Subtitles section Play video Print subtitles THERE IS MOUNTING EVIDENCE AND STUDIES REGARDING THE ORGASM GAP BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN, AND RECENT DATA INDICATES THAT UNFORTUNATELY 47% OF WOMEN ñ 40% OF WOMEN EXPERIENCE SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION, ASSOCIATED WITH A CHRONIC DIFFICULTY IN ACHIEVING ORGASM. THIS IS VERY DIFFERENT FOR MEN. ACCORDING TO THESE STUDIES, ALL GROUPS OF MEN ñ GAY, BISEXUAL, HETEROSEXUAL ñ ORGASM MORE THAN ALL GROUPS OF WOMEN. IT IS IMPORTANT TO NOTE THAT LESBIANS OUGHT TO HAVE A BETTER TIME ORGANIZING ñ ORGASM AND THEN STRAIGHT WOMEN, WHICH IS THE MOST UNSURPRISING THING I'VE EVER HEARD IN MY LIFE. THERE'S TWO ASPECTS TO THAT, RIGHT? THE HEART OF THIS STORY FOCUSES ON ANATOMY, IF YOUR ANATOMY IS STRUCTURED IN A CERTAIN WAY, YOU ARE LIFE ñ YOU ARE LESS LIKELY TO GET AN ORGASM, IT'S NOT HIM, IT'S NOT YOU, IT'S SLIGHTLY BASED ON ANATOMY. LESBIAN PARTLY ñ LESBIAN PARTNERS TO OPENLY DISPROVE THAT, THEY JUST LET YOU KNOW THAT THERE'S MORE OPTIONS, LIKE IF YOU CARE MORE ABOUT THE FEMALE BODY OR CARE MORE TO FIND OUT, YOU CAN PLEASE BETTER. BECAUSE LESBIANS DON'T HAVE A DIFFERENT ANATOMY AT A DIFFERENT RATE THEN STRAIGHT COUPLES DO, YOU SEE WHAT I'M SAYING? YEAH, IT'S NOT LIKE YOU HAVE THE ANATOMY AND YOU ARE OR ARE NOT LESBIAN THEREFORE. SO EVEN WITH THE SAME PERCENTAGE OF ANATOMY BEING DIFFERENT WITHIN WOMEN, WITHIN COUPLES, LESBIANS DO END UP ORGASM AND MORE, SO THAT SEEMS LIKE IT'S A LITTLE BIT MORE OF, THEIR PARTNER PUT MORE EFFORT INTO WHICH. THE FOCUS IS THE ORGASM WHEN IT'S TWO WOMEN. WHEN IT'S MEN, ANOTHER WORD FOR YOU, AND ñ IT'S AN ANDROCENTRIC MODEL OF SEX, WHICH MEANS IT IS FOCUSED ON EMAIL ORGASM. IF YOU GET IT, YOU GET IT, WHATEVER, IF YOU DON'T, I GOT MINE. I THINK WITH LESBIANS THE FOCUS IS ON PLEASING YOUR PARTNER; WHEREAS, WITH MEN THAT MAY NOT BE THE FOCUS ALL THE TIME. TO BE FAIR TO MEN NOW ñ EH - TO BE MORE ANDRO - SOMETHING SOMETHING, YOU CAN UNDERSTAND WHY MEN MAY BE FRUSTRATED, BECAUSE 40% OF WOMEN ARE HAVING DIFFICULTY ORGASMING. AND PEOPLE LIVE IN THEIR OWN PERSPECTIVE, SO A CERTAIN PERCENTAGE OF MEN ARE GETTING FRUSTRATED GOING, I DID THE BEST I COULD. I THINK THERE ARE SO MANY DIFFERENT FACTORS AT PLAY. THERE ARE BIOLOGICAL, OR AT LEAST PHYSICAL FACTORS, AND THERE'S CERTAIN WAYS THAT SOME WOMEN'S ANATOMY HELPS THEM ACHIEVE ORGASMS EASILY, AS OPPOSED TO OTHER WOMEN, AND THAT HAS TO DO WITH, YOU KNOW, WHERE THE CLEAREST IS, HOW LARGE THE CLUTTER THIS IS, THAT ACTUALLY DOES PLAY A ROLE. THERE IS ALSO THE COMPONENT OF HOW AROUSAL FOR WOMEN IS JUST AS IMPORTANT MENTALLY AS IT IS PHYSICALLY. YOU HAVE TO BE IN THE RIGHT PLACE MENTALLY FOR A LOT OF WOMEN. SO IF YOU ARE CONSCIOUS OR NOT IN THE MOOD TO HAVE SEX, THAT COULD REALLY IMPACT WHETHER OR NOT YOU CLIMAX. THERE WAS ANOTHER GREAT POINT MADE BY A PSYCHOLOGY ASSISTANT PROFESSOR, AND HE SAID THAT WOMEN HAVE A HIGHER BODY DISPATCH ñ DISSATISFACTION THAN MEN AND IT INTERFERES WITH THEIR SEX LIFE MORE. THIS CAN IMPACT SEXUAL SATISFACTION AND ABILITY TO ORGASM IF PEOPLE ARE FOCUSING MORE ON THESE CONCERNS. IT COULD BE THAT PEOPLE ARE FOCUSING ON THEIR BODIES, OR THAT THEY ARE BEING ñ WORRIED ABOUT BEING PERCEIVED A CERTAIN WAY IN THE BEDROOM BECAUSE OF SOCIETAL PRESSURES TO BE A GOOD GIRL AND THIS AND THAT. ALL THAT RELATES TO YOUR OVERALL POINT ABOUT HOW IT NEEDS TO BE IN THE HEADSPACE, BUT THAT IS TRUE FOR MEN TOO. NO. I WAS GOING TO SAY. THERE