Name: 3 Ways To Be a Little Happier Every Day
Uploaded: 2018-12-09T21:01:30.000Z
Duration: 7 min 42 s
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and ever since then I've been very interested in the specific actions, not just the mindsets,

but the actions that lead to feeling happier.

Because at the time, feeling happy was tough for me.

It was something that had always come easy,

and really settled on three that were head and shoulders above the rest,

in terms of immediately changing the way that I felt.

So whether or not you're struggling with happiness today,

or you would just like to feel a little bit happier every day,

because why not, I want to share these exercises with you because they are truly powerful.

First off, create space for your brain to subconsciously solve problems.

what a lot of people don't realize is that we spend a lot of our time engaged in active problem-solving.

there's some kind of problem we want to solve

or we're just passively absorbing media, really.

Whether it's from your computer screen, your phone,

wherever, you're being stimulated in some way or you're directing your brain.

What we don't realize is that our brain sometimes work best when left to their own devices

and I realized this because when I was going through break up,

I'm a writer and one of the first things I did was write all my feelings, get rid of them.

That's helpful, but what I didn't realize was going to happen and the reason I've continued freewriting since,

is that I started solving problems I didn't realize that I had.

Like at the time, I go into a freewriting thing and come out with some sort of business solution for Charisma on Command.

You know, I haven't done jiujitsu in a while and that's really bothering me

In any of that, what I started realizing is that we have these subconscious pebbles in our shoe, if you will,

and while they don't always bubble up to conscious level,

so when giving yourself time to realize what those are

and then solve them through something like freewriting which if you don't know what it is,

it's just taking 10 minutes or so to write about 750 words, or three pages.

There's applications that I'll link to that you can do it.

That gives you your subconscious brain permission to say, "Hey, we gotta deal with this stuff."

and then fix it and it's incredible how much it helps.

but if you're not a writer you can also take a long walk,

you can go for a run, you can do traditional meditation.

A lot of these things can help tremendously

The second piece and the third piece are related to gratitude

because in just about every credible scientific study of happiness,

gratitude ranks among the top things that you can do to feel happier,

but there's not a lot of good exercise for actually doing it.

It's just write down five things that you're grateful for

and I found that wasn't really connecting with me

So instead of just saying I'm thankful for my health,

I would say imagine that you went to the doctors today,

He said, "I'm sorry. We just looked at your results,

and then I would sit with that or instead of just saying,

and spending time with my friends," I'd say,

What if their plane crashed and they were gone?"

That creates a visceral fear in me, and I would sit with that for 30 seconds, a minute, whenever,

playthrough like, I know this sounds really morbid,

but like the funeral and that would take me to a place that when I stop and I went, "I'm thankful to live with my friends.

And not only does the gratefulness sink in,

but all of a sudden all of your other problems,

You're training your brain to really put things in perspective.

You don't want to do this every minute of every day.

but for one moment a day as you're doing these exercises to do this,

I found it has really helped me tap into honest gratitude.

And then the third thing, once I get there,

where I'm like, Wow, like things are amazing,

not only are my friends not in a plane crash,

I extend that gratitude to people that I especially am feeling envious of.

And to give a quick example of someone that I may feel envious of,

I've been playing guitar for 10, 12 years.

I just started learning piano and I've been trying to sing for like three years now.

And I've moved from horrible screeching terrible

to mediocre and that means that when I see people

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