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  • ♫ I have permission to do it I want, I do it I want

  • Hey there, it’s Marie Forleo and youre watching MarieTV, the most beautiful place

  • to be if you want a business and a life that you love. And today is one of the best days

  • of the week. It’s Tuesday. It’s Q&A Tuesday and that means Q’s and A’s and today’s

  • Q comes from Ajah and she writes:

  • Hi Marie, how are you? I’m a 15 year old girl from Montreal, Canada. First I’d

  • like to say thank you for your videos; they really help me. Smiley face. Here’s my Q,

  • a lot of times I feel like I’m not needed and I’m useless and a mistake and an ugly

  • girl. I’m so alone and it feels like I’m drowning and cannot breathe. Is there a way

  • that you can help me and other kids out there who go through the same thing? Love, Ajah.”

  • Ajah, this is a really important question and before we get into the answer I wanna

  • tell you 5 things that I know about you as a human being just by reading your question.

  • Number one, you are so brave. You shared something publicly that’s clearly painful for you

  • right now. Number two, you are kind and youre considerate. First of all, you asked how I’m

  • doing when youre having a really rough time and you also included the phonetic pronunciation

  • of your name, which is unique, and you did that so I wouldn’t have to stumble figuring

  • out how to pronounce it. Number three, you are a really gifted communicator. You asked

  • your question so succinctly and out of all of the thousands of questions I get yours

  • was one of the first that I didn't have to shorten. Youre also a leader because youre

  • asking this question not just for yourself but on behalf of all other kids that go through

  • this too. And finally, you are an action taker. You know, not everybody who feels the way

  • that you do would actually write the email and send it in to get help. So that’s something

  • you should really take pride in.

  • When I was a teenager, I often felt the same way that you do. I remember thinking that

  • my eyes were too far apart, that I had way too much arm hair, I had braces, I had glasses,

  • and I often hated the way that I looked. But I wanna tell you something that I wish someone

  • told me when I was your age. You know, we all have this voice in our head that says

  • mean things to us, but as Eckhart Tolle teaches us, you have a mind but you are not your mind.

  • In other words, that voice in your head that calls you ugly and useless, that voice is

  • not you Ajah, and it’s not true. Some people like to call that voice our ego, other people

  • call it our monkey mind. I like to think about it like a radio station that plays in all

  • of our heads in the background and that radio station is called W-KRAP FM.

  • Look Ajah, I know that were poking a little bit of fun here, but this is something that

  • I really want you to get. That voice doesn't know Jack. Seriously. Who you are is the awareness

  • beyond that voice. And one of the secrets to happiness in life is to train yourself

  • to recognize when youre listening to that voice, it really is crap radio. And here’s

  • the thing, that voice seems to pop up for all of us throughout our entire life and the

  • real secret is to recognize when youre listening to crap radio and then change the

  • station. These three tips will help.

  • Number one is meditate on the daily. I know weve talked about this before, but it is

  • so important. I’ve been meditating since I was 17 and it has completely changed my

  • life. Every single time that you meditate you strengthen your connection to your true

  • self, not to crap radio. And the other thing is, every time you meditate you strengthen

  • your ability to disengage from crap radio whenever it comes up. You know, you don't

  • need to do a ton. Again, I usually do 10 minutes a day, more if I have time. But if you wanna

  • check it out, there is boatloads of research that proves scientifically how beneficial

  • meditation is for your mind, your body, and your soul.

  • Number two is you can help someone. So one of the best ways to disengage from crap radio

  • is to actually engage with the world around you. So Asia, maybe you can help someone else

  • with their homework or give someone a genuine compliment. You know, if you enjoyed hearing

  • those five great things about you maybe you want to write down five great things about

  • somebody else onto a card and send it to them. I mean, who wouldn’t want to get that?

  • Number three is change the station, and I mean literally change the station. If you

  • find yourself listening to crap radio I want you to change the station and put on some

  • killer music and dance it out. In fact, I think we should do that right now.

  • But seriously Ajah, crank up those tunes and get moving. It’s really important that you

  • make the mind-body connection. Any time that you exercise, which, yes, includes dance,

  • youre gonna release all of these endorphins that will completely change how you feel about

  • yourself and the world around you.

  • So as we wrap up I wanna leave you with one last idea that I want you to take into the

  • rest of your life and, yes, it’s a tweetable.

  • That mean voice in your head is not you and not true.

  • That was my A to your Q, please keep in touch with us and let us know how it goes. Now I

  • would love to hear from you. Did you ever feel like Ajah does? Or do you feel that way

  • now? How do you deal with crap radio? And, of course, if you have something special that

  • you wanna tell Ajah, please let her know in the comments below.

  • And for extra credit, you should copy and paste the prompt below so you can share 5

  • great things about somebody you know.

  • As always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com, so go

  • on over and leave a comment now.

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  • Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world needs that special

  • gift that only you have. Thank you so much for watching and I’ll catch you next time

  • on MarieTV.

♫ I have permission to do it I want, I do it I want

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