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  • Oh, why does she look at me like that?

  • The boss called.

  • I'm so scared.

  • The party is tomorrow.

  • I'm so afraid of meeting new people.

  • Yep, emotions can complicate your life and keep you from getting what you really want.

  • So here's some psychological tips to help you always keep the situation under control.

  • First, let's begin with learning to control yourself.

  • Try these count upto 100 So you've been preparing pizza for a party all day.

  • You made perfectly thin dough prepared, delicious filling, and then one of your friends at the party tries it and says, It's disgusting.

  • Everything is boiling inside you.

  • You're ready to say things that could end your friendship for good.

  • But the truth is that he just can't stand Parmesan cheese that you added to the pizza.

  • To avoid unnecessary conflict, try to count to 100.

  • No need to count to the end, but as long as you're recalling the numbers, you distract yourself from negative emotions and have a look at the situation with a clear mind.

  • Breathe in and out, and even more effective way to calm yourself is breathing exercises to something bother you.

  • Are you angry or embarrassed.

  • Just take a long, deep breath for four seconds.

  • After that, exhale for four more seconds.

  • Repeat 4 to 5 times and the storm in your head will subside.

  • Pay attention to your body Gestures and facial expressions.

  • Speak a lot more than words.

  • Your boss may scream at you and ruin your mood for the whole day because you take negativity too hard.

  • Try to focus on your body when stressed out.

  • You're probably clenching your fists or frowning right now.

  • As soon as you notice and realize this immediately, try to relax.

  • Your mind will take the cue from your body, and you will learn to ignore any negative words addressed to you changed the topic of conversation.

  • You're speaking with a very difficult opponent who's not just causing anger or stress inside you, but annoys you, too.

  • Wow.

  • Or maybe they make you talk about something absolutely unpleasant.

  • In this case, you should try to direct the conversation in another direction.

  • This is easily achieved by saying something like, You know, I suppose our opinions differ here.

  • Let's better discuss the finale of the game of Thrones, the penguin population, the benefits of unleavened bread just about anything to divert attention from the topic.

  • Get distracted.

  • Hasn't been a hard day at work or school.

  • Are you loathing everyone around and just boiling inside?

  • This mood is familiar to many.

  • The best way to deal with it is to distract yourself, at least for a while.

  • Watch a movie, read a book.

  • Dance Sports is the best option, though Training will not only let off your steam but improve blood circulation in the brain, and this will help solve any problem.

  • Meditate every day, more and more people turn to meditation, and it really helps.

  • There are a lot of instructions and books about meditation on the Internet, so I won't bore you with details.

  • Just keep in mind that it helps to be aware of your inner self and your environment.

  • Look at things from another angle.

  • It's human to blame everybody except yourself, I know, but if you take a critical look at the situation, you might come to another conclusion.

  • Most likely, both sides are to blame after all.

  • For example, if you had a fight with a friend, don't hurry and put yourself in their shoes.

  • You'll soon find it easier to look at any problem from both sides and learn to resolve difficult situations calmly.

  • Remember your best When you're upset about something or mad at yourself, try to recall everything you've done really well.

  • For example, you've got a C minus for your test instead of getting all upset, remember how hard you worked to prepare for it and that all your previous test got at least a B.

  • Your green negative thoughts are more numerous during the day than positive ones.

  • Try to control them.

  • By the way.

  • Meditation helps here, too.

  • Reschedule stress.

  • When you're scared or worried about something, tell yourself I'll worry about this tomorrow morning.

  • But now I have more important things to D'oh.

  • The stress will pass, and the coolest thing is that you won't even remember it the next morning.

  • Okay, now that you've learned to control yourself, you can control the situation.

  • Lead the dialogue, win people over and achieve what you want.

  • Here's some advice.

  • Be empathetic.

  • Try to read the other person's emotions and guess their desires.

  • Don't overdo it, though.

  • You should be a little detached from other people's problems, worrying about other people's needs all the time.

  • is a bit tiring, especially in a relationship.

  • Remember that giving too much leads to emotional exhaustion.

  • Any energy that you give to your partner should be given back.

  • Make use of names.

  • Call the person you were talking to by name.

  • They'll be pleased this way.

  • You show that you listen to and respect their opinion.

  • This is a very effective technique in any negotiations yet again.

  • Don't go overboard with it.

  • If you say the person's name too much, it will have the opposite effect.

  • And they may even think you're making fun of them.

  • Disagree positively.

  • You're in a business meeting, arguing with the person you're looking to make a big deal with.

  • They offer you conditions you can't accept if you don't want to spoil the deal, Don't just say I disagree.

  • Be positive and say instead I agree with you.

  • But here's the problem.

  • And tell them why you disagree.

  • There's a good chance they'll hear you out and agree with your point.

  • Bring gifts.

  • Even the smallest gift can change a person's attitude towards you.

  • Big time.

  • Even if it's just a doughnut or chocolate bar, they will be pleased.

  • Provide illusion of control If you want to make someone do something, then give that person the illusion of choice.

  • For example, your younger brother should wash the windows but doesn't want to do it.

  • Don't ask him directly.

  • Offer him a choice, either washing the windows or mowing the lawn.

  • There's no actual need for the ladder, but you know your brother loathes it.

  • So he'll agree to wash the windows because he thinks he has a choice.

  • Be confident people believe you when you do things confidently, even if you don't know how to draw, Do it as if you've been the winner of international painting exhibitions for many years.

  • People will be delighted with your confidence and look at your pictures differently.

  • Beware, though, and use this trick in situations where knowledge is really needed.

  • For example, when calculating math equations follow the 10 minute rule.

  • If it's really hard for you to start doing necessary work, say to write an article, you should try the 10 minute rule.

  • Set a timer for 10 minutes and start working until this time ends.

  • This psychological trick helps you to start your brain thinks only 10 minutes.

  • Okay, nothing to worry about and When you begin, you'll realize you're making progress, and now it's much easier to finish the job.

  • Ask for more Mr.

  • It came straight from marketing.

  • For example, you're trying to sell your by asked for a large amount immediately.

  • If you want to sell it for $1000 then ask for $3000.

  • Obviously, the potential buyer won't agree.

  • Then, when you've lowered the price to 1000 they'll think they've made you knock it down and happily pay the money.

  • If you ask for $1000 straight away, you'll have to lower it eventually.

  • And finally this winning technique smile.

  • Yes, a simple smile can break an awkward pause and make a person feel comfortable.

  • However, try to smile sincerely and don't do it too often.

  • And of all the stuff you do really be honest and genuine about it.

  • Strive to make a connection with him, and you'll be amazed at your results.

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