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  • Any true relationship between friends or significant others should be one between equals.

  • You give and take equally.

  • One person's needs aren't met over another's.

  • Friends and partners are supposed to give you energy, lift you up when you're down and want the best for you.

  • But sometimes we get into relationships that drain energy from us.

  • These are toxic relationships and they can negatively affect all aspects of our lives.

  • On this week's well cast we're gonna show you how you can tell if you're even in a toxic relationship and then we're gonna help you extricate yourself from that unhealthy situation pronto.

  • Selfie 1 : Diagnose the relationship

  • How do you know if a friend or partner bring you down

  • Well, in much the same way that you know that you're coming down with a cold, toxic relationships come with symptoms.

  • When you're around this person, how do you feel?

  • Here are a few other questions you should ask yourself if you're thinking you might be in a toxic situation.

  • Does my friend put me down all the time?

  • Are they jealous when I spend time with others ?

  • Do they constantly bring up parts of me that they want to change ?

  • Did they take more than give?

  • Am I only doing the things that they want to do?

  • Selfie 2: Recognize your role

  • In the relationship, as Eleanor Roosevelt said, "Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent."

  • Alright , look , what we got that from Princess Diaries obviously, moving on.

  • Listen, you have autonomy in every relationship in your life.

  • If your friend or partner is stealing your sunshine, you need to figure out what you're doing to allow them to do this.

  • Are you being a doormat ?

  • Are you putting this person's emotional needs ahead of your own health?

  • Selfie 3: Start to build boundaries for this relationship

  • Does your friend invite himself over at all hours in the night?

  • Are they constantly bossing you around ?

  • Are they always borrowing money from you?

  • Alright, once you know the boundary that you want to set, stick to it.

  • Draw your line in the sand.

  • Selfie four : Recognize , you can't change other people but you can stop being a doormat.

  • If you have determined a friendship, or a relationship is toxic you know that you have to change the nature of that relationship.

  • Start by spending less time with that person and do your best to detach yourself emotionally.

  • Hopefully setting boundaries will help you begin to phase this relationship out.

  • Selfie 5 : Get a second opinion.

  • Especially if you're emotionally vulnerable, the best thing you can do is surround yourself with people who love you and who want you to be happy and healthy.

  • Use them as a lifeline during this time.

  • Selfie 6 : Above all else , look out for yourself.

  • Studies have shown that people with low self-esteem are far more likely to find themselves in toxic relationships.

  • You will never be treated with love and respect unless you absolutely believe that you deserve these things.

  • Remember, you teach people how to treat you, so do yourself the favor of loving yourself.

  • That's the first step to any relationship.

  • To recap, if you have diagnosed yourself as being in a toxic relationship, the first step is recognizing this, then recognizing your role in the relationship.

  • Once you do this, you can start to set boundaries for this relationship and change the way you interact with this person.

  • To help, surround yourself with people who love you and above all else, look out for yourself.

  • Ah, well, that's all for me today WellCasters.

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