Subtitles section Play video Print subtitles GUEST: NICK VUJICIC LSS 723 (LENGTH: 26:16) FIRST AIR DATE: 5/27/14 When people talk with you for the first time, they're very nervous, and they don't know how to approach you. Right. How do you make it easier for them? Well, you know, like, I sometimes even take advantage of that and become a little bit humorous sometimes. For example? Kids come up and say, What happened? And I say, Cigarettes. [CHUCKLE] And you know, then people around them start, you know, laughing. But I hug people. I was the Guinness Book of World Records holder for hugs in an hour; one thousand seven hundred and forty-one hugs in an hour. My arms fell off. [CHUCKLE] And someone beat me. [CHUCKLE] So now, we gotta go back and beat them back. But no; I love hugging. Hugging is my way of-obviously, they try to shake hands. I say, Don't worry, I don't shake hands, just give me a hug. Nick Vujicic was born without arms or legs. Despite the many challenges this created for him growing up, he was able to overcome them all, and credits is family's love, his faith in God, and his positive attitude for his success. Nick Vujicic, next on Long Story Short. Long Story Short with Leslie Wilcox is Hawaii's first weekly television program produced and broadcast in high definition. Aloha mai kakou. I'm Leslie Wilcox. Nick Vujicic is a motivational speaker as well as a best-selling author, a Christian Evangelist, and the leader of a nonprofit organization, Life Without Limbs. He's been an inspiration to audiences around the world, encouraging people to overcome obstacles and follow their dreams. But Nick was not always confident. When you were born in Australia, did your parents know that you'd be born without limbs? No; at the time, they even had ultrasounds, and no one bothered to check, to double check that I had my ten fingers and ten toes. And it was a shock; it was a tragedy. When I was laid by my mother's side, she said, Take him away, I can't look at him right now. Full of emotion and questions; Why, why did this happen, couldn't we see this at least coming? Later, you would face all those questions. Why did this happen? But, what was their thought process in dealing with it? It was obviously difficult. And I knew that it would be someday that I would be able to hear it straight from them. And I felt like I had to be a teenager before I really went down that way. For you to hear from your own mother, I couldn't hold you, I couldn't breast feed you, I couldn't have peace about your existence and your purpose for at least four months, that was hard to hear. And so, they took one day at a time, but my dad and mom were people of faith, believing that God does not make mistakes even though it's hard to see how He is perfect when imperfect things happen. But one day at a time, loving each other, and planting seeds of hope and encouragement; that's the only way that I got through my childhood. Going to school, getting bullied, they always were affectionate. They were very busy parents, but at the same time, they always made time to make sure that their son knew that he was beautiful, and that he's not a mistake, and to do this best. When you were a little kid, you wore prosthetic arms. Yes; at six years old, we had state of the art technology, 1989, actually made in Toronto, Canada. And they were very costly. Some people in Australia wanted to give me an opportunity, so they paid for it, and we were just so thankful for that. And they were quite big. I was only a little guy; I was about twenty-five pounds at the time. And they came with shoulders and arms. Shoulders and whole harness thing, and the hand rotating, and the arms going up and down. But each arm weighed about six pounds, so it was quite heavy. And it stopped me from being so mobile. And then, I had to sort of relearn how to write. So, trying to write with my robotic arms means I had to move my whole body. That didn't work. I felt a bit like Robocop. And in me trying to accept myself, I had to accept myself the way that I was. So, there were some psychology as well in that. But overall, it wasn't a benefit for me. Would you tell us about your early years? Yeah, basically, I first up front say that I believe it's worse being in a broken home than having no arms and no legs. You can have arms and legs, but if your heart's broken, it's broken. If you're paralyzed by fear, you're disabled. And so, it was difficult for me to believe in a greater hope. A man without vision dies. I didn't see a good vision for my life, and I started dying on the inside. Even though you had loving parents and a stable home? Even though I had a loving stable home. Imagine; I know what would have happened if I didn't have that. 