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  • We all remember feeling a sense of

  • sepparation anxiety when we were kids. Whether it would be

  • your parents dropping you off at school

  • or having your favorite stuffed animal taken away from you.

  • We only got a sense of relief when the person

  • or thing that was taken away is brought back. This

  • is the beginning of attachment theory. The sepparation

  • anxiety can continue into adulthood

  • like when you get anxious about having your cell phone taken away.

  • But why do humans behave like this?

  • Psychologists have labeled the reason behind these

  • early childhood anxieties as attachment

  • and have explored human connection through parent - child bonding.

  • Daniel Goleman states that attachment provides the

  • glue that keeps not just a couple but a family

  • together and caregiving as the impulse to look

  • after offspring so our children can grow up to

  • have their own. The early stages of childhood

  • are the most crucial in development.

  • This time in a child's life is when they have experiences

  • that shape how we relate to other people.

  • Having a healthy relationship with the child's parents

  • is key in his development.

  • It is hard in some families though for the child to

  • get a sense of attachment to their mother. There are a few

  • reasons for this: sometimes the mother has Post Partum

  • Depression and withdrawals from the baby or

  • there's a lack of resources that makes the family

  • less ready to focus on building an attachment.

  • A study done by Mary Ainsworth called ''Strange

  • Situations'' in which she put a parent

  • and a child between the ages of 9 to 18 months

  • in a room.

  • She would then bring in a stranger.

  • While the child was preoccupied with the stranger

  • the parent would leave. Afterwards the child would

  • react to the missing parent and said parent would come back.

  • Ainsworth hiked 3 types of attachement -

  • secure, anxious-avoidant attachment

  • and anxious-ambivalent attachment.

  • A fourth type of attachment was introduced later on

  • by Ainswroth's colleague Mary Main.

  • She brought on the disorganized, disoriented

  • attachment. This is when

  • a child avoids their parent or caregiver but is

  • also clingy. When the parent or caregiver leaves

  • and comes back the child looks dazed and disoriented.

  • Our attachment style with our parents

  • or caregivers growing up plays a huge

  • role in how we live our lives today. What do you

  • think your attachment style is? Don't forget to like

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