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  • Marie: What up? What up? What up? You are watching MarieTV- business and life advice

  • that works and today is a very special edition. You know you all were asking me to do more

  • book reviews and, gosh darn it, I am doing one today. Today is the most exciting book

  • release that I have been able to talk about in a long time, that is, because it is Miss

  • Danielle Laporte’s The Fire Starter Sessions. Oh yes! Oh yes! Oh yes! Now before I tell

  • you about how much I love this book, well, I will just tell you right now, I absolutely

  • adore this book.  But weve got a special treat today because we are gonna talk to the

  • author herself and were gonna talk about something that I quite frankly thought was

  • woo woofor a long time and it’s about visualization in business. Does it work or

  • is it just airy-fairy kaka? Were gonna find out in just a minute. Stay tuned.

  • Marie: Hello, hello, hello everyone! I’m right here again with you and as promised,

  • I have Miss Danielle LaPorte with us. Oh my goodness! The author of this incredible book,

  • The Fire Starter Sessions. I was just telling Danielle before the recorder went on that

  • Josh has been coveting this book- he's like, “Marie, where’s Danielle’s book? I want

  • to read it”. You know, I’ve known Danielle for a while, I have the incredible pleasure

  • of having her as one of my dearest friends and the other night, I was just up probably

  • closetil about 2 a.m. in the morning and I even read the manuscript before.  That’s

  • how good this book is- like for me to be up that late in it a second time. You have to

  • get this book and I am honored today that were publishing this interview on the very

  • beautiful day that it's released into the world, right D?

  • Danielle: Wooo! It’s pub day! It’s pub day!

  • Marie: It’s pub day! It’s pub day! It’s pub day! So let’s get into it. You know,

  • I opened this segment kinda teasing a little bit saying that we are gonna talk about a

  • topic today that I personally, you know was a little resistant to earlier in my career-

  • the whole idea of visualization. And the reason that I was resistant to it was it was prior

  • to me understanding kinda of all the underpinnings of living in the moment so I used to visualize

  • and I was what our friend Gabby Bernstein callsfuture tripping”, like I was so

  • grasping at this future reality and I think I was making one of the mistakes that you

  • are gonna talk about just a few minutes. But now, I am a believer but I know that many

  • people watching MarieTV, you know we have our audience in 188 countries around the world,

  • we often get very pragmatic, practical you know step-by-step kind of advice. So if they

  • maybe sayin’ “Girl! Did you go a little woo-woo when were talking about visualization

  • in business?” But no. So D, can you school us? Give us a mini-sermon about visualization

  • and what is it and why is it even useful for us, especially entrepreneurs.

  • Danielle: I think everybody visualizes. If you think into yourself, I'm gonna get that

  • fat check, I'm gonna get the keys, I'm gonna get the gig, you are on some level, in some

  • way, visualizing. So the trick is to like really optimize it as a tool for creating

  • for you and what I see going wrong with sort of the ultrawoo wooteaching of how

  • to visualize is that it just kinda gets us to this foreplay state. It keeps us in this

  • fantasy zone and you know we all want to get beyond foreplay. Haha!

  • Marie: haha!

  • Danielle: So you know what, I went into this big speaking event once and they did this

  • guided visualization for like the twenty-five hundred people that were there and the woman

  • got on stage with the best of intentions all like twinkling music andSee your dream

  • and you are walking down this path and know that you dream is possible. Now, open your

  • eyes.” And I turn to my girlfriend and I said, “Possible? My dream is a done  f***ing

  • deal!” And she said, “Ditto, me too!” So here's why you want to get into the state

  • of done f***ing deal. It calms you down. So first of all let me say, nothing is ever a

  • done deal. This is not about like manipulating the universe. Nothing is certain, there's

  • gonna be change. You'll gonna fail, you'll gonna succeed, twists and turns but when you

  • get in the state of done deal, your nervous system kinda goes ahh... And you remove the

  • anxiety ofit could, it should, wouldn’t that be nice?” And you know everybody right

  • now just thinkwouldn't it be nice?” And now think hmm.. isn’t that great? It

  • like totally changes your body.

  • Marie: It does and you know I can think about that with a few projects that we have in our

  • pipeline, like as you were speaking and you were saying that I was trying on the possibility

  • of it versus oh! this thing that were creating that’s a done deal and I could literally

  • feel the cells in my body. I could feel my shoulders going down, I could feel everything

  • just relaxing in and also my heart opening up like a sense of confidence and a sense

  • of power, just from trying that idea on so I love this.

  • Danielle: So you get the chill and then something will happen where in that chill space, that

  • dream of this is done, strategies will start to come in. You get in that space of you reverse

  • engineer. “Oh! It's done so if it's done, this is what I need to do to actually walk

  • into that dreamso you get more strategic and then, and I love this partcuz I love,

  • you know I'm all about the stop-doing list, and I know youre are all about getting

  • on the no train. Thisll help you get on the no train.

  • Marie: Yeah!

  • Danielle: When youre in the done deal state, you get closer to your dream and you can kinda

  • like you can see the shape of it, you can see all the implications of it, the things

  • that are gonna happen when it's real when you get there and you may get close and you

  • go hmm.. “that's not what I want, that's not how I wanna live my life, this is not

  • the right timeso are you get empowered to back away from your dream and youre

  • never obligated to a dream, you're never obligated to a visualization- so done deal, assess yes

  • or no and then reverse-engineer.

