Name: How To Trust Yourself -Teal Swan-
Uploaded: 2014-06-17T15:23:36.000Z
Duration: 23 min 54 s
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Hello everyone, today I'm going to talk to you about self trust.

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Most of all I'm going to teach you how to trust yourself

self trust can be summed up as the assured reliance on your character, ability, strength and truth

most of us have spent our lives listening to our parents, to our government, to our teachers and to our bosses

We've been raised with the idea that we do not know whats best for ourselves

Instead we're taught that other people who "know more than we do", know whats best for us.

because of this we choose what we think we are supposed to choose

we try to live according to what society says is right, we allow ourselves to be who we are told that we are

and we are caught in an endless struggle of seeking approval and reaching for recognition

The result is that we lose trust in ourselves

the cost of shaping ourselves to fit the desires preferences and expectations of others

and when we lose ourselves we become frozen without direction

in my opinion the two most painful states that you can be in, in this particular universe

is the state of self-hate and the state of self-distrust

but the funny thing is, one of them comes from the other

self hate is the result of you proving to yourself

instead of beating around the bush, I'm just going to jump right into the tips

I'm going to give you a handful of tips on how to begin to trust yourself

self-trust and self-confidence are like a married couple

when we use the word confidence what we mean is your ability to depend on yourself

If you don't have self confidence you wont feel able to depend on yourself.

when we understand that lack of self-trust goes hand in hand with self-confidence

We can easily see that not trusting ourselves, is a self-worth issue

It's an issue if devaluing and invalidating ourselves.

We don't trust ourselves, we lack self esteem

One of the reasons that we don't trust ourselves is that we do not

accept our own abilities, talents, intentions, and value.

This means that step one is, you have to begin to acknowledge and take not of

your own abilities, your strengths your talents, your virtues

anything that you could see as positive about yourself

is going to enable you to find more trust in yourself

tip number 2 is allow yourself to do what you're good at

we live in a culture that's based around the idea that effort is virtuous

you'll notice that things which you are really passionate about, which you are meant to do, are actually things that you are very good at.

But we keep telling ourselves the lie, that anything worth having is hard won

so we don't allow ourselves to the things that come the most naturally to us

this is a detriment to society because imagine the kind of society we

could have if we could allow ourselves to specialize in what we're good at

and allow other people to specialize in what they're good at.

and now when have the perfect society made of people who specialize at what they are good at

if you continue to do things that you are not good a that you struggle at

that you think you need to or should do you'll continue to feel as if

there's something wrong with you as if you're not good enough

this will decrease your ability to trust yourself, if we always feel as if it is a struggle

to do things we will always feel as if we are behind the pack

so own up to the things which you excel at and focus on designing

give yourself permission to take pride in them

and give yourself credit for your successes

this step will give a healthy boost to your self confidence

if we're doing the things which were really meant to be doing

which really give us joy, and of course we

what you'll notice is that they are effortless

even if you have to extend some sort of energy towards them

its not going to feel like struggle. Tip number 3:

let go of your attachment of finding the right answer and instead

those of us who have a decreased self-confidence and a lack of self trust

are obsessed with idea of right and wrong

the problem is we cant get anyone to agree

because this life is lived through perspective

and no one person share their perspective exactly with someone else

those of us who don't trust ourselves, fear making the wrong decisions so much

we trust everyone's opinions except for our own

its important for us to realize that when we're facing

a problem or decision, there is no such thing as one right answer

that we have to somehow find, so we have to gain perspective by

illiciting other people's opinions, but by not weighing them

to make our final decision. instead we need to make our own decision

we can use inquiry to question our current perspective and consciously

choose a perspective which serves our highest good

every single person experiences the world in their own way

so we make decisions about what right based on our own individual assumption, perceptions and

and like I said no two perspectives will be the same.

an no one can see the situation from your perspective.

your also never going to be able to have all the information that you would like to have

and so sometimes you have to take a risk by making a choice anyway

you cannot A right answer, all you can find is your right answer

Tip number 4 is: Take risk. even if those risk might result in mistake.

Those of us who don;t; trust ourselves, hate the idea of taking risk.

because our self worth is so wrapped up in getting everything right

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