Name: 5 LESSONS People Learn TOO LATE in Life - The Laws of Human Nature By Robert Greene
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An average person lives around 80 years in the  developed world. That looks like a long time at  

first glance, but it's nothing. Life on earth  started 3.6 Billion years ago. In comparison,  

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your life looks smaller than an atom. You  are not even guaranteed to live 80 years.  

You are born, you learn how to walk and  talk, you grow up and develop a personality  

till you hit 18. You get into college, graduate,  and your real-life starts there. From the moment  

you are 22 or 23 till the time you hit  65 is your real-life because, after 65,  

life isn't as great as it could be since most  people after 65 develop a lot of disabilities. 

Your health is going to deteriorate.  You cant walk, think or live properly. 

So while you are in your best years, the question  is, how are you spending that time? Are you simply  

working in a 9-5 job that you hate and waiting  for the weekends to finally enjoy life? 

If you are 25, you have got 2085 weeks left  or 40 years. When you count it that way,  

life isn't as long as we are led  to believe. But the problem is that  

most people don't take the best advantage  out of it because we are not taught how  

to live. We go to school and college. We are  taught math, physics, chemistry but not life.  

One of the best books that can teach you how  to take the best advantage out of your life  

is the laws of human nature by Robert Greene.  It's a masterpiece and unique of its kind.  

So here are 5 most important lessons out of this  book that people often learn too late in life. 

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1. The law of Compulsive Behaviour You cannot survive in this world alone and  

definitely can't accomplish great things without  people. People usually present themselves as nice,  

charming, and hardworking. Don't let that  image distract you from who they really  

are. Otherwise, you will waste years of your  valuable time. People's character is formed in  

their earliest years and by their daily habits.  It is what compels them to repeat certain actions  

in their lives and fall into negative patterns.  Look closely at such patterns and remember that  

people never do something just once. If someone  is late to a meeting a few times, for example,  

they probably always miss deadlines.  Just take a look at yourself,  

you keep repeating the same mistakes over  and over, and other people are no different.  

Gauge the relative strength of their  character by how well they handle adversity,  

their ability to adapt and work with other people,  their patience, and their ability to learn. Always  

gravitate toward those who display signs of  strength and avoid the many toxic types out there. 

We are marked by a continual desire  to possess what we don't have. 

As soon as we get something we want, we want  something else, a phenomenon that's known as  

the grass-is-always-greener syndrome. And even  though getting what we want is never satisfying,  

we still pursue our next want, hoping that  one will make us happy. Once we get it,  

Take an example of a relationship. Once you spend  some time with your partner, you get bored of her  

or him so you start looking up to other people. We  chase the perfect man or woman and end up alone.

Instead, come to terms with the flaws of your  partner and accept or even find charm in their  

weaknesses. Learn the art of compromise.  Make the most out of what you have.   

On the other side, become an object of desire.  Learn how to create a mystery around you.  

Use strategic absence to make people desire  your return, to want to possess you.  

Letting people know all your likes and dislikes,  fears and loves and believing that people should  

love you for who you are is a mistake because  what people really want is their fantasies to  

be stimulated, but if you become too familiar,  there is no mystery and room for imagination.  

Know when and how to withdraw. Be a little cold  and never be needy or never be too obvious with  

your opinions, feelings, values, or tastes.  Let others create a picture of you in their  

3. See through people's masks  People are like the moon;  

they only show you one of their sides. People wear masks that show them in  

the best possible light, especially on social  media. Presenting a completely different image  

than who they really are.  They say the right things,  

smile, and seem interested in our ideas.  Politicians are a perfect example of that.  

However, the reality is that we all wear masks. 

Fortunately, the mask has cracks on it. People  continuously leak out their true feeling and  

unconscious desires in the non-verbal  queues they cannot completely control,  

such as facial expression, vocal inflection,  the tension in the body, and nervous gestures.

They present their authentic self  especially when they are angry  

and under pressure when they  lose control over their true  

feelings. If we take their appearances for  reality, we will never get what we want.

For example, if someone likes you and is  comfortable around you, they will stand closer  

to you, and not be protective of their body parts  by folding their arms. In their tone of voice,  

you can sense playfulness or a high-pitched  sound. If they are indifferent and uninterested,  

you'll hear a more monotonous, quiet tone. If someone has deeper feelings for you,  

such as love, their pupils would  dilate and their eyes would widen,  

a rush of blood to their face will animate  them, their lips will seem full and exposed.  

On the other hand, since appearances  are what people judge you by,  

you must learn how to present the best front  and play your role to maximum effect.    

We like to think of ourselves in control of our  fate, consciously planning the course of our  

lives as best as we can. But you are deeply  unaware of how your emotions dominate you.  

They make you look for evidence that  proves what you already want to believe.  

They make you see what you want  to see, depending on your mood.  

And this disconnection from reality is the  source of your bad decisions that ruin your life.

For example, to convince ourselves that we  came to our ideas and opinions rationally,  

we go and search for evidence that supports our  point of view, but because we unconsciously want  

to please ourselves, we look for evidence  that proves that we want to believe.  

This is known as confirmation bias.  It's also clear when people are asking for advice.  

If people find your advice counter to what they  think, they will find ways to dismiss your advice.  

On the internet, it's easy to find studies that  confirm two entirely opposite opinions. So,  

don't simply believe people just because they have  supplied evidence but rather examine the evidence  

yourself with as much skepticism as you can. Or the Halo effect. People who are good-looking  

generally seem trustworthy. If a person is  successful, they are probably ethical, conscious,  

and deserving of their good fortune. This hides  the fact that many people who have built massive  

fortunes had done that through less moral  actions, which they cleverly hide from view.   

Or We are tempted to look for explanations for  everything. For example, after the 2008 financial  

crash, people blamed greedy banks, bad regulators,  a broken system etc… but in reality, it was  

just millions of people making bad investment  decisions. There is no explanation other than  

many people behaved irrationally. There were many  people who warned that the crash would happen,  

but people simply didn't listen.  Rational people learn from their mistakes,  

they adjust their strategy when it fails, and they  constantly achieve victories across their life.  

Irrational people repeat the same mistakes, always  finding excuses for their behaviour, and never  

trying to look for the root of their problems.   

  5. Transform self-love into empathy  

From the moment we are born, we humans  feel a never-ending need for attention.  

We are social animals to the core. Our survival  and happiness depend on the bonds we form with  

others. If people do not pay attention to  us, we cannot connect to them at any level.  

Some of this is purely physical.  But this need is also deeply psychological.  

Through the quality of attention we receive from  others, we feel recognized and appreciated for who  

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