Name: 6 Love Experts Share Their Top Dating & Relationship Advice (Compilation Episode)
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These are the nine things you need to know about love.

The number one health and wellness podcast, Jay Shetty.

Thanks so much for tuning back into On Purpose.

Today we're diving into one of the most important topics in all of our lives.

And love isn't just about romantic relationships.

It's about understanding ourselves, building meaningful connections, and growing into the best versions of who we are.

So in this special compilation episode, I've gathered wisdom from some of the best minds out there to help you navigate love with more clarity, confidence, and

Number one, how do we know if someone is wasting our time?

Whether it's a relationship that feels stagnant or a connection that just doesn't seem to be going anywhere, or we need to recognize the signs to break it down for us, we have Stephan Speaks, relationship coach, speaker, and

He's helped millions navigate love with honesty and self awareness.

So, to me again, I think it always starts with self.

And you have to be honest with yourself about why are you still here?

Because just using an example, let's say you're a woman, and

the only reason why you're holding onto this guy is because he's a nice guy.

You don't feel like starting the process over with somebody else.

So even though you're not feeling it with him, you figure, let me try to make it work.

This is where you're setting yourself up for disaster every single time.

So if it's not born out of a true connection, love, a genuine desire.

Of course, there's always things we have to work through.

But is the foundation strong enough for us to say, okay, we can make something special here?

And I think once we are honest with ourselves, that kind of helps answer the question.

Because sometimes we get so caught up trying to analyze the other individual that it's like we get in our heads and now we're missing the mark on what's really important here.

And we can't always say for sure what's going on with them.

I will say that in general, if this person isn't willing to talk about things, they're wasting your time.

If they're not willing to address or correct things that have been talked about, they're wasting your time.

If you guys aren't on the same page about what you want and where you want to go in life wasting time.

So there are some things I think we can just look at and say, listen, this is pointless here.

I have to say this, especially for women, women's intuition is extremely powerful.

And I feel like women know very early this isn't it, but

they rationalize reasons to convince themselves to give this man a chance.

And this, again, is a waste of time because it just doesn't work.

I've seen people turn what should have been maybe a couple weeks of dating into years of being married to someone they were not happy with, all because they did not listen to themselves from the beginning.

They knew what it was, but they just could not accept it for what it was.

I mean, I love that it's such an important reminder.

Trust your intuition and be honest with yourself.

Sometimes we overanalyze the other person instead of checking in with our own feelings.

Number two, how do we know if what we're feeling is true connection or just chemistry?

Are you even being yourself, or can you be yourself with this individual?

If you're presenting your representative, then this is not a real connection.

This is them falling for that person that you're presenting, but that's not real.

So to me, you should be already being yourself, but with that person you have a connection with.

We just feel so much more comfortable around them.

I think in addition to that is when you find yourself all caught up in the moment and.

And caught up in that chemistry again, you have to ask yourself, what am I really attaching myself to?

What do I really like about this individual?

What I find is that when it's really about chemistry, we're still on the surface.

You guys had a good time, maybe you had fun at this event.

You guys were able to talk about a lot of different things, which is great, which is going to also be important if there is a connection.

However, do you even know what kind of relationship they want?

Do you know what kind of life they want to live?

You know, are you guys really on the same page?

I think connection is our paths align, our purposes align.

So for us to align, we have to have a deeper understanding of where we're headed and can we head there together?

So that's why I think, though you may feel it, or you may feel like you're feeling it you have to do your due diligence to dig deeper to find out, okay, is this just I got caught up on the surface or there is something real here?

And I think once we ask enough questions, because I think that's the other big problem.

We have this experience where we feel this chemistry.

We're so excited and now we're afraid to ask questions because we don't want to blow up the fantasy.

We're just like, no, no, I want to keep believing this is great.

But that's going to be what tells us if this is real or not.

I think for so many people, you set unrealistic expectations in who you are.

And that's why it's so important for us to know who we are so that we can present the real from the jump, you know, because again, a lot of times people, you know this idea that we're always changing.

But some of the big shifts that you see is not because that's just the way life is.

It's because you didn't take the time to figure yourself out from first.

And then you got with this person and now you want them to adjust.

She was able to adjust, but there's a lot of people that they can't handle that.

And now everything falls apart from there.

So that's why, yeah, we, we have to be very careful with what we're presenting from the beginning.