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  • For anyone with a tendency to blush,

  • the idea that there might be something positive about going uncontrollably red in front of other people can sound absurd.

  • But, however uncomfortable it may be to blush, doing so indicates a range of admirable character traits that we should honor in ourselves and welcome in other people.

  • Far from a disability, blushing is a sign of virtue.

  • It is strong evidence that one is, almost certainly, rather a nice person.

  • We tend to blush, first and foremost, from a fear that something about us might bother or prove unacceptable to other people.

  • We blush after we've told a joke in company and worry that it might have come across as inappropriate or offensive.

  • We blush when we abruptly realize that we may have arrived at someone's house half an hour too early for dinner, even if they are doing their kindly best to disguise the fact. We blush when we're concerned that something we said sounded boastful.

  • We blush because we told a little untruth, feel ashamed, and fear that others will immediately see through us.

  • In other words, blushing is powered by an unusually strong ethical sense.

  • It's generated by a terror of making other people uncomfortable.

  • A horror of inconveniencing them, a distaste for seeming arrogant or entitled, and an overwhelming qualm about saying anything untrue.

  • These may be hugely inconvenient feelings to experience, but they are very nice ones to harbor, because they almost guarantee that one won't in fact turn into the unpleasant person.

  • One is so acutely sensitive to the dangers of being. Blushing is a guarantee of a fundamental, unbudgeable, involuntary honesty, a reminder to ourselves and to the world that something deep within us is offended by and won't tolerate fraudulence or arrogance.

  • Not coincidentally, we may fall particularly pray to blushing at the start of relationships.

  • As we sit in someone's living room late at night, wondering whether they might want to kiss us or we them, we may feel our faces redden deeply.

  • This too, is a high ethical achievement, born out of a kindly and sometimes rightful sense that we may be unwelcome.

  • The blushing seducer is profoundly aware of the dangers of being a nuisance.

  • Someone with no capacity to blush is, for this reason, a scary possibility, for they must implicitly operate with a dismaying attitude of entitlement.

  • They can be so composed and so sure only because they haven't taken on board the crucial possibility of their unenchanting nature.

  • Excessive self doubt can, of course, blight our lives, but blushing seems on the edge of something properly worth celebrating.

  • A high degree of self knowledge and an awareness just how disturbing we can sometimes be to others.

For anyone with a tendency to blush,

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