Name: Stop Dating Your Issues
Uploaded: 2020-12-03T19:35:10.000Z
Duration: 6 min 8 s
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- My dating history is a hot mess inside of a dumpster fire,

inside a train wreck, swirled up in a tornado.

All of the lessons that I needed to learn over the years

Like, oh yeah, I dated my family dynamic,

my fear of commitment,  my bad boundaries,

my fear of commitment,  my low sense of self worth,

my fear of commitment, my fear of commitment,

Which all things considered is a little ironic.

I've always deeply yearned to be a wife and a mother.

And I joke that cats are really great birth control

- Well, you've known that cat for 11 years.

- You've known that baby, what, like three weeks?

It seems pretty easy, just rehome the baby.

through every major adult moment of your entire life.

Your marriage, your divorce, your second marriage.

That cat is the longest standing relationship

Just rehome the baby and then make another one.

- But I have finally accepted on a conscious level

that subconsciously I have sought out people

ensuring that our relationship will never go anywhere,

And there's one event I remember in particular

and my mom had recently shaved her head when she was drunk.

because she was raising three children alone

while my dad was overseas fighting a war or whatever,

Don't make the mistake I made, be ambitious.

hearing these words from my distraught mom.

(laughing) You are such a loser mom (laughing).

I laughed in her face and then ran outside

to play basketball because kids are assholes.

I was also the only girl on Juniper Berry Street.

Clearly physically inferior when it came to sports ball.

So I'd try to throw off the neighborhood kids

- I don't play the game, I play the players.

For a lot of us, relationships are the way

And we fall into the trap of dating those lessons.

And sometimes the lessons  are so obvious

that everyone we love wants to eye roll into oblivion.

- And look, our issues are never going away.

outside of any healthy, romantic relationships

And I say this from 15 years of experience

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Stop Dating Your Issues

anxiety

entire

conscious

incredibly