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  • Hey, guys. It's Bex here. Has forgiveness become a four-letter word in your life? Well,

  • stick around for my four-minute meditation on letting go of anger.

  • I want to share a little story about something that happened just ten minutes before shooting

  • this video today. I was on a car ride with my husband and the universe once again gave

  • me an opportunity to learn a lesson. About ten minutes into our ride, he did something

  • that really got on my nerves, and I decided --irrationally so -- to be really angry about

  • it. I gave him the silent treatment. I sat there and pouted for the entire car ride.

  • Then something really interesting happened. About 35 minutes into the ride, I looked over

  • and he was fast asleep, snoring. So my anger that I wanted him so badly to feel was really

  • all inside of me, and I was the only one being affected by it. He was totally cool.

  • So to hopefully prevent you from making the same mistake I did, I'm going to lead you

  • through a little meditation that will help you to turn your anger into something beautiful.

  • Let's get started by finding our easy seat. You can be in a chair or on a pillow -- wherever

  • is comfortable for you. You can sit in lotus, half-lotus or one foot in front of the other.

  • Inhale your shoulders up to your ears and then exhale your shoulder blades down your

  • spine. This will have you sitting up nice and tall. Place your hands downturned on your

  • knees or upturned to receive the energy around you.

  • Close your eyes and start to pay attention to your breath. No need to change the pattern

  • of your breathing. Just observe the natural rhythm of your inhales and your exhales.

  • On the subject of forgiveness, there's a very interesting quote that's often attributed

  • to Buddha, but most likely came after him. It compares anger to a hot coal that we hold

  • in our hand with the intention of throwing it at another person, but really only burning

  • ourselves in the end. That was exactly what happened on my car ride

  • tonight. I was holding onto this anger, this hot coal, with the intention of affecting

  • my husband, but really only ruining my own experience, making the moment miserable for

  • myself. I did a little research on coal and ashes,

  • and what's left behind a fire is burned. When I look at my fireplace, I see these beautiful,

  • hot pieces of wood -- these little coals, that are certainly beautiful to look at, but

  • I wouldn't want to touch them. So that's the anger. That's the coal we're holding in our

  • hand. In this research, I learned that you can take

  • ashes -- coal -- put it in soil, and fertilize your garden. This will help to amend very

  • acidic soil and allow breathing room for plants to grow. So this coal -- this anger -- when

  • given away frees us from pain and the energy can be rechanneled, repurposed, to grow something

  • beautiful. How awesome is that? I want you to imagine yourself literally holding

  • a piece of coal. You have this coal in your hand. You're placing it into the ground, and

  • you're watching a beautiful flower, or maybe even a tree full of flowers, grow from the

  • soil. Your anger is gone. You are free, and you have given life to something beautiful.

  • See the flower. See what you've grown. One last inhale to open your eyes.

  • Did you see it? Did you see the flower? That's what it takes: this change of mindset. I know

  • some things are so big hard and so hard to forget and to forgive. But if you practice

  • every day to let go of that, to understand that it's really not the other person who

  • you're hurting -- that it's you who you're hurting with your anger, holding on to that

  • resentment or that grudge -- then maybe you'll be able to release it just a little.

  • Remember the hot coal. Give it away. Release yourself from the pain and let something else

  • beautiful grow. Thank you so much for joining me for this

  • meditation. If you have a request or a topic for another meditation, go ahead and leave

  • it in the comments below. I love you and I'll see you around.

  • Remember to subscribe for new free videos every single week and visit me at BexLife.com.

  • Or you can stick around for a little bit longer and click on the thumbnail on the left for

  • another meditation, or on the thumbnail on the right for an exclusive BexLife workout.

Hey, guys. It's Bex here. Has forgiveness become a four-letter word in your life? Well,

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