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  • Questioner: My name is Ananth.

  • My question is about marriage,

  • divorce.

  • I’m married

  • Sadhguru: No, no, they are two different things (Laughter & Applause).

  • Questioner: …marriage

  • what I see today is

  • many youngsters like

  • many of them they don’t want to marry

  • and few of them who marry

  • there are occasions where they are getting divorced;

  • so would you like to throw some light on this situation Sadhguru?

  • Sadhguru: See, you need to understand the institution of marriage.

  • it’s about bringing a certain sanctity

  • to the simple basic needs that every human being has.

  • there are physical needs,

  • there are psychological needs,

  • there are economic needs,

  • emotional needs,

  • social needs,

  • variety of needs.

  • To fulfill all these things we set up an institution called marriage

  • where all these can be conducted in a sensible manner,

  • otherwise if we did it on the streets like every other creature

  • it would turn ugly for us.

  • And we will feel not good about it.

  • So,to bring some sense of organization,

  • some aesthetic,

  • some stability,

  • because man and woman coming together naturally brought fresh life.

  • it is...

  • compared to any other creature,

  • it is the most helpless life

  • which needs maximum amount of support.

  • You could leave a puppy on the street;

  • as long as he gets food, he grows up into a good dog,

  • no problem.

  • But not so with a human being;

  • he doesn’t need just physical support,

  • he needs variety of support and

  • above all the stable situation.

  • Whether there should be marriage in society or not

  • one will debate when they are eighteen

  • because physical body is asking for freedom,

  • all right.

  • At that time everybody questions

  • is marriage really needed,

  • why can’t we just live whichever way we want?

  • But when you are three years of age

  • you valued marriage immensely,

  • a stable marriage immensely.

  • Isn’t it so?

  • Yes or no?

  • Juhi Chawla: Yes, yes.

  • again when you become forty-five, fifty youre hundred percent for marriage

  • between and eighteen and thirty-five youre questioning the whole process (Laughter & Applause),

  • okay?

  • Juhi Chawla: That’s true (Laughs).

  • Sadhguru: Because where the physical body is dominant,

  • at that time if you give in to that

  • then it will question every institution.

  • this is hormone fired freedom okay (Laughter).

  • Your intelligence has been hijacked by hormones,

  • so you question the fundamentals of everything.

  • I’m not saying marriage is the thing

  • but do you have a better alternative?

  • If you have a better alternative, damn the marriage

  • but you have not come up with a better alternative

  • because a stable situation is a must for a child.

  • Once you have a child it’s a twenty year project (Laughter)

  • Your whims and fancies will change,

  • your emotions will change;

  • if that is what it is, don’t get into such situations.

  • It’s not compulsory for everybody to get married,

  • it’s good young

  • you were saying people are thinking whether to get married.

  • I’m glad it is not necessary for everybody

  • but if you get into it and if you

  • especially if you get into children you must understand,

  • it’s a minimum twenty year project

  • whether you like it or you don’t like it.

  • Otherwise you shouldn’t get into those projects,

  • you don’t walk into a project, drop it half way and walk away, isn’t it?

  • Juhi Chawla: Yes.

  • It’s your choice

  • but at least choose consciously.

  • You don’t have to get married because everybody is getting married,

  • you don’t have to talk about marriage and divorce in same breath

  • as if they come together (Laughter).

  • This is a completely an American idea,

  • youre thinking of marriage and divorce together

  • nobody thought of divorce in this country till recently, isn’t it?

  • Juhi Chawla: Yes.

  • Sadhguru: So, if it happens,

  • if something happens

  • something truly went wrong between two people

  • and they have to separate that will any way inevitably happen.

  • You don’t have to plan it at the time of wedding (Laughter).

  • why should you ever talk about marriage and divorce in one breath?

  • It's a crime

Questioner: My name is Ananth.

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