You need to eat more.

What, you're too busy to course?

A lots is been going on.

Maybe it's a girl taking up all your time.

No, but.

What?

I've been meaning to tell you guys this for a long time.

Come on, spill it out.

I'm gay.

We didn't raise you in America to be gay.

This Chinese family represents a much broader issue within the Asian culture.

And many have taken to YouTube to share their experiences.

The stigma of shame and embarrassment

As an Asian, being gay is not common.

It's not something that you bring up in the family.

I feel like gay is one of the worst things

that my parents think we can be.

But today it's our actor Daniel who's opening up

I can't lie to you guys anymore.

If you overheard these parents...

After all we have sacrifice for you.

Disapprove of their son for coming out.

You bring shame to our family.

What would you do?

Daniel is meeting his parents at the Jefferson diners.

There's something I have to say.

Come on. Split it out.

I'm gay.

What?

Right away, this couple is tuned in.

You gotta be kidding me. It's just unacceptable

After all we've done? I've always sacrificed?

And they're listening as Daniel's parents get more and more upset

How can you have kids?

I can adopt. I can...

You won't have a normal life if you're gay.

Come on!

What do you mean?

You're embarrassing yourself.

- That's what I mean. - He's embarrassing us.

It's not about you, lady.

Let mom and dad go away.

With mom and dad gone,

They invite him to join them and offer some support

It's nothing they can help.

It's not a choice.

Just from knowing Asian family...

They don't accept that.

- Not many families do. - In many culture.

Don't let that control your life, and kind of just, you know...

Find yourself and do what makes you happy.

Time to let them know

- Oh What? You gotta be kidding me.

- And told me, what would you do?

What is it in you to makes you speak out?

When she yelled out "You're gay" I'm like, "oh hell, no."

It could be a lot worse. You can be a drug addict

He could be a thief, a murderer.

Well, there's a lot of other things he can be that are much worse.

We're rolling again.

And mom is eager to play cupid.

- Look at her. - Yeah, she's pretty, mom.

This is how people date these days anyway, right?

She's gorgeous, right?

This trio seems to find her matchmaking techniques amusing.

Go for it.

- Hey, you won't know unless you try, right?

These people agree with me.

And for whatever reasons, he's not interested.

Is it somebody you know?

- It's a friend of mine. - I'm not interested because I'm gay, mom.

Okay?

They quickly realize...

- Now it's not funny. You know that, right? - He's not kidding

That's ridiculous.

Why are you telling us right now?

Because I don't want to hide it anymore. Okay?

- What about the family name? - You are the only son.

With the pressure boiling,

Daniel takes a moment to cool down.

You should think about this.

I'm just in shock. I'm so sorry. You don't have to hear this.

I think you kind of put him on the spot.

You're here to advise them for good decisions

Let him decide.

Try to understand his point of view...

- I just want what's best for him. - Yeah, well I understand that.

All mothers do.

But when it comes to his personal believes

But do you believe homosexuality?

- Well, I believe what the Bible says. - Which is...

which is that homosexuality is a sin against God.

Exactly that's how we feel.

Do you really think that me being gay is wrong?

Well, it's wrong in the eyes of God.

Have Daniel get angry. Just leave. He's upset. He leaves

You know what?

As Daniel storms away,

This man of faith shares some final thoughts

I would seek counsel.

Go see a pastor... 'cause pastors know how to handle it.

You think it's wrong to be gay

I do.

God frowns on his/her sin.

Gay people will tell you it's not a personality thing. They were born that way.

That's who they are.

I don't believe that. I think it's an environmental thing.

I think that with some counseling they can solve the problem.

I considered a problem.

Our actor Daniel who identified as Queer is not surprised by their reaction.

In fact, it's what he'd also expect in China where his family is from.

I don't think I would ever be able to

Broach the topic of sexuality if I was in China with my extended family because it would be too many doors to slam open.

Well today we meet many customers who are happy to help Daniel crack those doors open

Like, you can't change stuff like that.

He didn't want to keep it bottled in anymore.

- Well, what culture are you? - I'm Indian.

- Would your parents be Ok? - Probably not but if I was, but if I was I would say the same thing.

'cause its hard, you change who you are.

Others suggest it's simply a sign of the changing times.

It just doesn't really belong in our culture.

In our culture too, but you know...

it's, it's 2018... you know what I mean?

Things are different.

I'm proud of him that he's easy in saying.

You know how many people years ago would never even open their mouth.

I grew up in a totally masculine time like, you know, the type of world. Things are changing

I mean look at how many people held that in and they want to commit suicide or something because nobody accepted them.

You know... it's like...

- I mean, I could start crying again. - It happens so often.

We rolled one last time.

- How will you tell the rest of the family? - We can't tell the family

I can't believe you're doing this to us.

But as soon as mom and dad leave this woman is up on her feet.

I'm sorry. I know it's not my business...

I'm so upset that they're saying that to you.

I just don't know what to do

It's hard for them to understand because it's not their culture.

I just want you to know that it's okay.

There's nothing wrong with being gay or straight or whatever you feel.

What am I supposed to do?

Be yourself is what you're supposed to do... and they can't accept it...

That's their problem.

And when our parents return...

I'm sorry.

What are you about to talk to your son? He's very brave for coming out to you

And I know it's not my place for to interfere.

I'm sorry. This is your family conference.

Why did you feel like you needed to be involved?

Because I saw how sad he was. It made me sad.

- The war of us. - How are we supposed to do?

Because he's your son. You love him, right?

Maybe it just takes some time.

Time for us to step in.

Hi ma'am. How are you? I'm John.

I'm glad, I'm really glad.

You really took it to heart.

- Why? - Because I lost my mom at 20 years old.

So to see parents and children choosing not to be together or not to have a good relationship makes me sad.

Because you know, I don't have that choice.

You didn't have to get involved, right?

- You don't know him. - Well, I didn't know if I should... my friend...

I texted my friend. She's actually meeting me here

She is Chinese and I said should I get involved in this? She said don't.

I think your friend is here.

What did you do?

Your friend here was beautiful.

The way she approached the young man and said, it's okay.

- You had suggested she'd not do that. - Right.

- Why not? - Cultural implications.

As an Asian family, they would see this as the stigma of the West.

Better not to get involved?

Not necessarily. We support the person, you don't want it any insult the parents.

Daniel you come say hi.

- Last time, I need to give you a hug. - Thank you.

Love and compassion for a complete stranger it never ceases to inspire.

- That was really really awesome. - Thank you.