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  • Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

  • and life that you love. And today is Q&A Tuesday, one of our favorite days of the week. And

  • today’s question comes from Kristin and she asks:

  • Hi Marie. I’m Kristin and I am an 11 year old girl who has been watching you for

  • about 6 months now. And, what can I say? Youre funny, youre hip, youre sassy, youre

  • creative, and, when you need to be, professional. And I honestly fell in love with you on the

  • first video. So here’s my Q: what do you do when you feel lost about what you like,

  • about what you love, and what you wanna be? Bye!”

  • Kristin, this is an incredible question and I wish I could sit down with you and answer

  • all of your Q’s because youre brilliant. Youre so curious and amazing and youre

  • just 11 years old. Now, the first thing I wanna say is that feeling confused or lost

  • about what you like and what you wanna be is something that nearly all of us struggle

  • with.

  • You know, another way that people ask this is, what should I do with my life when I grow

  • up? Youll probably be asked this question many, many times. It’s because adults have

  • been asked this question our whole lives and it’s kind of the way that we relate to each

  • other. Now, here’s my problem with this question, particularly for someone your age.

  • This question puts a lot of pressure on you because you don't have to make this decision

  • right now. Where you are in your life, it’s all about being creative and exploring and

  • learning, exactly what youre doing. And, here’s the thing, youre probably gonna

  • change what you wanna do for a career many times between now and when you finish your

  • formal education, and even as an adult too.

  • Now, for everybody else, especially if youre an adult and youre still asking yourself,

  • What should I be when I grow up?” hopefully this will help you too. Instead of asking,

  • What should I do?” a way more powerful and useful question to ask yourself is, “Who

  • do I want to be?” Meaning what kind of person do you want to be in this world? What’s

  • the energy that you wanna bring to anything that you actually do? So, here’s the thing,

  • this is a very different question to ask yourself and itll get you completely different results.

  • After all, you are a human being, not a human doing, and who you are shows up in everything

  • that you do.

  • So, Kristin, I want you to sit down and really ask yourself, who do I wanna be in this world?

  • Do I wanna be loving, kind, inclusive? Do I wanna be playful, engaged, compassionate?

  • Really think through what being qualities are most important to you. Maybe itll be

  • being artistic and sharing your art with the world. Maybe itll be being helpful and

  • being a leader.  Then just ask yourself, “How can I take what’s already in my heart

  • and express this into the world? What can I do right now to express exactly who I am

  • and who I wanna be?”

  • When I’m feeling lost, that’s what I do. I ask myself, “Well, who do I wanna be right

  • now?” and the answer that most often pops up is loving and helpful. So then I say, “Ok,

  • well, how can I spread some love right now? How can I be helpful and give to somebody

  • else?” And when I ask myself those questions, I often get intuitive flashes about things

  • like projects I need to take on or things I need to go do or sometimes it’s as simple

  • as picking up the phone and reaching out to someone and giving them some love.

  • Now, I’ve got more ideas and resources to share with you, Kristin, and I’ll put the

  • links below. But the big takeaway from today’s episode is this: that regardless of your age

  • or what youll eventually do for a career, I want you to remember that you have the power

  • in each and every moment to consciously choose and express who you want to be. Now, here’s

  • a tweetable thatll help you remember.

  • Greatness doesn't come from what you do, but from who you are.”

  • No matter what you do, your real work in this world is to choose who you wanna be and be

  • it. So, Kristin, that was my A to your Q, I really hope it helps, and I cannot wait

  • to hear how it goes.

  • Now I would love to hear from you. Who do you wanna be in this world? And what’s one

  • simple action that you can take right now to express it?

  • As always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com, so go

  • there and leave a comment now.

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  • Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams, because the world needs that special

  • gift that only you have. Thank you so much for watching and I’ll catch you next time

  • on MarieTV.

Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

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