ARE A LOT OF MEN WHO ARE LIKE, I'M ABOUT TO ORGASM, ON THE OTHER HAND I'M NOT ATTRACTIVE. IF I'M ABOUT TO ORGASM, NOT THE ONLY THING ON MY MIND, AND IF I'M UNATTRACTIVE AND I DID IT ANYWAY, SCORE. IF MEN ARE FRUSTRATED THAT THEIR MEN CAN'T ACHIEVE ORGASM, YOU HAVE GOT TO TRY DIFFERENT MODES OF STIMULATION. I THINK THERE'S TWO SUPER INTERESTING THINGS WE HAVEN'T EVEN DISCUSSED HERE YET. TO AMBER'S POINT, HERE'S WHAT ONE OF THE RESEARCHERS SAID: "WE FOUND THAT THE DISTANCE BETWEEN THE S AND THE URINARY OPENING, WHICH IS CALLED CUMD - " I'M NOT KIDDING, " INDICATES WHETHER OR NOT A WOMAN IS INCLINED TO HAVE AN ORGASM WITH INTERCOURSE OR NOT. IF IT'S BELOW 2 CM, THEN SHE LIKELY IS GOING TO HAVE AN ORGASM WITH INTERCOURSE. SO, OKAY, I DON'T KNOW WHAT HAPPENED BUT THERE IS A FUNNY FEMALE MOMENT GOING ON OVER THERE. 2 CM, KNOW WHAT I'M SAYING? ANYWAY, SOMETHING AS OBSCURE, AND YOU PROBABLY NEVER EVEN THOUGHT OF, NOT LIKELY, OF COURSE YOU NEVER THOUGHT OF IT! THE RELATIONSHIP OF YOUR INTEREST TO YOUR URINARY OPENING, THAT APPARENTLY MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD. AND I REMEMBER A WHILE AGO YOU AND I ACTUALLY TALKED ABOUT A STUDY THAT TALKED ABOUT THE SIZE OF A WOMAN'S RISK, AND SO THE STUDY FOUND THAT THERE IS ñ A WOMAN'S CLITTORIS, AND VERY FOUND A CORRELATION BETWEEN THE SIZE AND ABILITY TO ORGASM, BUT THEY COULD NOT FIGURE OUT IF IT WAS A CAUSE OR EFFECT. IF YOU HAVE A LARGE ONE BECAUSE YOU ORGASM SO MUCH, OR IF YOU ORGASM SO MUCH BECAUSE IT IS LARGE. IT IS INTERESTING. ñ NO MATTER WHAT, IT DEBUNKS THIS IDEA THAT MEN COME TO YOU ABOUT THE SIZE OF THEIRS, WHEN IT'S ACTUALLY THE SIZE OF MINE. LITERALLY. AND BY THE WAY, IF IT'S NOT WITHIN 2 INCHES, THEN THEY SAY, YOU MIGHT HAVE TO MANUALLY STIMULATE DURING SEX. SO TRY A LITTLE HARDER, IS THE BOTTOM LINE TO THAT. BY THE WAY, SOME WOMEN DON'T ñ SOME WOMEN STILL DON'T ORGASM, AND YOU GOT A WHOLE RANGE. AT THE END OF THE DAY, IF THAT IS YOUR SITUATION, DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP OVER IT, IT MIGHT BE A MATTER OF ANATOMY, BUT GIVE IT A COLLEGE TRY 1ST. AND THEN FINALLY, I FOUND THIS SUPER INTERESTING BECAUSE IT HAS SOMETHING TO DO WITH EVOLUTION. SO APPARENTLY, OUR ANCESTORS, ORGASM USED TO MORE EASILY CAUSE OVULATION, OR USED TO CAUSE OVULATION. NOT HOMO SAPIENS, BUT OUR ANCESTORS OF HUMANS OVERALL. SO THERE WAS A POINT TO THE FEMALE ORGASM, A BIOLOGICAL, EVOLUTIONARY POINT TO IT. NOW IT IS ON A MENSTRUAL CYCLE, OBVIOUSLY. SO IT MIGHT BE THAT WE ARE IN MID EVOLUTION, AND SINCE WE ARE HUMANS WE GOT STUCK HERE. LIKE, THERE IS NO MORE EVOLUTION GOING ON BECAUSE WE HAVE MITIGATED OUR ENVIRONMENT, UNTIL OUR ENVIRONMENT FIGHTS BACK WITH THE OZONE LAYER BEING DEPLETED. BUT I'LL SAVE THAT FOR ANOTHER DAY. MAYBE THAT'S A GOOD THING, BECAUSE IF YOU ARE NOT GOING TO BE ABLE TO ORGASM AT ALL IN THE FUTURE, LIKE AS A RACE, OR FEMALES, WHAT'S THE POINT OF LIVING? THAT'S NOT FAIR. AND I'M POSITIVE THAT I'M OVERSIMPLIFYING, ALL OF THE SCIENTISTS OUT THERE WILL YELL YOU ñ WILL YELL AT ME. BUT BOTTOM LINE, IT MIGHT BE THAT SOME WOMEN OUT THERE ARE MORE LIKELY TO ORGASM BECAUSE OF THE WAY HUMANS HAVE EVOLVED, AND SOME ARE NOT. SO, AGAIN, IT STILL LEADS TO THE SAME CONCLUSION, WHICH IS GIVE IT YOUR BEST SHOT, BUT DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP TOO MUCH IF YOU ARE A WOMAN OR A MAN IF THERE IS JUST SOME ANATOMICAL THINGS THAT YOU CANNOT GET PAST.
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