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  • First things first, Wellcasters!

  • If at any time your safety is in jeopardy, call 911 or this National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE.

  • There’s nothing more important than your health and well-being.

  • What do you do if youre in a romantic relationship with somebody who physically, emotionally, or sexually abuses you?

  • It’s possible that you don’t even recognize the fact that youre being abused.

  • In fact, 28% of young adults have experienced violence in a romantic relationship.

  • Like healthy relationships, abusive relationships have ups and downs.

  • And it’s easy to write off the bad moments when youre in a good one.

  • However, an abusive relationship is not a normal relationship.

  • And a strategy for ending an abusive relationship is fundamentally different.

  • On today’s Wellcast, were gonna show you how to tell if youre in this kind of relationship and how to safely get out of it ASAP.

  • Know this, youre not alone.

  • And there’s never too deep a hole that you can’t pull yourself out of it.

  • Help is out there.

  • You just have to recognize that you need it.

  • Step one: Admit to yourself that youre in an abusive relationship.

  • People often assume that relationships are categorized as abusive only if physical violence is involved.

  • This isn’t true!

  • There are many different kinds of abuse, and unhealthy relationships exist on a spectrum.

  • It’s not always easy to determine if a relationship you once thought was healthy is cross[ing] the line.

  • Here are a couple of warning signs you should look out for if you suspect that your partner is abusive.

  • We got these from an awesome resource that you should check out: loveisrespect.org

  • Do they constantly put you down, especially in front of others?

  • Are they extremely jealous?

  • Do they easily lose their temper?

  • Do they try to keep you away from your friends or family?

  • Do they physically hurt you?

  • Have friends and family members warned you about this person?

  • Two: Nobody deserves this.

  • Everyone deserves to be safe.

  • In other words, build your army.

  • Try to spend as little time as possible alone with your abusive partner.

  • Make sure your friends and family notice around you at this time.

  • Have them call you to check in on your periodically, and always let them know where youre going.

  • Youre also pretty emotionally vulnerable right now.

  • Use these people's support.

  • Let them remind you why you should be treated well.

  • You deserved to be in a company of people who actually care about your safety.

  • After all, this situation is not your fault!

  • It has everything to do with your partner’s emotional problems.

  • Something you cannot even begin to fix.

  • Step three: Plan a safe break up.

  • Tell people close to youfamily, friendsthat youre planning on getting out of this relationship.

  • Be as honest with them as possible and tell them that youre going to need their help in the coming weeks.

  • Next, figure out how youre gonna deliver the news.

  • If youre scared of your partner’s reaction, you do not have to do this in person!

  • Again, normal healthy relationship rules, do not apply here.

  • If you do decide to meet in person, please bring someone with you and do it in public.

  • This should be a short conversation.

  • Explain that youre leaving and explain why... once!

  • It’s your decision, not your partner’s.

  • Don’t change your story, make excuses, or apologize.

  • Then, leave quickly.

  • Take your army. Go do something that makes you feel happy and healthy with the people that you love.

  • Four: Turn to someone who’s in a position to help you out.

  • There are a lot of great resources out there for this type of situation.

  • Again, you don’t have to go through this alone.

  • Reach out to people you trust.

  • All the better if it's someone who has experience or ability to help you.

  • If youre too scared to talk to someone you know, contact one of these three resources.

  • Ahh! Well... that’s all for me to do, Wellcasters!

  • Would you do me a kindness?

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First things first, Wellcasters!

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