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  • - They get boyfriends. - Okay, so let's look at it. You need a boyfriend - is that true?

  • No.

  • So how do you react when you think the thought "I need a boyfriend", and you don't have one?

  • I feel lonely and left out. All my friends do, which doesn't make a difference because I'm not my friends.

  • - And... - If you were thinner, you would have a boyfriend...

  • ... can you absolutely know that that's true?

  • No.

  • Does that thought bring peace or stress into your life - "I need a boyfriend"?

  • Definitely stress.

  • And how do you live when you believe that and you encounter a male?

  • I get really scared. I don't know really what to do. I end up with the whole self-violence thing again.

  • Yes, honey. So who would you be meeting some gorgeous man,

  • without the thought "I need a partner", "I need a boyfriend"?

  • Who would you be meeting that hunk without your story?

  • I'd probably be really laid-back and cool, I guess...

  • - Yes - ... an enjoyable person to be around.

  • - Yeah! You would be your own perfect mate, and they would be a bonus! - Yeah.

  • Yeah. Isn't that what you really want? Just to meet the world just kicked-back, comfortable, relaxed...

  • - It does sound much better. - You know, you're the mate you've been waiting for, you've been looking for.

  • So "I need a boyfriend" - turn it around.

  • I don't need a boyfriend?

  • Ah! Bingo! Reality. How do I know I don't need one? I don't have one.

  • Without the thought, can you imagine... without - like the thought can come in when you question it,

  • cause thoughts aren't gonna stop. I came to see until I met my thoughts with unconditional love,

  • I cannot meet you with unconditional love, because you're gonna say what I haven't dealt with yet.

  • So I try to shut my thoughts down, meditate them down, medicate them down,

  • try to shut them and credit card them down, food them down, alcohol them down... let's see.

  • Try to do all of that, and here they come, here they come, here they come.

  • So I'm left with all of the effects, and the thoughts are still here.

  • So when I question them, it's a wonderful thing, it's like unconditional love,

  • so now you can say anything, you can say anything and you cannot be my enemy, because

  • you can only say what I have thought and the world has thought; there are no new stressful thoughts.

  • So there's only, you know, that's why I say, you know, you're the love of your life.

  • Work with this, it leaves self-love.

  • But to live in the world with "I don't need a partner", you know the turnaround,

  • is to be open to every human being, cat, dog, and tree.

  • - Okay. - Yeah.

  • Also, it leaves you open for every male in your life, and when one says,

  • "Oh, you are a gorgeous babe", you don't have to marry them...

  • ... you know, just because they have been, they have flattered you.

  • And if you do enough, if you question your mind, you do enough Work, they may say, "You're a gorgeous babe,"

  • you could say, "Well, yeah!"

  • You noticed? I notice.

  • Yeah, but you can think it to yourself, "Now here's a wise man."

  • Not everyone is that wise in this world. Are you? And that's the point.

  • - Let's look at the next one. - Okay, uhm...

- They get boyfriends. - Okay, so let's look at it. You need a boyfriend - is that true?

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