  • Marie: I love it! So let me ask you this, just a personal question because I'm curious

  • and I'm sure my audience is curious too. When it comes to how to visualize, wow! I apparently

  • need more coffee, when it comes to actually how to do it, is it a daily practice, do you

  • find yourself doing it you know every morning or is it one of those things that kind of

  • ebbs and flows and it's just kinda a natural occurrence and youve trained yourself to

  • rather to visualize a possibility you've now created the habit to visualize something as

  • a done deal?

  • Danielle: For myself, I have like the big moment visualization. That's when I've got

  • my mole skin, I have my Papermate pen, I'm just you know I have my tools and I kinda

  • write out the plan and I get very clear, this is so important - I get very clear on how

  • I wanna feel. “When I hit the New York Times best-seller list, this is how I want to feel.

  • I want to feel free, I want to feel empowered, I want to feel affluent, I want to feel useful.”

  • And then, I think about the little seemingly like just trivial playful things I'm gonna

  • do when I get into like done deal is the real deal which is like who are the first three

  • people I'm gonna call when this happens? And what am I gonna do with it? I think I'm gonna

  • have a mani-pedi and I'm gonna go out and have a cold Corona that night and I'm gonna

  • call so and so. I'm gonna call Forleo and Chris. Ahaha! And Forleo is gonna say... And

  • that's all part of that visualization process and it gets the blood moving and it also gets

  • you thinking well, maybe I should call Forleo right now, because she'll tell me what the

  • f**k to do!

  • Marie: I love it! I know I can hear people because I know people love step-by-steps and

  • I know that is not necessarily like you're kinda a free-flowing gal. Have you ever come

  • across in your work because I know youve worked with hundreds if not thousands of people,

  • do people create a habit around it in terms of doing it everyday? I'm not, like besides

  • my green juice and a little meditation and hopefully some nookie, when you know mama

  • can get it up, like it's not like I have a set formula and people always ask me that,

  • like you know do you do the same thing everyday like I'm like probably shoot myself if I did

  • the same thing everyday so am I hearing that you don't necessarily recommend that people

  • like visualize?

  • Danielle: I don't do anything everyday because it doesn't make me feel free because I'm clear

  • in my core-desired feelings I want the most is freedom so the whole point is that this

  • is gotta work for you just like time management, just like working out, visualization as a

  • practice actually has to feel good because if you are sitting there at 8:37 every morning

  • and just like squeezing out your visualizations, youre actually, you affect the outcome

  • of the done deal so you want this to feel good. However, to just get really teachy,

  • I think when you conceptualize something, youve have to, youve got to go full

  • tilt with the visualization. And maybe that's it. Like that’s sorta my style, like that's

  • the vision. I know how I want to feel, I know my matrix of success for that. I'm done and

  • there's something really empowering by that. I just like hand it over to life and then

  • I show up. I meet life half-way. I go meet that vision half-way with my strategy and

  • my phone calls and doing what I need to do.

  • Marie: Yeah, I love that! I absolutely love that! I wanna just quote one thing before

  • we start to wrap this up. On page 116 on your book- again which you all go out and get this

  • right nowthe best book ever! I love this and I feel like it's a tweetable - “You

  • have to believe it to see it”, you have to believe it to see it and I just read that

  • and the hair stood up on my Italian arms and I was likeOh! I love it!” I just think

  • it's absolutely gorgeous and I know that we wanted to help people as we always do with

  • MarieTVtake action. So below this video, Danielle has been gracious enough to gift

  • us some of the worksheets that are straight from the book to help you actually take what

  • we are talking about today, right D?

  • Danielle: Yup!

  • Marie: And really start putting all of your dreams and your thoughts down on paper and

  • to  start to get that clarity that we are talking about so you can try it on to see

  • huh, as you get closer does it feel good, is this my truth? And if the answer is yes,

  • you'll have it right there on paper so you can have these clear, it's a done deal type

  • of visions and then start moving and shaking and make it happen.

  • Danielle: They're super useful and super practical. These are not fluffy worksheets. The first

  • one, Dream Analysis is about really looking out why you want what you want. I think some

  • us inherent, ah, inherit, visions.

  • Marie: Yes!

  • Danielle: It's your mom's dream, it's the Jones' dream, and something on reality television

  • which is not real anyway so really, really is this you know do you need what you think

  • you need? And then the second worksheet is about really pushing yourself, sorta get all

  • that negative talk out of your system about why youre so unreasonable and why the odds

  • are stacked against you and really ahh... I don’t want to say combat, it's not the

  • best, but really meet that with some like some positive positioning but then I you know

  • it's a call to actioncuz everything’s gotta be a call to action.

  • Marie: CTA’s! I love CTA’s! Marketing and in life! CTA’s!

  • Danielle: CTA's- three things that you're gonna do that may be outrageous to put that

  • dream into reality this week.

  • Marie: I love it! This is perfect! So all y’all, you have the wisdom from Danielle

  • below. Again, I cannot stress to you enough. I'm not saying thiscuz she's my friend,

  • cuz y’all know I do not blow smoke up people's as***, not even my girlfriend's as**s.

  • I tell them all the time like that's a shi**y idea. But this book the reason I say this

  • is this book is a must-read for everyone on the planet. Anyone you care about, get them

  • as gifts. And Danielle and I you know we always like to challenge you in these videos to comment

  • and to talk to us, so what I’d love to hear from you all and hopefully Danielle will be

  • interested in hearing this toodo you have experience with visualization and specifically

  • have you ever seen something in your mind's eye and seen it so clearly that was a done

  • deal and then whether it's a month or two months or three years or five years it becomes

  • your reality? We'd love to hear about that so please tell us in the comments below your