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  • Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

  • and a life that you love. You know, recently I came across this quote from Mr. Chuck Swindoll

  • and it really lit me up. Now, it’s something that I’ve heard before but for whatever

  • reason this time it really sank in.

  • He says, “Life is 10% what happens to me, and 90% how I react to it.”

  • Pretty powerful, right? Because the fact is that things happen to us each and every day

  • that we have no control over. I mean, planes get delayed, we get sick, the internet goes

  • out in the midst of a huge project, we lose businesses, we lose jobs, and, unfortunately,

  • we lose people that we love.

  • Our lives radically change often at times whether we want them to or not. And ultimately,

  • the impact that any outside situation has on your life depends on how you react or respond to it.

  • So let’s go back to this quote one more time. “Life is 10% what happens to me, and

  • 90% how I react to it.” That means that as a factor of how your life goes and how

  • good it is, what happens to you is this tiny little sliver of your life pie. (Life pie)

  • I wanted to share this here because I believe that this is one of those major life lessons,

  • one of those critical truths that if you really, really get it, it can radically alter the quality

  • and the trajectory of your life. I mean, it can save your business, it can save your marriage,

  • it can be the difference between failure and success in pretty much any endeavor and ultimately

  • whether or not you reach your highest potential. Now, this idea is something that I personally

  • am always working on getting better at, and today I wanted to share 3 ways that you could

  • bring this rule to life, especially when the shiitake hits the fan.

  • Number one is hold that tongue. When I’m fired up and I am in reaction mode, I have

  • to hold my tongue. I need to give myself a chance to really feel what I’m feeling,

  • to actually process what’s happening, and think through my response. Otherwise if I

  • react and let that fired up Jersey girl out immediately, chances are I’m gonna make

  • what should be a minor situation into a big, hot, fat mess.

  • That is why I’m such a huge fan of meditation. Meditation really gives you the power to be

  • less reactive in life. Youre gonna have more control over your ability to chill out

  • and hold your tongue so when youre ready you can actually respond more thoughtfully

  • and appropriately.

  • Number two is check yourself. So a simple practice when something unexpected happens

  • in life and you are tempted to freak out is to stop and check yourself.

  • Ask, “Am I ok in this moment? Am I breathing? Is my heart beating? Is the ground still underneath

  • my feet?”

  • If you can say yes to all three, that means you are really ok right now and in some ways

  • now is all there is. So for me if I get penne on a brand new white comforter or I get a

  • flat tire on the way to the airport or if I get a text that my dad is in the hospital,

  • before I freak out and react to what’s happening around me, I really try and practice and stop

  • and ask myself, “Am I ok in this moment?” And so far, thankfully, the answer has always

  • been yes. And when I’m ok in this moment, my responses to whatever is happening come

  • from a much more grounded and effective place.

  • Number three: say, “And this is what I want.” So I learned this little mantra from my man

  • Josh and it’s something that he says often in his Committed Impulse class, specifically

  • when he’s making you do these crazy squats up on your tippy toes that make your legs

  • shake uncontrollably.

  • One caveat, this tool is super effective for pretty much everything besides tragedy level

  • events. I’m talking about traffic jams and tech trouble and lost credit cards and stuff

  • like that. It doesn't really apply to those heartbreaking and devastating events that

  • all of us have to face in our life. But saying, “and this is what I want,” either out

  • loud or in your head is a really effective way to reframe what you consider negative

  • or out of your control. So for example, there’s drilling outside my house and I’ve got to

  • write all day, and this is what I want. Or it’s raining on my wedding day, and this is what I want.

  • This little mantra trains your brain to fully embrace whatever is happening in each moment

  • and really own it as though you wanted it, which puts you in complete control of that

  • magical 90% of your life pie.

  • So I want to wrap up today with a great passage from our friend Chuck Swindoll that really

  • brings this idea home.

  • Attitude is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education,

  • money, circumstances, than failures and success, than what other people think, say, or do.

  • It is more important than appearance, ability, or skill. It will make or break a business,

  • a home, a friendship, an organization... The remarkable thing is I have a choice every

  • day of what my attitude will be. I cannot change my past. I cannot change the actions

  • of others. I cannot change the inevitable. The only thing I can change is attitude. Life

  • is ten percent what happens to me and ninety percent how I react to it.”

  • Now I would love to hear from you. What’s a specific area in your life that a shift

  • in your attitude, not circumstance, could make the greatest positive impact? Leave a

  • comment below and let me know. Now, as always, the best discussions happen after the episode

  • over at, so go there and leave a comment now.

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  • Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world needs that special

  • gift that only you have. Thank you so much for watching and I’ll catch you next time on MarieTV.

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