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I said to my friends, I said, watch this.
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So I'll walk up to her and I say, would you be impressed if I transformed this king of hearts into the queen of hearts like yourself?
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She looks at me, she goes, I'd be more impressed if you transformed it to a real man had a conversation with me.
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What is the storytelling formula?
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I think the way most people tell stories.
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Let's say you asked me how I met my wife.
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A reporting a story is just me saying, oh, I met my wife at a bar and I did some magic to her, she didn't like it, and that was cool.
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And then I gradually was able to woo her in the end, but I met her at a bar.
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That's me reporting the story, right?
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It's kind of sounds like a news reporter.
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Matter of fact.
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Matter of fact, this is the story of how I met my wife.
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So I still remember this because this happened in 2009.
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I crashed a girl's graduation party named Vivian.
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It was at a bar called Distil, this beautiful bar called Distil.
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And there was two levels to this bar and the bottom was for everybody and on top was the high rollers and you had to buy expensive drinks to get to the top.
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And I got to the top and I saw this beautiful Malaysian girl.
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Sitting by the bar.
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So I said to my friends, I said, watch this, and I take a packet of cards out of my pants because I'm a magician.
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So I walk up to her, walk up to her and I say, would you be impressed if I transformed this king of hearts into the queen of hearts like yourself?
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Disgusting.
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And and that's how she reacted, she she looked at me as if she smelled a bloody fart.
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She looks at me and she goes, I'd be more impressed if you transformed it to a real man had a conversation with me.
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Boom, and I've never had that reaction before.
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Normally people say, wow, you're amazing.
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So I said to her, no thanks.
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And I left, tail between my legs, the boys all teased me and everything.
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But I was so drawn, her confidence, just oh, there was something there.
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I went back to the bar four times in a row.
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She wasn't there, she wasn't there, she wasn't there, then she was there.
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And I walked up to her the second time and I said, hey, listen, what if I transformed into a real man tonight, took you out for a coffee?
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And we fell in love.
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You know, and that that's that's the story of how I met my wife.
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All of a sudden there was so much life, so much zest in that story.
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I noticed you added so much almost irrelevant detail, you talked about the bar having two floors and stuff like that.
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To make it visual.
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Okay, so I could picture it in my mind.
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When you think of the storytelling formula, if you just give the who, what, where and when.
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That's the basics people need.
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But what turns it from reporting to reliving, because that's what you want to get to, you want to get to reliving a story.
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Is the ingredients that you just called out, so intuitive for you to call them out.
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Vaks, V-A-K-S, which stands for visual, auditory, kinesthetic, and smell.
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So I'm just describing those few things for you, right?
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And it doesn't always have to have all the ingredients, but you want to add some of those ingredients, right?
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So the visual I described to you, the visual, the auditory, what I said, I did my voice, I did her voice.
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I gave you dialogue, right?
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So all of a sudden you bring those the story to life, now it goes from reporting to reliving.
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I share the story first, I get you to engage, I build rapport, I build chemistry.
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Now you've heard the story, now you have rapport with me.
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You feel more relaxed, you feel more creative, right?
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Then I link that story to, so the very next time you walk up to a girl, if she does say no, she may not be saying no to you.
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She may just be saying no to your approach.
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Here are the three ways you can show up more authentically as a man.
