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  • We have another question! Amazing! How do I get here?

  • Hey, it's Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

  • and a life that you love. So much, so, so much. And today is Q&A Tuesday and today's

  • question comes from Victoria and Victoria writes.

  • Hi Marie, I'm wondering whether you have some tips for self-promotion. How to go about

  • speaking well of your brand and letting the passion shine through. How not to be afraid

  • to blow your own trumpet. You seem much better at this in the US than we are here in Australia.

  • I always feel self-conscious and nervous when I try to promote my own business, like I'm

  • bragging. Please help. Thanks, Victoria.”

  • Great question, Victoria, and I hear this all the time. You know, you often hear the

  • term shameless self-promotion as though there should be shame in self-promotion. I think

  • it's important that we slow down and really ask ourselves this question: where did we

  • learn that self-promotion is bad and, more importantly, why do we accept that as the truth?

  • As intelligent thinking human beings, why is speaking about something that we do or

  • have done a bad thing? And why do we equate expressing joy or confidence or pride about

  • our work with something we should feel shame for? It's just crazy. I have a completely

  • different point of view on this. In fact, I think you should feel ashamed if you don't

  • promote yourself.

  • Point is, if you do something great I wanna know about it. So here are 3 reframes to help

  • you get a little more comfortable tooting your own horn. And the first one is focus

  • on what you can give versus what you can get. So I say this every single week, right, the

  • world needs that special gift that only you have, and I mean it. And if you hold back

  • from self-promoting, you are stealing from those who need you most. So you need to really

  • start thinking of self-promotion as service, like a public service.

  • On a practical level, you never know if someone needs to hear about what you do. If not for

  • themselves, maybe for their friend or colleague. I'm sure you've had this happen in your

  • own life. You go out and you hear about what somebody does and maybe they're a web designer

  • and you say, “OMG, you're exactly the kind of person I've been looking for. Thank

  • goodness you said something.”

  • Number two is stop caring. Not about other people, just what they think. So many of us

  • shy away from self-promotion because we're afraid that people won't like us, that they'll

  • judge us, that they'll find us totally annoying. Well, guess what? People already don't like

  • you, they already judge you, and unfortunately they probably find you annoying. I'm sorry

  • to say that that's true, but it's true about you and it's true about me.

  • Now, the real question is, who are you living your life for? I'm pretty comfortable with

  • self-promotion and it's not because I'm from the US. It's because I care more about

  • getting my ideas out there and helping as many people as possible than I do trying to

  • live my life trying to be unjudged, which is pretty much impossible. So you've got

  • to ask yourself, what do you want on your tombstone? What do you want them to say at

  • your funeral?

  • Now, of course we're having some fun here, Victoria, but the point is a valid one. And

  • like everything else in life, there is an art to self-promoting, which brings me to

  • my next point. Number three, do not be a broken record.

  • So yes, do let us know that you're great. Tell us why. But have other things to talk

  • about. I mean, think about it, if you talked about your kids and only your kids again and

  • again or if I talked about Game of Thrones and only Game of Thrones over and over again,

  • it would get pretty darn boring fast. So make sure you have variety and different topics

  • and, of course, make sure that you celebrate other people and you'll be totally fine.

  • One last thing Victoria, what you're feeling is not just because you're from Australia.

  • Most of us grow up being told don't brag and don't show off, and I think it's time

  • that we all started to untangle these feelings of shame and self consciousness from sharing

  • our gifts and offering our service to the world. And we can start by remembering this tweetable:

  • Instead of calling it shameless self-promotion, let's take the shame out of it altogether.

  • Victoria, that was my A to your Q and I really hope it helps. Now I would love to hear from you,

  • and it’s a two parter today. So number one, have you ever held yourself back from

  • sharing about who you are or what you do? What fear or concern stopped you? And number

  • two, when it comes to self-promotion, which idea from today's episode do you need to

  • remember the most and why?

  • Now, as always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at,

  • so go there and leave a comment now.

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