Name: 【TED】Bill Bernat: How to connect with depressed friends (How to connect with depressed friends | Bill Bernat)
Uploaded: 2018-03-23T17:24:34.000Z
Duration: 13 min 11 s
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The one conversation that uplifted me more than any other in my life

she drove her Jeep Wrangler to the edge of the Grand Canyon

in that conversation, I was totally at ease.

She told me what was going on in her life

what her thoughts were at that exact moment,

and then it was my turn to talk about my journey

to a dining table in the hygienic community area

of the mental health wing of a mountain-town hospital.

they were like, "Hey, we would love it if you would be our guest

We joked that her suicide would have made a way better postcard.

and have a genuine connection to another person, simultaneously.

I identified as somebody living with depression,

Now imagine one of the people at that table was a member of your family

Would you be comfortable talking to them?

says that depression is the leading cause of ill health and disability worldwide,

reports seven percent of Americans experiencing depression in a year.

most folks don't want to talk to depressed people

A cheerful facade is appropriate for casual interactions.

A depressed person can ask for extra syrup in their pumpkin spice latte

because they're trapped in the infinite darkness of their soul

Depression doesn't diminish a person's desire

talking to friends and family living with depression

Not, like, Facebook-selfie-with-Lady-Gaga- at-an-underground-party fun --

where people enjoy each other's company effortlessly.

and no one accuses the sad person of ruining the holidays.

who may act in off-putting or confusing ways

because they're fighting a war in their head

the vast majority of people look across the chasm

You may recognize a divide like this in your life.

Or maybe you'd like to build a stronger connection,

but you have a lot of questions and concerns.

You're what I might call "bridge curious."

why some of you may avoid depressed people.

that if you talk to somebody while they're depressed,

you're suddenly responsible for their well-being.

You may worry that you won't know what to say,

and every attempt at conversation will be awkward,

and the only time you'll feel comfortable

Words are not the most important thing to focus on.

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【TED】Bill Bernat: How to connect with depressed friends (How to connect with depressed friends | Bill Bernat)

awkward

anxiety

mental

depression