'Cause I actually was on the brink of giving up and trying to actually commit suicide. When was that? Age ten. Age ten. What were you contemplating doing? Drowning myself in my bathtub. I actually tried. I first thought of giving up at age eight. And I was thinking, Well, maybe I can just jump off the countertop of the kitchen counter as I watched my mom cook. That was our sort of bonding session. And I thought to myself, I'm done. You know, all the bullying at school, all the teasing. My mom and dad don't know if I'm ever gonna get married. I don't know if I'm gonna be ever independent. If I don't have a purpose, what's the point? If my pain's not gonna change, I want out. So, at age ten, as I tried to drown myself, I thought of one image. And the image was my mother and my father crying at my grave, wishing they could have done something more. So, I decided to stay, just because of that. They didn't deserve that pain. So, I stayed. I think you were one of the first crop of young people to be mainstreamed through schools, and there, you encountered bullying. What was the worst thing that happened to you in school? You know, there is no pinnacle of my negative experience of bullying. And bullying is experienced by everyone, not just people in wheelchairs. So, the problem for me was the taunts, the stares, the laughs were not just in school, but in every public setting. You couldn't get away from it. You can't ignore it. But there is no one worst thing. But people, you know, called me names, they made different jokes, and some I tried to ignore, some I confronted. There was one guy, I did head butt him. It was an actual arranged fight outside the buildings of school? So, it was about this kid coming up to me and saying, I bet you can't fight. And you know me, now, you know, trying to be confident, I said, I bet you I can. He said, Well, how can you prove it? And I said, Well, I'll meet you on the field at lunch. There were about twenty of us there, and I never resort to violence since then. Fighting back is not the answer. If you need to self-defend yourself, if someone is really choking you and, you know, maybe you had some self- defense classes, but we're not here to attack. We're here to prove how strong we are. And I was tempted, and I took that fall. But I really didn't think he was gonna do it. I thought, How low can this guy be? Exactly. Calling out a guy in a wheelchair. So, how did it work out? He did actually call you out of your wheelchair; right? Right. You know, he said, You gotta get out of your wheelchair. And I'm like, Okay, so I can't run him over. [CHUCKLE] So, I go to I go to the field, and I said, Go on your knees. But he still had his hands. And you know, I wrestled with my brother and my sister, and I got a mean chin. I can, boom, get into their wrist, right to their bone, and you know, felt like I got that move. But I didn't think this guy was gonna- But he had arms to ... He was pretty tall, so therefore, long arms. Pushed me down once. And I'm like, Man, is this guy for real? Went up to him a second time, like walking up, and pushed me down again. And all the girls are like, Oh, leave him alone. And the last thing I ever wanted was that. So, I got up and I charged, and I went straight into his nose. He flew back, blood came out. So you hurled yourself at him. Hurled myself at him. Used my wheelchair to get back up, and I jumped maybe three steps, four steps, but very fast. I used to be a lot faster when I was younger. And I said, I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry. And he just walked, and everybody was like, Wow, you know. So, imagine, first of all, my fear. I'm a PK, pacifist kid. I had to confess my sins to my parents. [CHUCKLE] I'm like, Mom and Dad, I'm so sorry, I have to tell you. I beat up a guy at school today. I head butted a guy at school, and blood came out of his nose. I'm so sorry. They didn't believe me. And they didn't smack me, they didn't discipline me. They used to discipline me that way with a belt. And I was ready for it. My parents did not spare the rod [CHUCKLE], and it was a way that they wanted to discipline us. That's how they grew up. You got treated the same as your brother and sister? Treated the same. I actually was probably the biggest bully out of all three of us. I'd dub my brother for things that I did actually, and so I was pretty bad. I was sort of getting bossy sometimes. So, that was the childhood Nick Vujicic, not realizing that my brother is just loving me and he's helped me as much as he can just because he can, and not because he's supposed to. And so, there were some dynamics there, but my parents, you know, they gave us good discipline. You know, if they felt that that was something to get us back on the straight and narrow, they did that. But I was very thankful that I did not get a smack. What do you mean you head butted a kid? And so, I didn't realize at the time that that they just thought I was wanting attention by them. So, I'm thankful that didn't happen. But I would never hit anyone, ever again. I promised myself. 