Andinsteadofcheckingofftheboxes, likeverymuchlikemychild, youknow, notatalllikemychild, theywroteinthemargin, howam I supposedtoanswerthisquestion?
I onlyhaveonekid.
I havenoideahowtheycomparetoothers.
Oh, interesting.
And I dothinkthatoneofthereasonswhyparentsstruggleisbecause, youknow, theywanttothinktheirsonisthenextTomBradyorsomething.
Buttheyalsojusthave a verylimitedframeofreferencecomparedtoteachers, right, whosee, I don't know, dozensofkids a year, sometimeshundreds, andthenhundredsofkids, ifnotthousandsoverthecourseoftheircareer.
Well, andit's hardtojudgeyourselfoftengoingtoHaji's question, because, I mean, it's thefirsttime I'veeverbeen a fifthgraderorthefirsttime I'veeverbeennewatthiscompany.
I don't evenknowhowtoratemyselfagainsteverybodyelse.
It's sortoflikewhentheyaskyouatthehospital, rateyourpainon a scaleofonetoten.
Sonowthebetterscalesthatyourdoctorcanaskyouarescaleswherethenumbercomeswith a description, cannotwalkup a flightofstairs, youknow, five, cannotpickup a halfgallonofmilk, seven, cannotgetoutofbed.
Bytheway, theystillaren't perfect.
Thisiscalledthevignetteapproach.
Buttothisday, there's always a littlebitofsignal.
Andthere's alsothiskindofnoisethatcomesfrom a stoicperson, Jason's grandfather, whowasaffectionatelyknownasPothead.
Therewasthesestoriesofhislikebreaking a boneandstilldoingthat.
Like, soevenwiththelittlevignettesthataresupposedtohelpyouwiththesereferencepoints, like, I thinkoneofthemainlessonsofmeasuringpersonalityoranythingelseisthatmysixandyoursixarenotthesamesix.
Evenwhenweaddwordsanddescriptions, I thinkyouputyourfingerononeofthemanyreasonswhywhensomebodyelseratesusandwerateourselves, thoseratingsaren't alwaysgoingtolineup.
Theymayhavedifferentstandardsthanwedo.
You'vementionedthatparentshave a lackofabilitymaybetoseeasobjectively.
Aretherepeopleorgroupstowhomwecanturnthathelpusgain a bettersenseofwhoweare?
Andthenalsothere's thisproblemcalledhalobias, whereif a personhasonepositivecharacteristic, liketheyhave a goodsenseofhumor, youtendtoattributeotherthingsliketheymustbesmart, they'reprobably a goodathlete.
I bettheyhave a lotoffriends, right?
Right, forsure.
Buthere's thethingabout 360 assessment, andhere's whyit's a goodthing.
I thinkthat I wouldwanttobelievethembecause I wouldthinkthatmaybe I'm engagedin I don't knowwhatit's evencalled, but a self-perceptionbias.
Isthat a thing?
Sometimesit's calledself-servingbias.
Well, because I thinktosomeextentweanswerthesethingsaspirationallyorweallhaveselectivememoryorwehave a willingnesstokindofglorifythepast, forgetthethingsthatwerehardorbad.
And I wonderifinourowntakingofthesequestionnaires, wetendtofocusonthemostproximateexperiencesthatarecoloringthingsor, youknow, I'm thinkingofmybestselfwhenmaybethey'rethinkingofmywholeself.