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You met him at orchestra practice he said he was an avid pianist,
you misheard him and you both had a good laugh.
After that he asked you on a date and that one date led to two
and before you realized it, you've been dating this guy for a year
and lately, the magic is gone. Maybe you've just started to notice how loudly he eats soup
So you've decided. It is time to break up.
But how in the world are you gonna have that conversation?
Hey everyone welcome to Wellcast.
This week we're talking about that awful discussion that comes at the eleventh hour of a relationship
we're gonna give you our seven-step plan for making a clean break between you and your partner.
Download this worksheet on your password protected mobile device
and keep it handy for reference on the big day. You're ready?
Step 1: first things first
before anything else ,
you need to make sure that you want to go through with this breakup
If you're not happy in the relationship, that is a huge red flag
ask yourself the following questions: Do you communicate well?
Does your partner accept you as you are?
Are you open with your partner or do you find yourself keeping secrets from him?
Do you look forward to seeing him or do you find yourself making excuses to avoid him?
Step 2: figure out exactly what you're going to say to your boyfriend,
Odds are the first question he's gonna ask is "Why are you doing this?"
So on your worksheet, write down your reason or reasons.
Don't go overboard.
It can be as simple as: I no longer have feelings for you
or I don't think I can trust you anymore .
Step 3: once you've committed to actually breaking up and
have figured out exactly what you wanna say,
plan out a maximum three hour time period for the daunting task
these three hours we'll give him enough time to process
but keep the conversation from spiraling into a loop rehashing the same points over and over again
Step 4: make plans for directly after the conversation
maybe ask a friend to catch a movie or schedule a haircut
giving yourself a concrete out will help you
leave any difficult situations and having something to do afterward
will give you time to process the breakup but keep you from dwelling on
Step 5 : Alright! The time has come
You've blocked out three hours, scheduled band practice for afterward
written down what you're gonna to say, so say it
Remember this conversation is gonna be painful for him and you.
Nothing you say is gonna change that fact.
be honest but sympathetic, don't go overboard
don't get angry, just say enough so that you can explain your reasons for breaking up .
Step 6 : when it's over, its over.
Don't leash your partner on
tell your now ex-boyfriend that you won't be contacting him
and ask him to respect this wish.
Listen, you won't be doing him any favors by drawing the break-up out or leaving a door open for a relationship further down the line.
you're breaking up for a reason remember ?
So be sure that there are no emotional loose ends.
Step 7: the stuff exchange. This should be a very brief meeting
where you can both exchange belongings, but that's it. No talks of getting back together
and no cementing the breakup. This meeting should take place in public
so you're not tempted to have another long conversation
and if you're worried, take a friend
You've just gone through one of the harder conversations you'll have to have for a long time
You'll probably feel low for a little while and that's okay
Look! Just because a relationship is over, doesn't mean it was meaningless
In fact, the reason you're feeling so crummy is because that relationship
was an important part of you growing up
Still feeling a little down after your breakup? Well, check out our breakup playlist here
specifically curated by the Wellcast team
To recap, you have decided to break up with your boyfriend .
First make sure you actually wanna do this
Next, commit a time period up to three hours no longer
and workout what you're gonna say before you get into the situation
When you're there
be honest, but be sympathetic with your now ex-boyfriend ,
make it clear that your decision is final and ask him not to contact you for a little bit
If you both have stuff to exchange
make plans to briefly meet in a couple days in a public place so you can do that
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A2 Basic US

How to Break Up

142653 Folder Collection
Sunny Hsu published on June 11, 2015    林曉玉 translated    王妍心 reviewed

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