Name: It’s Never Too Late to Start Over! Let Me Prove it..
Uploaded: 2026-02-06T14:22:40.000Z
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The imperative

Don't judge today's progress by yesterday's definition of success.

Past simple

The comparative

Don't hold yourself hostage to the dreams of your younger self.

Don't compare today's version of you to an old standard that no longer fits.

Yesterday's goals were right for who you were then.

Today's goals are right for who you are right now.

The number one health and wellness podcast, Jay Shetty.

And whether you're cooking, whether you're cleaning, whether you're rushing off to work, whether you're at the gym, whether you're walking your dog, I'm so grateful that you're joining me.

Thank you for letting me into your life and your ears.

I don't take your time for granted and I want to make this the best 30 minutes to shift your mindset.

So if you've been feeling stuck, if you're feeling late, if you're feeling behind, this episode is for you.

Maybe you're seeing all your friends get married right now and you're thinking, I don't even know who I'm going to be with.

Maybe all your friends are getting promoted or moving into a nicer apartment and you're thinking, I'm still living at home.

Maybe some of you are looking around you and just thinking, everyone seems to be doing better, Everyone seems happier, everyone seems like they have more going on and I'm feeling bored.

If you felt any of those things, I want you to know that what you're thinking and feeling right now is actually the launch pad to your best self, not a dead end.

They just feel more unattainable than ever.

We grew up in a world that was all about going to college, getting a good degree, getting a good job, getting married.

And all these things had to happen by a certain age, then having kids by a certain age, promoted by a certain age.

And it almost feels like we're still living by those metrics, but

in a world that has drastically changed, in a world that is actually processing itself completely differently.

Industries have changed, apps have been invented.

There is so much happening with AI and technology, but

we're still living by the same metrics of success.

What I want to address today is talk about the emotional response and the thought in your head and the feelings that you're having and talk to you about the research, the data, and

the reflective approach to what's really happening in our lives.

So the first thought that a lot of us are having right now, and

maybe you've had this one as well, is I am behind everyone.

I'm behind, I've been left behind, everyone's ahead of me.

Sociologists call this the idea of a social clock.

Milestones like marriage, kids or career by a certain age.

But studies show that people who deviate from the social clock often report equal or greater life satisfaction.

So we think if I stay on track, I'll be happier.

But the truth is those who deviate are either equally as happy or potentially even more happy.

The social clock is the unspoken timeline society sets for us.

Graduate by your early 20s, marry by your late 20s, kids by 30, house by 35, career peak by 40, etc, etc, etc.

But what researchers found is that they studied adults who were on time, following the clock, and

those who were off time later or earlier than expected milestones.

The result, people who felt comfortable with their own timing, even if it deviated, reported equal or greater life satisfaction compared to those who rigidly followed the clock.

I really want you to digest this, I really want you to inhale and breathe this in.

Those who deviate from the social clock are equally as happy, if not more happy.

If you're not married yet and you think you should be, if you haven't got promoted yet and you think you should be, if you haven't had kids yet and you think you should have, that doesn't steal your chance at a happy, joyful, wonderful life.

The key factor wasn't when milestones happened, but how much control and meaning people felt over their lives.

What we're struggling with at the root is 30 and 35 and 40 gives us a sense of control.

So when we get to 32 and we haven't found our person, we think we've lost control.

We think we've lost agency, we think we've lost the ability to choose.

What we're really worried is about control.

I want to be able to control my life and if everyone's doing something at 30, that means I'm out of control.

You control the things you can change, you control the things you can impact.

You control the things you can influence.

It's that which is going to make your life happy.

Why this matters psychologically is that feeling in charge of your choices predicts happiness more than hitting milestones on a schedule.

Feeling in charge of your choices, that's what we're looking for as humans.

We want to feel like, I know why I'm doing this, but let's take a look at this.

If you make a decision based on a milestone and your only reason is, I think I'm late, you're not going to feel in charge of your choices.

If your only thought is, I don't want to be left behind, you're not really in charge of your choices.

If your only thought is, everyone's doing it, why am I not?

You're not in charge of your choices, which leads to bad decisions.

I always say to people it's better to be single and deal with the challenges that come with that in your mind and in your thoughts than the challenges of being with someone who's not right for you.

It comes with so much more baggage, so much more stress.

So knowing you're in charge of your choices will change your life.

Now, people who felt pressured by the clock often reported anxiety, depression or dissatisfaction if they felt behind.

But those who redefined success on their own terms tended to have healthier mental well being.

The social clock has loosened since the 1960s.

People marry later, they switch careers more often, they delay kids.

And we're going to talk about all of those things later on in this video.

But the pressure still exists and it's just amplified by social media.

The researcher's finding is more relevant than ever before.

If you detach your self worth from society's stopwatch, you actually increase your odds of life satisfaction.

The research proves what we keep trying to avoid.

You're only late if you're living by someone else's watch.

It's almost like you're living in New York, but

you're looking at someone who lives in Singapore and thinking you're behind.

You couldn't possibly be on the same time as Singapore.

Is it weird that Australia celebrates New Year's before all of us?

No, we're just following a different clock.

Stop believing everyone else's highlight reel.

Stop chasing everyone else's definition of success.

Stop trying to reach everyone else's milestones.

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