'Cause the guilt that I had. And I realized that, you know, people gossiping about me or laughing at me, I realized it's either ignorance or hurting people or hurting others ignorantly. And even the people who were bullying me that one day where I had twelve bullies pick on me. And they didn't know that I was being picked on that much, and I felt like I should give up. And one thing that helped me to get through it, and even forgive them, was believing that someone out there actually did love me, outside of my family. And there was one girl who had no idea I was teased twelve times that day. I counted them all on my fingers. And she saw me across the playground on my way out of school, and she said, Hey, Nick! And I'm like, Great, here it is. She came up, she looked me right in the eye; she said, Nick, I just want you to know that you're looking good today. And I'm like, Oh? So, that's why I became a speaker. Even though he decided that he wanted to become a speaker, Nick Vujicic had no idea what he would talk about, or even where he would speak. He first had to survive the rest of his childhood. Did you go through all of the angst of the questions that many people in difficult circumstances ask themselves? Why me? How could God do this to me? Why are people so cruel? How can I possibly survive? How can I provide for myself? How can I provide for a family? Can I have a family? Right. How did you go through all of that? It was a journey. At thirteen years old, I actually hurt my foot playing soccer. So, I have a foot that's about six inches long with two toes that allows me to type and walk, and drive my wheelchair around, and swim. And balance? And balance. I was in bed for three weeks, sprained my foot. Three weeks being in bed for a thirteen-year-old is like three years. I felt disabled for the first time. I need my foot for everything, and I realized I need to be thankful for what I had, instead of being angry about what I don't have. So, I started counting my blessings. I said, God, more than arms and legs, I need purpose, I need peace, I want Heaven. Come into my heart, forgive me my sin; and Lord, if you don't give me arms and legs, I have a pair of shoes in my closet just in case He does. Use me. If I don't get that miracle, use me so that others would know that greater than a physical healing, you need a spiritual healing. You need your soul restored. He doesn't need to change my physical aspect; He needs to change my heart, my mind, and really give me what I'm looking for, happiness through peace. So, you learned to have a positive attitude, but it took more than that, didn't it, to give you peace? It did. It took time. It wasn't overnight. I have a positive attitude not because that's my coping mechanism, but I found real hope, real happiness. Not in temporary things of what people think of you or what job you're gonna get, or what money you're gonna have, and if or if you're not in a relationship. You need to be, first of all, taking responsibility of your own happiness and your own peace within you. And as you see that reflection in the mirror, one day at a time, which is-it's hard for someone to feel like they're ugly and then look themself in the mirror and say, I'm beautiful. But what I did, when I looked myself in the mirror, I said, Okay, Nick, you have no arms, no legs, but your eyes are beautiful; hold onto something. Nick, you can't do sports, but you're good at mathematics. Give yourself a chance. I had a plan to become an accountant and financial planner, and curve balls are thrown at us every day. What was your curve ball? A greater opportunity. That at the time, my parents thought I was crazy. They never thought I would be a speaker. They said, What are you gonna speak about? I said, I don't know. Are they gonna pay you? I don't know. Do you have any invitations? No. How are you gonna get them? I don't know. How are you gonna get there? I don't know. But when you find the truth that every day is an opportunity, you take one day at a time. Not just about what we can get and what we can have, but even the curve balls that come negatively at you. Remember the last obstacle you went through, how hard it was, how big it looked, how fearful you were. You still got through it. Maybe you don't even know how you got through it, but you're still here. If you're still here, there's an opportunity to grow. And if you're living tomorrow, you can do better than today. Whatever your goal is, find your real purpose, eternal purpose, and make sure that love is the thing that covers it all. One of my first big speeches, I was in front of three hundred teenagers, sophomore students for seven minutes, I had no idea what to do, my palms were sweaty. And within three minutes- did you get that? Palms sweaty. Yeah. [CHUCKLE] Yes. And within three minutes, half the girls were crying, and one girl in the middle of the room started weeping. She put up her hand, she said, I'm so sorry to interrupt; can I come up there and give you a hug? She came and she hugged me, she cried on my shoulder, and she said, Thank you, thank you, thank you; no one's ever told me that they loved me, no one's ever told me that I'm beautiful the way that I am. That's when I knew that hope was real as a way to uplift others, that even though I never got some miracles that I could still be a miracle for one other soul. Nick Vujicic was nineteen when he gave the speech. Since then, he has traveled the world, meeting everyone from world leaders to the impoverished, sharing his story of hope with millions of people.