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  • Hello, my name is Amanda.

  • And I'm here to talk to my mom about coming out.

  • I only came out to her because I had to and I have not talked to her about that moment since.

  • Let's call her.

  • Hi! Oh my god, look at your hair!

  • I knew you would say that.

  • Can you tilt your laptop a little bit towards your face?

  • So let's talk about my coming out.

  • What were you thinking when I came out?

  • I wasn't really sure because you had been in a fight with one of your friends and it was causing you a lot of grief.

  • But then what was your reaction when the fight was because I was in love with her?

  • All I kept saying in my head was "oh, now that makes sense".

  • Do you, ever have an inkling before that I was gay?

  • I was totally clueless.

  • Oh, okay.

  • There was that time when you were in high school that I walked in on you and another girl, I can't remember who it was and you guys were sitting in the dark in the living room.

  • And I just remember thinking "what the hell are they doing? That's weird".

  • I'm trying to think if that was that time I was on a date... do you remember of who it was?

  • No, I don't think so.

  • That might have been an innocent thing then.

  • What about the fact that I was very obsessed with a lot of actresses and the Spice Girls and that kind of thing?

  • Oh, girls growing up look up to women who, you know, they admire and that they want to be like.

  • Did you ever have a moment of relief that I was gay because then I wouldn't get accidentally pregnant?

  • No, I never thought of that at all.

  • Surprise!

  • Have you gotten more or less comfortable over time with gay people or my sexuality in general?

  • You're talking to the wrong parent.

  • Remember, I was in the restaurant industry so I was around gay people all the time.

  • - That's true. - And they were my favorite people.

  • Did we get closer after I came out?

  • I think just in that area we got closer, like, you were more openly asking me about love interests.

  • Yes, I wasn't really comfortable asking about any love interest when you're in high school because you didn't seem to be interested in anybody.

  • Except for - - - do you remember - - -?

  • I do remember - - -. He's gay.

  • - Get outta here. - Yeah, he's gay now.

  • Do you have any thoughts on how out and proud I am now?

  • I was thinking about this today.

  • I would of course like to see you dating someone.

  • Same.

  • Did you ever have that moment that parents have a concern that it, like, it might be harder for me because I was coming out as gay?

  • At first I didn't think that at all.

  • I was just happy that you knew that so that you could be happy the rest of your life, and not just tortured the rest of your life.

  • Because things weren't working out for you with men, so yeah, I did.

  • Well, I was worried you'd get into a situation where you might get beat up or you might, you know, I just wasn't sure.

  • It was upsetting to me, your friends who came out to their parents, and then their parents just kind of disowned them.

  • I could never understand that.

  • As a parent, I just want you to be happy.

  • Do you have any advice for parents who might be dealing with their child coming out?

  • I can't see that mindset.

  • I just I don't understand that mindset in any way, shape, or form that people would have a problem with it.

  • And I think all parents want this is for their kids to be happy.

  • And if that's the way your child is gonna be happy then you just need to accept that, even if you don't agree with it.

  • - Right. - You just need to accept that.

  • I am very blessed that, uh, you are very accepting, and very cool with it.

  • Did you think I wouldn't be?

  • I thought that I would be seen as a disappointment in the family.

  • Okay, you really need to look around.

  • You know a lot of people have horror stories about coming out, and thankfully, I had a very supportive bubble in within my family, within my friends.

  • Because my mom is awesome and I was not seen as a disappointment, so yay!

Hello, my name is Amanda.

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What It Was Like For My Mom When I Came Out

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    Mackenzie posted on 2019/10/03
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