Name: These 3 Questions Will Change How You Do EVERYTHING!
Uploaded: 2026-03-06T05:32:12.000Z
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Every moment of your life, you're answering three questions.

First question is, what are you gonna focus on right now?

If you're focusing on how you're gonna use what you can learn this weekend, you could be focusing on the smell of your neighbor.

After all that jumping up and down, there's so many things you can focus on.

We focus on a small number of things, and that's what we experience in life.

Whatever you focus on, you're gonna feel even if it's not true.

Have you ever had somebody tell you something and said you think John is your friend, John's not your friend.

He's talking behind your back, and you go, no, he's not.

But if two or three people tell you John's talking behind your back, you can get pretty pissed off because that's really just hurt, right?

Confronted somebody about something you've done and then found out you were wrong and felt like an idiot.

So the most powerful decision we make, most of us don't make it consciously is what are we going to focus on?

Because you could be focusing right now on the blood rushing through your left ear or the touch of your clothes against your skin, but

Most of what your brain does is distort, delete, and generalize to make life simple.

And the problem is, when you distort, delete, and generalize, you miss a lot of your life.

So we want to kind of see if we can't get out of that.

And what we got to do is figure out what the focus is.

You tell me which of these are you, and there's no right or wrong.

And don't get personal about it, because if you don't like your answer, we can fix it.

If I asked you, there are two things you could focus on, what you have or what's missing.

Which one do you spend more time focusing on?

If you focus more on what's missing, raise your hand nice and high.

For you, it's a really important question.

Just think software, don't think personality.

If your brain is constantly focusing, what's missing?

And it's dominant in this room because most of you, how many, consider yourself to be an achiever, that's part of who you are as an identity.

So as an achiever, looking for what's wrong for a moment so you can fix it can be a good thing.

But what happens is it becomes a habit and then it doesn't matter how much you achieve, you're not happy.

You know how many multi billionaires, you know how many entertainers with their Oscars or their Emmys or their Grammys that I work with?

Who you think would be the happiest people in the world?

They're worth almost a billion dollars, some of them.

They're the best in the world at what they do.

Everybody loves them and they're miserable.

It's because they keep focusing on what's missing, no matter what they have.

This weekend, if you that would change your life.

What happens when you focus on what you have?

You feel alive, you feel no scarcity, you feel joy.

How many of you have lots of things in your life that if you focused on it, you could feel grateful for, you could feel excited about?

But it doesn't exist unless you focus on.

The second question is, what does this mean?

Because the minute you focus on something, you have to give it a meaning.

See, if you think it's the end of a relationship, are you going to feel the same way, act the same way, as if you think it's the beginning of a relationship?

The answer to the third question, which is, what am I going to do?

Whatever you give a meaning, you're gonna have a feeling.

If you think God is punishing you, you're gonna have a very different feeling from that meaning than you think God is challenging you or this problem is a gift from God.

Say I people oftentimes have trouble in their relationship.

In the beginning of relationship what's your focus?

Are you trying to get them to give you things?

When you really love somebody, what will you do for them?

If someone says to you, would you take out the trash?