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  • Lust has a reputation for being the flame we jump into!

  • Think of Fifty Shades of Grey or your classic bad boy or bad girl, who's all games in danger with no strings attached.

  • But according to leading love expert Dr. Helen Fisher- lust is the essential first stage of love.

  • Without the desire of wanting someone first, we cannot experience intimacy.

  • So, how do we know if we're still stuck in the initial stage of attraction or ready to transition into something more meaningful and long-lasting?

  • Here are 6 Key Differences Between Lust versus Love.

  • One, lust is driven by physical connection, but love comes from emotional connection.

  • It all comes down to our brain.

  • Which areas are being activated when you hang out with your partner?

  • Research shows that lust lights up the regions associated with reward and motivation whereas love stimulates the areas that help you empathize.

  • Lust happens when you and your partner don't have much to talk about but have great sex.

  • This is common for two people who haven't been dating for too long.

  • But love on the other hand happens when you appreciate your partner for more than just their looks, and can spend meaningful time with them.

  • This is what ultimately forms the start of a deep and serious relationship.

  • Two, overtime love grows stronger, whereas lust becomes weaker.

  • Psychologist and sex therapist Shannon Chavez states that as attachment and bonding grow over time, so does love.

  • But lust is more temporary and fades when sexual desire fades away.

  • If a relationship is based solely on lust, there is inevitably no foundation to fall in love with each other.

  • Lust feels like an exciting roller coaster, but can only be sustained by physical pleasure.

  • When the real work kicks in, the dynamic either transitions into love or the relationship begins to fall apart.

  • Three, lust is based on fantasies.

  • Love however operates on the ground of reality.

  • Have you ever looked back on past relationships and wondered how on earth you two got together?

  • I don't know about you, but I sure do.

  • Imagination can come in handy when life gets mundane, but more often than not it's like a double-edged sword.

  • When you like the idea of someone more than who's actually in front of you, it can cause you to miss a lot of red flags.

  • Relationship experts state that there is only so much time before reality sets in, and it makes you realize that your partner has faults just like you.

  • And that your expectations were unfair.

  • Four, in lust, you are romantic partners, but in love, you're lifelong friends.

  • Psychiatrist Judith Orloff discovered that people in lust are just lovers, but true love is built on the foundation of a strong friendship.

  • Sure!

  • Two people can agree to be in a relationship, go on fun dates, and even meet each other's family.

  • But if they lack compromise, communicate poorly, and fail to understand each other.

  • The prospect of having a future together is very low.

  • Five, lust is all about thrill seeking whereas love is the pursuit of stability.

  • Researchers have looked at MRI scans of people in lust, and found that their brains look similar when an addict gets a fix of cocaine.

  • Sounds intense, right?

  • But that's why infatuation is not likely to last as long as love.

  • The drug effects wear off when you can no longer satiate your sexual desires.

  • Whereas lust is about instant gratification, love is the relentless search for stability.

  • Six, lust is selfish but love comes from a selfless place.

  • When you love someone, you focus more on helping them reach their goals and care about their health and well-being.

  • Lust, on the other hand, is all about your own wants, like boosting your ego when you're next to your attractive partner or simply fulfilling your sexual desires.

  • In order to move from the initial stage of lust to love, you must determine whether you could see yourself doing favors or making sacrifices for your partner.

  • Do you think you're in lust or in love?

  • We hope that this video helped you differentiate between the two.

  • Remember that just because you might only be experiencing lust, doesn't mean that your feelings can't develop into love.

  • Please share your thoughts with us below.

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Lust has a reputation for being the flame we jump into!

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6 Differences Between Love vs Lust

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    Ingrid posted on 2019/08/21
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