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  • Alfred & Shadow - A Short Story About Emotions

  • What are emotions and how do they work?

  • Emotions are often feared and avoided, because they are so painful.

  • So, why focus on emotions?

  • Because emotions give you important information.

  • And tell you whether things are going your way.

  • Emotions help you to survive.

  • By providing an efficient, automatic way of responding rapidly to important situations.

  • Emotions help you to relate to other people and the expectations and demands of life.

  • Emotions tell you what you need. When you know what you need, you can take action to meet those needs.

  • Emotions also communicate what you feel.

  • You learn your emotional reactions through experience.

  • All your negative experiences can turn into a big, black and scary feeling inside

  • You learned many of your emotional reactions long ago.

  • (Ouch)

  • Your black shadow will therefore sometimes resemble a person who hurt you in the past.

  • But your emotional experience and reactions can always be changed or altered.

  • First, you need to know something about what your emotions are.

  • You have different basic emotions, some of which arouse you.

  • And some that calm you down.

  • These are: Shame... Fear...

  • Sadness

  • Anger

  • Disgust

  • Happiness

  • And surprise or interest

  • You have more unpleasant emotion than pleasant ones.

  • That means you often suffer quite a lot, but that's because the unpleasant emotions help you survive.

  • Feelings also tend to be more unpleasant if you fight them. If you allow them to be there,

  • they become less unpleasant. You can experience and express many different feelings.

  • Like feeling hopeless, irritated, anxious, excited, lonely,

  • embarrassed, suspicious, content and so on.

  • These feelings all arise from your basic emotions. For instance, feeling suspicious springs from fear.

  • And feeling lonely springs from sadness.

  • And then it gets complicated.

  • Emotions do not always provide you and your surroundings with good information.

  • Sometimes you fake emotions to get what you want.

  • At other times you cover up your "real" emotions with other emotions.

  • If you act like this.. (angry)

  • ..when you really feel like this (sad)

  • And your need is compassion and comfort, you will instead drive people away.

  • If you or someone around you is supportive, patient and curious enough to try to understand you.

  • You might realize that you are sad, and then get what you need to heal your painful emotion.

  • At other times again, your "real" emotions are messed up, and make a lot of trouble for you.

  • If you were scared a lot when you were a child.

  • You might grow up having a core feeling of being afraid.

  • You might over-protect yourself, so that no one can hurt you ever again.

  • Everyone who was hurt badly as a child has a deep need to feel safe, and a desire for someone to love them and connect with them.

  • And heavy protection doesn't give you this (love/attention).

  • You can tell or show someone you trust, that you are afraid.

  • You can welcome the feeling of being afraid and listen to it, instead of ignoring it and covering it up.

  • And the fear will then become more manageable.

  • You can also change fear by means of self-compassion and assertive anger.

  • You can stand up for yourself, without driving people away.

  • You can handle criticism, even if it hurts.

  • You can take the chance, and let people in, even if you are afraid of getting hurt again.

  • You feel and function better when you are aware of and deal with your "real" emotions, even if they are painful.

  • Your real emotions help you to get what you really need, both from yourself and others.

  • You feel and function better when your "real" emotions are fresh and new, instead of stuck old feelings.

  • You can trust your emotions if doing so gives you what you need.

  • Stuck and misguiding emotions can change if you:

  • Learn to attend to your emotions.

  • Are curious and patient with your own emotions.

  • Talk about and show your real emotions.

  • Learn to accept having different emotions.

  • And change emotions with emotions.

  • And all of this is easier to do with the empathy and support of another person.

Alfred & Shadow - A Short Story About Emotions

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    江育嘉 posted on 2020/09/05
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