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  • - [Narrator] In this video, I'm going to share with you exactly how I overcame my social anxiety,

  • and I'm gonna do it by sharing with you a personal story.

  • About four years ago, I was the guy

  • who was incredibly awkward around girls.

  • I remember I would always see these guys

  • who seemed to be so naturally good with girls,

  • and I really didn't understand what they were doing

  • that was so different from what I was doing.

  • I didn't know what to say, how to say it,

  • I didn't understand how to flirt,

  • or even what flirting was.

  • Whenever I saw a girl that I liked,

  • I had this confused feeling right in my stomach

  • where I just didn't know what to do.

  • About halfway through university,

  • I started to watch people like Elliott Hulse,

  • and I also started to read some self-help books.

  • And doing this exposed me to some very interesting ideas.

  • The most interesting idea that I was exposed to

  • was a very simple one, and it was

  • you have the power to change things in your life.

  • So I sat down at my desk, and I said out loud

  • I am not happy with my dating life.

  • And then right after that, I said out loud,

  • but I can change this if I want to,

  • and I recommend you do the same thing.

  • Also around this time, YouTube pranks were very popular,

  • and I would see these YouTubers go up

  • and approach girls during the day,

  • and they would say all these crazy things,

  • and no matter what they said,

  • it always seemed like they were able to attract the girl.

  • So after I watched about 10 or 20 of these videos,

  • I decided in that moment that I wanted to learn

  • how to be that confident.

  • So at this time, there was no way I was gonna be able

  • to approach a beautiful girl during the day.

  • I had to start off with something much, much, much smaller.

  • So instead, was I would go out on the street,

  • and I simply would ask people hey, what time is it?

  • And they would reply it's 10 a.m.,

  • and I would say thank you.

  • And believe it or not,

  • at first this was a little bit difficult for me,

  • which is honestly kind of depressing to admit,

  • but it's the truth.

  • And I did this until I became 100% comfortable doing it.

  • And then after that, I would ask them how's your day going?

  • And then I would make more and more small talk.

  • I kept pushing myself outside of the comfort zone.

  • So for a couple months, I kept pushing myself more and more.

  • And then I woke up one day,

  • and I decided that this was the day

  • when I was going to approach a girl,

  • and I was gonna say to her

  • hey, I thought you were attractive,

  • and I just wanted to say hi, just like those YouTubers.

  • So I left my apartment, and I told myself

  • I was not allowed back into my apartment

  • until I had approached someone.

  • I left my apartment,

  • and I started to walk around on the street.

  • And whenever I would see an attractive girl,

  • I would make up some stupid excuse

  • about how I could not approach her.

  • I would say stuff like she looks like she's in a hurry,

  • she looks mean, she looks like she has a boyfriend

  • even though that makes absolutely no sense,

  • she looks like she's about to get a phone call,

  • literally any excuse that I could think of,

  • I would tell myself, and then I would just wouldn't do it.

  • So five hours later, I am still wandering around the city,

  • but I had made the commitment to myself

  • that I could not return to my apartment

  • until I did this.

  • I needed to honor this commitment,

  • because I understood that these types of commitments

  • are what make you succeed.

  • I'm walking along the sidewalk watching the sun go down.

  • I see this brunette girl walking ahead of me,

  • and for whatever reason in that moment,

  • I told myself it's either now or never.

  • You can either live your life like a wimp

  • or go up and face your fears head-on.

  • So I run up to her, and I tap her on the shoulder,

  • and then when she turned around,

  • I realized that I had just approached

  • one of the most beautiful girls that I had seen all day.

  • The first five minutes of the conversation

  • were a bit awkward, but I pushed through it,

  • and very quickly we both became very comfortable

  • with one another, and we even talked for about 20 minutes.

  • I got her number, we hugged goodbye,

  • and then I could finally return to my apartment.

  • And when I returned to my apartment,

  • I had such a tremendous feeling of accomplishment,

  • because just months ago the thought

  • of approaching a girl during the day

  • gave me so much anxiety to the point

  • where I could physically feel knots in my stomach

  • when I really imagined going up

  • and approaching a girl during the day.

  • What are the takeaways of my story here?

  • There are five main things that you need to understand

  • if you wanna overcome your social anxiety.

  • One, sit down and say out loud that you want to change.

  • Two, say out loud that you have the power to change it.

  • Three, set a goal of what you want to do.

  • For me, it was simply approach a beautiful girl

  • during the day without having a heart attack.

  • Four, start taking very, very small steps

  • that push you a little outside of your comfort zone

  • and closer to your goal.

  • And the fifth and final, most important step

  • is constantly course correct your way there,

  • meaning identify the things that you could do better

  • and fix those things.

  • A really easy example could be someone

  • who's really afraid of public speaking.

  • And to correct that, the best thing

  • that that person can do is say something

  • in front of one person.

  • Then talk in front of two people, three people,

  • four people, and just keep increasing it.

  • And do it until you're comfortable.

  • If you do this, it's pretty much impossible

  • for you not to reach your goal.

  • But it will take time.

  • If you enjoyed this video, please share it

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  • as that really helps the channel grow.

  • Or just simply like the video.

  • Thanks for watching, and I'll see you in the next one.

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    羅世康 posted on 2019/01/08
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