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Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business
and life you love. And today is Q&A Tuesday, one of the best days of the week. Today’s
question comes from Lindsey and Lindsey writes:
“Hey Marie. First, you rock.” No, you rock. “Second, I’m seeking some spiritual
advice. Lately I’ve been struggling with resentment towards a particular person. I
know I need to let go of it, but my gut is telling me not to trust this person because
they’ve burned me before. I don't want this to eat me up inside because I know it’ll
just hold me back from becoming everything I’m meant to be. How do I let it go and
move on when I’m so full of distrust? Do you have any suggestions about how to forgive
without forgetting? Thanks so much, Lindsey.”
Lindsey, this is a fantastic question. Forgiveness is an important topic and it’s a vital spiritual
and emotional practice. You know, as Nelson Mandela once said, resentment is like drinking
poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies. Now, I personally get my inspiration from
others who demonstrate forgiveness in incredible ways. So I think about that guy Louis Zamperini,
the Olympic runner that turned war hero in Unbroken. He forgave the prison guard who
brutally tortured him for years. And, of course, I also think about the families of those who
were killed in the horrific shooting in Charleston who also forgave the person who murdered their
loved ones. That’s like forgiveness hall of fame.
Now, thankfully, Lindsey, I don't think your situation is quite as extreme, but still you
feel hurt and you feel betrayed. And you’re right when you say that not forgiving someone,
no matter what they did, will hold you back from being all you’re meant to be.
Here’s the big distinction I want you to get. Forgiving someone doesn't mean that you
instantly or ever trust someone again. Forgiveness and trust are separate issues. When you forgive
someone it doesn't mean that you condone their behavior and it doesn't mean that you’re
gonna tolerate any further abuse or lack of respect. And frankly, even if you fully forgive
someone you do not have to keep that person in your life.
Now, Lindsey, you’ve already said that your gut is telling you that you can’t trust
this person, and I think it’s wise to pay attention to that. Now, if you do choose to
keep this person in your life, they’re gonna need to rebuild that trust with you and that’s
likely gonna take some time.
Now, more importantly though, realize that forgiveness is not something that you do for
the person who wronged you. It’s something you do for you. Want a little etymology? The
Latin root means to give completely, without reservation. So think of it this way. When
you forgive, you’re giving a gift to yourself. A gift of freedom, mental, emotional, and
spiritual freedom. And here’s 2 steps to help you do it.
Step number one in this process is forgive yourself, especially if you’re having
any thoughts like, “Oh my goodness, how could I have been so stupid? How could I have been
so naive?” You've got to realize that this situation, like every situation, is an opportunity
to strengthen your soul. You know, every time that I’ve been burned, after I get over
that initial anger and hurt I always ask myself, “What can I learn from this? And how can
I grow from this?” And when I ask those wise questions, what comes back are usually
some really wise answers. Step number two is to forgive the person.
Now, I know that this is easier said than done and there are many, many different approaches
to forgiveness. There’s a spiritual approach, there’s a faith based, there’s a psychological
approach, and what I’ve seen to be the most important step in all of those approaches
is willingness. You being willing. That slight little shift in energy from, “Nuh uh. Can’t
do it,” to, “You know what? I don't know how, but I’m willing to forgive,” can
radically change everything. And a simple little prayer or a mantra that you might wanna
practice saying to yourself is this: “While I don't know how, I am willing to forgive.
Please God, the universe, Smurf fairies, whatever language suits you, show me the way.” Because
that simple willingness is often all it takes to melt the walls around your heart and begin
to truly forgive.
Now, before we wrap up there’s just one more thing that I wanna say about forgiveness
and, yes, it’s a Tweetable.
“Forgiveness isn’t weakness. It’s the ultimate sign of courage and strength.”
That was my A to your Q, Lindsey, and I really do hope it helps. Now I would love to hear
from you. Have you ever wrestled with forgiving someone or rebuilding trust after it’s been
broken? In terms of forgiving and forgetting, what’s worked for you and what hasn’t?
Now, as always, the richest discussions happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com,
and we have a lot of fun in the comments. So please go over there and let me know your
responses now.
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How To Forgive When You Can’t Forget

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Adam Huang published on January 31, 2016    Steven translated    Mandy Lin reviewed
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