Name: watch this if you're an introvert
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Ladies and gentlemen, if you're an introvert, this is going to be the most valuable video you're gonna watch today.

My name is Colin and I'm a student at Yale University studying computer science.

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And in this video, I'm gonna give you the dark confidence aesthetic that you can easily use to become more attractive as an introvert.

If you look at people like James Bond, Bruce Wayne or Ryan Reynolds, they're all confident introverts.

They all have this dark confidence and this mysterious charisma that's so attractive.

So if you're an introvert, let me tell you right now, you can use it to your advantage.

And in this video, I'll teach you exactly how.

So the first thing you want to do is change your mindset on what an introvert is.

Most people think that introverts are just shy people.

Being an introvert simply means that you recharge your energy being alone and that you're comfortable being alone.

Guys, confidence isn't "I know they'll like me."

You gotta have that self-belief and purpose where you don't have to say a lot in social interactions, but you like your actions speak for themselves.

You ask more questions, you listen more and you just naturally radiate that inner confidence.

Also, if you're an introvert, you're probably introspective. You probably think about a lot of things while you're taking a shower or while you're walking.

And most likely, you know what you want, whether that be to ace an exam in school or getting a strong aesthetic body or building a personal brand online.

That kind of self-awareness and intelligence is just super, super attractive.

So if you're an introvert, you absolutely should be confident in yourself.

And once you change your mindset, you'll just become much more powerful.

So the next thing you want to do is learn some social game.

Guys, being social is not an exclusive personality trait for extroverts. That is a complete lie.

Being social is a skill that you can learn as an introvert.

So the main thing you want to do is learn how to network with people and provide value in social circles.

And there are three really easy and effective ways you can do this.

The first thing you want to do is compliment people without any hidden ask.

This is one of the best pieces of advice I got on networking.

When you like someone's stuff, maybe it's a book they wrote or maybe it's a YouTube video they posted, tell them immediately. DM them instantly and don't ask for anything.

Or if you're in class and you really like your friends' outfit for the day, say to them.

Nowadays, it's very rare to just be appreciated without a hidden ask.

And if you do this over time, of course, has to be genuine and real, you'll have a huge social network without even trying.

Now, the second thing you want to do is become a good listener.

If you're an introvert, this is easier for you to do.

People like to talk about themselves and they like to be heard.

So when it comes to social interactions, you want to be the type of person who asks more questions and who listen. You want to try to get in that other person's spirit.

So for example, when I'm on a date with a girl, I'm probably speaking 20% to 30% of the time, I'm more laid back chill and I let her invest more.

This is something that I don't hear a lot of people talking about, but it's so, so powerful.

And you also get to build a deeper connection with that person where you can understand their struggles. You can understand their goals and aspirations.

Also, you don't have to force any interaction or conversation, like even sometimes that tension and silence is attractive.

Now, the third thing you want to do is guard your attention.

Yes, you want to be a good listener, but it doesn't mean that you should just listen to everyone.

So for example, I'm very particular in where I put my energy. I place a lot of value in my personal attention because I know it's limited and valuable.

So if you're in an interaction and you don't see it going anywhere, you feel like it's a waste of your time, be willing to walk away.

"You know what, Sarah? Honestly, it's very nice to meet you. But I don't think this is gonna work. I kind of know what I want and I don't wanna waste your time."

Be a little bit more nonchalant and relaxed. Just like that.

Guys, keeping your frame is very, very powerful.

You don't have to please everyone, but at the very least, be real, be authentic because that's what makes you look more mysterious and it's very attractive.

Now, the next thing you wanna do is fix your body language.

A couple of easy things you can do here. The first one is to be chill and non-reactive.

The reason why James bond, for example, is very attractive is because he's witty and he controls his sense of emotions.

He has that cheeky self-assured smile that just exudes confidence and makes other people lean into him.

Now, the next thing you want to do is stand up straight and make sure your shoulders are relaxed.

You need to start walking like you're a man. Like you're on a mission.

Now, one more thing. When you're speaking, speak clearly, maybe speak a little bit slower, and I guarantee if you follow these body language tips, you'll radiate that inner dark confidence.

So the final thing you want to do is build abundance and mastery in a skill.

Guys, you don't want to fake confidence. It has to be real.

And the way you get real confidence is through competence.

It's through the ability to say, "You know what? I have an undeniable proof that I am who I say I am."

It is through having that abundance in your life.

Whether that be having a body you're proud of, getting amazing grades in school or just smashing your personal goals and projects that you build that real confidence.

By far the easiest way to do this is by mastering one area of your life.

So for example, if you have an exam coming up and you study smart and ace your exam, you build confidence in academics.

You build confidence in school, and naturally, when you build confidence in one area of your life, you have more confidence in other areas.

Like for example, fitness. That small win will ripple your confidence in every single area of your life.

And of course, it comes from putting in the effort and work every single day because ladies and gentlemen, effort compounds.

It comes from committing to going to the gym three times a week consistently.

It comes from committing to reading 10 minutes every single day. And through your everyday habits, that is where it can build abundance.

And once you build that sort of abundance, people will just naturally come to you.

Success will naturally come to you. You attract success.

And that's one of the most beautiful things I hope you guys can experience in your life.

So I hope you guys got lots of value from this video.

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We'll all gonna win one day, and I'll see you in the next one.