you know, me and the boys are going to go out   hunting and, um, get together and do manly things...

...and you can go hang out with the girls and go shopping, how's that?

Uh, you know, actually, I do prefer that. You're always thinking of me.

You're always considering who I am, honoring who I am as a gay man.

You give me the option of not having to   do those things I really don't care about.

Which shows me how much you care and listen   to me and see me and understand me.

I'm much more comfortable this way and I appreciate your caring.

So, I just bought a new house and I need an interior decorator ...

and although you're color blind, you're gay, so why   don't you come decorate my house?

Well, you know, actually ... okay, I'm stepping out of the role, now, okay?

Unless they want black and white and gray. I mean, I'm fantastic at that.

So, actually, I'm colorblind and that's not my skill.

You know, I have a network of people going. I can ...

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