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  • Hey it's Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business and life you love.

  • So curious, have you ever had someone not believe in you or they said something really horrible about your work or felt like a punch in the gut and just left you thinking, “Oh my God, how could someone be that mean?” I have.

  • So let me tell you what it did for me and, more importantly, what it could do for you.

  • So back in 2009 my program B-School was getting ready to be brought into the world and I was trying to do everything I could to make it a success.

  • I was trying to network, find promotional partners, basically get the word out all over.

  • So I went to this business conference in Washington DC and I was so excited to be there.

  • I had my little conference badge around my neck, I had my big conference binder under my arm, everything was going good.

  • So I'm on the escalator heading to go up to one of the main sessions and there was this guy in front of me and he was part of the conference too.

  • So, of course, as you do at conferences, he turned around and he asked me. It's like, “Oh, so what do you do?”

  • This was the perfect opportunity. I was so excited. I started telling him about B-School.

  • I said, “Oh, I'm launching this incredible online business program for women entrepreneurs.”

  • And so he says, “Oh, that's cute. Is that a hobby? Do you actually make money doing that? Or do you have a rich husband who is bankrolling you?”

  • For one of the very few times in my life, I was absolutely speechless.

  • I felt like I just got gone by the ultimate business debate.

  • I was thinking to myself,“I cannot believe a-hole like this still exists.”And thank God it was a short little escalator ride because I wanted to throw him over that freaking escalator.

  • I got myself together, I mustered out something about that I had been successfully supporting myself in business for the last 9 years, and then I did whatever I could to get away from that turd muncher as fast as humanly possible.

  • Now, here's my point, well that guy was a total ignorato for what he said to me, I actually thank him for not believing in me. I thank him for underestimating me.

  • I thank him for being a totally ignorant chauvinistic piece of poop. You know why?

  • Because he actually fueled me to make B-School even more of a success.

  • I was already committed to it, but after that interaction, nothing was going to stop me.

  • Now, I know that not everybody is wired in the exact same way, but for me when I want some really bad and someone basically says, “You can't do that,”it just gets me totally fired up and motivated to prove them wrong.

  • And, yes, I know in a certain spiritual framework we don't wanna be reactive to life, but what I'm saying is this, is that every single thing that happens to you, including what I now call escalator moment, are fuel for growth and sometimes even more so than the encouraging moments.

  • And to help you remember this, here's a Tweetable: “Sometimes a put-down is the best fuel to fire you up.”So let's turn this inspiration into action.

  • I would love to hear about your escalator moment.

  • Let's have a real honest to goodness thank you fest for those people that have not believed in you or for those times when life has challenged your belief in yourself.

  • Tell me how you can take one of those moments and really let it fuel you into what you want to create right now.

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  • Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world really needs that special gift that only you have.

  • Thank you so much for watching and I'll catch you next time on MarieTV.

Hey it's Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business and life you love.

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